Redflags (merged)

[julitathomas0810 30]

I know the proof of a relationship is not required , but many add this . I have added this to my I-129F . I am having thoughts that may be normal at this stage of waiting . I have growing fears after reading denial stories at the embassy level . I have heard that basically the CO already has a decision based upon the file you sent in to USCIS . I guess this is a reason to front load the petition ? . They will have a set of questions from any red flags that may cause to question the relationship . At this point would they look at the ongoing information you have for the relationship ? Maybe I am just nervous about our red flags . We do have them and they will be obvious to the CO . I just pray that we sent in enough and that they will see ours as a true relationship .

What may be red flags to our petition . I was married to my now ex-wife who is a Filipino . She over stayed her tourist visa from 1999 for ten years . When I met her in the states we dated for a year then we were married . I filed a I-130 for her in 2009 and then applied to bring her two children here . We past all the interviews with no problems and the children came over again with no problems . Back then VSC was working well and our petitions were approved very quickly . Only had one interview in Newark NJ and it was a breeze . Lasted like two minutes and we were out the door and never heard from them again . However our marriage started to fall a part . The last two years were horrible and we split up for 8 months before the divorce . The reasons being to due with my ex wife's sexual preference . She was into to things that I just could not support in the relationship . This effected my life a great deal and I screwed up a good job over it . I was in this relationship for true reasons if she was I do not know at this point that part of my life is over .

I had little choice and moved to Florida to be closer to family . With everything that happened to my life in 2012 I was able to find God in my life . Ever since that day in April my life has been truly turning around . I was able to get a hearing set this June 26th to get my job back . I was fired while on disability which from what I understand is against the law . However there are some grey areas that may hurt me . Anyway my chances are good for the job and back pay . I have been waiting almost ten months and the day is almost here .

During these ten months I met my fiancee' . We talked for a few months and I decided to travel to meet her . Which to me was very hard to do . I was always fearful of going to the Philippines . Always heard stories about being abducted or something . Well long story short . I decided to put away my fears and travel to meet her . My discovery was a country that is truly amazing ! The people are very nice from the minute I landed to the day I left . The food was wonderful and I really enjoyed my time there . Spending three weeks with my fiancee' was a wonderful experience . We really connected very well and when I returned home we continued the relationship .

To my other red flag . Early on in our relationship my fiancee' made a mistake . An old boyfriend of hers came back into the picture . She got pregnant by him and told me shortly after . She was afraid I would leave her from her mistake . At first reaction I was going to do just that . As I stated having the faith I have forgiveness was in my heart to give . However this left the relationship in questions and the trust had to be rebuilt . Seven months later things are much better now and we plan to raise this baby together . The father wants nothing to do with the baby at all . The baby is innocent and I plan to raise her as I would my own child . We have named the baby together which was really nice . I even started to buy little dresses and teddy bears . We found out recently that she is having a girl . She was so happy and we named her together Isabel . I posted in the past that this baby might be mine . More then likely it will not which is fine . Right now I just want all of us reunited so we can be a family and start our lives .

This journey has kept me up at night . Thinking of what to do making posts to find the answers . My first thought was let her go to the interview alone . If we get denied then make plans to withdraw and be married in the Philippines . Would going to the interview make the difference ? Am I staying up nights thinking way too much ?

So far this what I have been working on to show the CO . A letter of acknowledgement that I desire to still marry her with full knowledge about the baby . We have conversations about the baby . Doctor bills that I supported her with . Of course on going relationship proof . Will they even look at all of this ? Should I send this in before the interview to the embassy ? I think its best that I attend the interview . We have a bone fied relationship and just pray that they see it that way too ! I try not to worry about all of this , but sometimes it gets the better of me .

[nj27 2]

This sounds TMI. Do you really need to give that level of detail to the US Embassy? If they ask, yes you should, but it seems like you are doing it upfront.

I may be completely off base so I would defer to the experienced members here, but perhaps try sticking to the important details like proof of relationship and the affidavit of support and making sure your financials are in order.

Infidelity happens. More importantly can you prove that you have a true relationship, will get married within 90 days of her entering the US, and will you be able to financially support her and your new baby together (does it really matter to the USEM who's baby it is? I've seen posts from plenty of people here who will be bringing children that they've had in the past and not with the USC. I think the USEM just wants to make sure you can support both of them and they wont be a burden on us taxpayers).

[julitathomas0810 30]

This sounds TMI. Do you really need to give that level of detail to the US Embassy? If they ask, yes you should, but it seems like you are doing it upfront.

