Question about sending fiance money

[jared619 0]

I have a question about the fact that I have been financially supporting my fiance for a while now. We've met in person and all so it's not a question about if she is taking advantage of me. In fact she never asked for the help, I offered on my own. The question is will this bring up any red flags at the interview. I helped her get her own apartment because she was having issues with her parents. She's afraid if the embassy knows she is being supported financially by me that they will think we don't have a legitimate relationship. My attitude is we don't have to volunteer any info, but if they ask we just have to be honest and explain the situation. She's afraid they will know I help her because she has her own apartment. She wants to say that she lives with her aunt, but I told her that we cannot lie at all ever, but she's still nervous. I'm about 8 and half years older than her; she's mid twenties, I'm early 30's. Do you think we will have any problems?

[Ronn63 41]

I don't think that will raise any issues. My fiance brought the Western Union receipts as evidence of my support for her. I think it's actually a good thing. It shows that you want to support your fiance!! My 2 cents worth.

[khwaidee1 196]

I don't think that will raise any issues. My fiance brought the Western Union receipts as evidence of my support for her. I think it's actually a good thing. It shows that you want to support your fiance!! My 2 cents worth.

Agreed. My wife stopped working some time ago and was taking care of her parents when we met and working in her sister's little shop in the village. I offered to help out and also paid her nephew's school fees. We provided the Western Union receipts as well as evidence that I had been, and was willing to continue, taking care of my then fiancee. However, a few VJers warned me that it be a red flag to do so after I sent in our petition. Never came up in the interview.

[Bri & Mar 12]

We included Western union receipts in our mountain of paperwork for the interview but support never came up. Remember that in the Philippines it is common, and in some cases expected, that foreign spouses, fiancees, and workers financially aid their family in the Philippines. Overseas remittances accounted for 8.5 percent of the Philippines total economic output in 2012.

[jared619 0]

thanks for all your replies. I guess we're also a bit worried because I started helping about a month after we first met online so we're afraid that might look bad.

[Hank_ 9,174]

I have a question about the fact that I have been financially supporting my fiance for a while now. We've met in person and all so it's not a question about if she is taking advantage of me. In fact she never asked for the help, I offered on my own. The question is will this bring up any red flags at the interview. I helped her get her own apartment because she was having issues with her parents. She's afraid if the embassy knows she is being supported financially by me that they will think we don't have a legitimate relationship. My attitude is we don't have to volunteer any info, but if they ask we just have to be honest and explain the situation. She's afraid they will know I help her because she has her own apartment. She wants to say that she lives with her aunt, but I told her that we cannot lie at all ever, but she's still nervous. I'm about 8 and half years older than her; she's mid twenties, I'm early 30's. Do you think we will have any problems?

The embassy does not care if you are assisting your fiancée, doubt they will even ask. Trust me the list is long and varied of those on here assisting there fiancée. Its not an issue. You will find many topics on here about XOOM and Western Union as sending money is a common occurrence.

For sure DO NOT LIE during the interview, there is no quicker way to get denied a visa then to be caught in a lie. Your fiancée just needs to relax and understand what you are doing to help her is very common.

I would not call 8.5 years age difference an issue at all, there are many on here with much larger age gap. Heck if you search you will find topics on just that. The embassy will not care about that either. For a fair number you could put a 2 in front of that for age gap.

Edited July 8, 2013 by Hank_

[duraaraa 203]

I think it depends on how it is perceived.

If they perceive it that the relationship exists because the money is being sent, it would look bad.

If they perceive it that the money is being sent because the relationship exists, it would look good.

I sent money to my fiancee to pay for the visa/medical/etc fees. I also sent money because my stepson was in the hospital and needed pricey shots/medicine. If I recall correctly, she did tell them that I sent money for such things at the interview, and I made it quite clear that I had been sending money for such things and had bought the plane tickets with my own money to the embassy via email as well. They were even willing to give the kids an earlier interview date so that I could save money on the flight. It was never a problem, and the visas were all approved with short interviews.

Of course, your mileage may vary.

Edited July 8, 2013 by duraaraa

[baron555 934]

thanks for all your replies. I guess we're also a bit worried because I started helping about a month after we first met online so we're afraid that might look bad.

It does look bad.........you could be seen as attempting to "buy" a fiance.

That said, if your have plent of other evidence of your relationship then it doesn't look bad.

thanks for all your replies. I guess we're also a bit worried because I started helping about a month after we first met online so we're afraid that might look bad.

Especially if you started to send money BEFORE you met in person.

Why would anyone send money to someone they never met in person? Just a rhetorical question.

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

Do not lie, ever. Lying to the CO and on her forms should make her way more nervous than you giving her money. She should list the address she really lives at. You do not have to offer up the support as proof of relationship, but if asked directly, she should tell the truth about it.