Fiance betrays me

[mRx 16]

wow no sense of humor. Narrow minded? For laughing at farting? or calling you pops?

Apparently, your foot in your big mouth prevented you from seeing my response, so here it is again:

Do you really think you're speaking for ALL the young people? I won't call you immature. I'll call you narrow minded.

got it now Trey. Thank you for clarifying that for me. So... let me rephrase. Farting is funny to me and me only.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Honestly, looking at that stomach, that wasn't the first thing that came to mind.

Go wash your hands brother and forgive me for straying you to the dark side.

What dark side? I was just wondering if that was a natural tan or not.

[mrc 0]

Laura looks like a real nice girl...

[GREEN/TRAN 0]

i say she was suduced ,its the americans fault.she told you so forgive her and forget about it.

[mRx 16]

Laura looks like a real nice girl...

except that she totally hijacked this thread

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Honestly, looking at that stomach, that wasn't the first thing that came to mind.

Go wash your hands brother and forgive me for straying you to the dark side.

Is this an example of Boys will be boys?

I just thought this thread needed a lift.

Can I say something serious for a moment? Ehem... Being here on VJ has really opened my eyes to the different views and takes on relationships and marriage. There are the romantic idealists (I tend to lean that way) and the pragmatists. The trouble often seems to be when a romantic idealist goes about looking for love in all the wrong places or being convinced that it can be bought and sold as a commodity. At least the pragmatist knows why he/she is going through such non-traditional routes to find a partner. That isn't to say that a pragmatist can't establish a lasting and loving relationship, it's just that they don't fool themselves into believing in the marketing. To each his own but if you're going to use such methods in finding a partner, don't be surprised if the product isn't quite the way it's protrayed on the package.

I commend the OP for being open to all opinions and that was on my mind.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

i say she was suduced ,its the americans fault.

Is that how it works?

[Mary Lou 681]

Honestly, looking at that stomach, that wasn't the first thing that came to mind.

Go wash your hands brother and forgive me for straying you to the dark side.

Is this an example of Boys will be boys?

I just thought this thread needed a lift.

Can I say something serious for a moment? Ehem... Being here on VJ has really opened my eyes to the different views and takes on relationships and marriage. There are the romantic idealists (I tend to lean that way) and the pragmatists. The trouble often seems to be when a romantic idealist goes about looking for love in all the wrong places or being convinced that it can be bought and sold as a commodity. At least the pragmatist knows why he/she is going through such non-traditional routes to find a partner. That isn't to say that a pragmatist can't establish a lasting and loving relationship, it's just that they don't fool themselves into believing in the marketing. To each his own but if you're going to use such methods in finding a partner, don't be surprised if the product isn't quite the way it's protrayed on the package.

I commend the OP for being open to all opinions and that was on my mind.

[Mike and Lily 13]

Thanks for the inspiration. I really think the age issue is not that big of a deal right now. Maybe it would be later on in life. I am in better shape than many 25 year olds, but that's not the point. We do have things in common and have plenty to talk about. (and we do) However I would have a problem if she came to the USA and fell for a young stud muffin. I don't have a problem if she comes to the USA looking for a better life, as long as that life is with me. Maybe I am just being selfish that way, but that is the way I feel. Who needs to go through 9 mos. of USCIS hell only to get hurt.

Mike

Dear Mike,

First.... Nobody knows your situation and shouldn't be giving you counseling here at V.J.

So what I would like to do is tell you about my situation with my wife.

Lorna is in the Philippines, is 24 and loves me like crazy. I'm 56. I wasn't looking for a young girl but she saw my profile and pursued me.

I lover her with all my heart and hope our relationship lasts forever.

We had a jealousy issue in the beginning of our relationship. It was over nothing really, but made me realize that we needed a bigger power in our lives. God of course! I then talked to Lorna about this and we decided to put our relationship into Gods hands and we prayed...... We payed to God that we wanted his will..... his blessings. After we were done praying, I told Lorna that if our relationship WAS NOT God's will, then I wanted it to end. She agreed.

After that our love for each other grew stronger and stronger and the jealousy disappeared. And most importantly, I felt in my heart that if Lorna was not supposed to be with me.... I was ok with that because of how important God's wil is to me. I told Lorna that if we only lasted a week or a month or a year, I would enjoy my time with her and thank God for this time together.

If she gets to the USA and for some reason falls for a young stud muffin, I'm ok with that.

Things change..... people change..... I'm ever changing. So who is to say what will happen tomorrow. It's in God's hands.

Lorna is very mature for her age and I'm an old rock n roller so I am VERY young at heart. We both love music and we both love God. She is attracted to an older man like many filipinas and thinks guys her age are way to immature. She loves my knowledge of life since I've been "around the block" more than a few times. I am an old soul.

In our relationship, sometimes I'm like a father, sometimes like her brother. I'm a best friend husband and lover. She brings youth to the table. I love it. She keeps me awake and energized and reminds me to be alive and live.

As a young girl, a kid really, she will make her mistakes. There is so much she doesn't know about or understand.

She will try things...... She will make mistakes in her journey. I know cuz I sure made mistakes in my long life. I have to be patient, understanding, FORGIVING, and be there for here when she falls.

Its not up to me how bad her mistake is. What's important is that she truly loves me, will tell me the truth and communicate with me...... AND loves her God!

I want here to be able to live her life to the fullest. I can help. Hopefully I can teach her some of the "dos" and "do nots" in this crazy world.

As far as age difference. We talked about that and I let her know that I will prepare her for when I die since I am much older, and will prepare here so she can go on, find another good man and continue on with this wonderful life that God has blessed her with. She will have my home, my money and my knowledge to take with her on her journey. That will be my legacy.

I like to pray about important things like this and then put it in Gods hands. He ALWAYS guides me and gives me direction. Sure is easier than me going by my stupid decisions! hehehe!

God bless you Mike!

[mRx 16]

why did you put "fiance makes out with someone else" into your timeline?

[Mags 112]

why did you put "fiance makes out with someone else" into your timeline?

He's upset. *shrugs* People deal in different ways.

[mRx 16]

come on mags not like that.

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

Well, it just happened yesterday, he's upset. Though I know exactly what you mean. Not the typical timeline entry is it?

[mRx 16]

Well, it just happened yesterday, he's upset. Though I know exactly what you mean. Not the typical timeline entry is it?

exactly... u dont put that in your timeline. An event like that is not something to broadcast. To flaunt. I am trying to find an analogy, but cant seem to find an appropriate one.

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

it's like art - titled betrayl begets betrayal.

Edited November 27, 2006 by jane2005