I may be completely off base so I would defer to the experienced members here, but perhaps try sticking to the important details like proof of relationship and the affidavit of support and making sure your financials are in order.

Infidelity happens. More importantly can you prove that you have a true relationship, will get married within 90 days of her entering the US, and will you be able to financially support her and your new baby together (does it really matter to the USEM who's baby it is? I've seen posts from plenty of people here who will be bringing children that they've had in the past and not with the USC. I think the USEM just wants to make sure you can support both of them and they wont be a burden on us taxpayers).

No I am not going to do it upfront . If they ask , yes I will tell them . We will have all our information proof and what not . I am just concerned about this and being honest here to get the best advice . Your reply was what I needed to read . What I was thinking of anyway . Thanks

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

I think you may have a difficult time getting approved.

If your 2 red flags (I agree they are major potential red flags) come to light, they would affect your case.

The first marriage seems like an sham marriage that last just long enough to get the woman and her kids all set up in the US. I'm not saying that's what it was, just what it looks like.

The second thing may be a game changer if it came out. If they ask about the kid's father and it's not you and the kid was conceived while you were a couple, that's going to be tough to explain how your relationship is real if the woman sleeps with other men.

If I were you, I'd have Plan B ready because Plan A may be a longshot in my opinion.

Edited June 16, 2013 by Eric-Pris

[Azsara 110]

Amazing story and testimony to God, bless you both and your life together

[Hank_ 9,174]

Information over-load!

~ Never DO DO when DO will DO!

Way too much DO DO .

1) Beyond the documents and evidence required the embassy only provide answers to questions asked at the embassy.

2) What happened with your EX has little if anything to do with what you are doing now. Your EX would be the one under the microscope if EVER that were to happen. So leave that stuff at the curb... unless asked specifically about it.

3) As for the pregnancy, if your fiancée has not delivered the baby by interview time... let sleeping dog lie... say nothing regarding an old boyfriend stopping by for a "visit" one day and that you are fine with it. Now if the baby is born before the interview you have a new issue, she is not listed on the K-1 so there will be NO visa for her and she will have to stay behind and you will have to apply to bring her later... or you stop the process until after the birth and start all anew later.

4) Employment; hard to sponsor your fiancée without a job, so hope all goes well there. Manila is not known for accepting co-sponsors with the K-1 (even though there are a few approved with co-sponsors that I know of)

5) Petitioner being present at the interview, in your case - yup it may be a good thing. Just don't DO DO.... what may be lingering in your mind may not be an issue in the CO minds... unless you speak.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

If the baby born before the interview then your case is "temporary" screwed,because you can't tell the child is yours, they may ask DNA tests, and if you tell the kid is not yours probably they won't believe you have a genuine relationship with your girlfriend, why? well infidelity it seems not right for most of the people and not even display of love.Good luck...you will need that, big time.

[Jawaree 717]

A pregnant couple had interview date changed to after babys birth for DNA test

here....I'd wait until the time comes to answer questions...be at the interview too,

but I would proceed as normal while collecting docs to explain all red-flags..

be truthful....but if it aint broke don't fix it.

[Bugs 455]

If they don't ask, don't tell. But do tell if they do, with documentation. To lie will get you and her in trouble.

[PandaMaker 24]

Did she get pregnant before or after you filed the I-129F? I thought I remember reading about your story before.

[duraaraa 203]

The fact that it is your second marriage to a foreigner... I don't think that is a problem at all.

The fact that she got pregnant by another man while in a relationship with you, and you forgave her? Huge, huge red flag.

You can try, and she might pass, but this is not just a regular red flag -- it's enough reason for nearly anyone to believe the relationship to be a scam, and it will be tough to overcome that, even with all the evidence in the world.

[BaBamSam 239]

Previous marriage to a foreigner will be a question and that's it - typically.

The second flag you have is not a flag - it's a wailing raid siren. Getting pregnant by another man while dating you and applying to come over to marry you is going to look like a textbook case of a sham marriage. I am not saying that it is a sham or that I don't believe you have a true loving relationship (it does not matter what I think or don't), but the officer will not see this as OK. I would immediately start preparing a Plan B because the odds of Plan A working are just so so so small if they find out the baby is not biologically yours.

Regardless, I wish you, your fiancee, and your soon-to-be child the best of luck with this difficult situation.

[julitathomas0810 30]

What happens if we are denied at the interview . Lets say for relationship reasons . I mean how would this denial hurt us in the future for the CR1 ?

[julitathomas0810 30]

At the Manila embassy and you are denied the K1 visa what are the chances of being married and filing the CR 1 ?

[Boiler 45,486]

That would depend on many factors, the main one being why you were denied.