I hate Sundays.

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Im not sure why. Now I loved sundays when I was with my wife. But prior to that I wasn't a fan, and since we separated I really, really dislike them. Is sunday generally an unpopular day?

Prior to my marriage the main reason I didn't like sunday was because it meant you were closer to monday. I was never particularly overly fond of any of my jobs over the years, except for maybe two. I used to look forward to the weekend all week and then on sunday it had always seemed like it had flown by. I think I used to find them frustrating becuase on one hand I really wanted to make the most of them, having work the next day, yet on the other hand I wanted to relax and not do too much as I had work the next day.

But anyways, thats why I didn't like them before. I think now its for different reasons and I haven't quite figured them out. I know last sunday I felt so down I felt like, and almost did cry a couple of times. Im going to just throw out, in no particular order some of the reasons I think I dislike them so much now,

I miss my wife so much on Sundays, more than any other day I think. Maybe this was because sundays were our relaxing day together, when we were perhaps at our closest. We probably spent most time together on sundays. Going to church, going grocery shopping, and then just hanging out. Sundays are the days when I really, really have to resist calling my ex. She says I can call anytime, but I dont know, I kinda want her to show she wants to talk to me. And if I call and she doesn't answer I think I would feel even more rejected and sad .

I think taking my wife specifically out of the equation, I find sundays terribly lonely. Its so quiet everywhere on a sunday. There really isnt a lot going on. No body ever wants to go anywhere or do anything, infact on most sundays I often go the whole day without getting to talk to anyone.

I think all week I am distracted by work you know, it keeps me busy, im in the company of folk all day. I think sundays I feel everything again all of a sudden, I kind of feel particularly sensitive. For example the other day I sat down with my parents to watch a DVD, I don't remember the title - had Robert Redford, Morgan Freeman and J Lopez. I couldn't watch it. The beautiful scenery reminded me too much of my ex's home up in North Idaho, I instantly felt homesick and sad. I still get that, there are some things I just don't like or can't watch, and I know its silly. Like NCIS for example, my soon to be ex wife was in the Navy. I actually enjoyed being a navy spouse etc, but I can't watch that show and I don't know why. This sounds really petty im sure, but since I found out for certain that she is already seeing someone else now, and I know it is a Navy guy...man I hate even saying this, it is so stupid, but when I see Navy guys on that show I get jealous...how dumb is that???

(ok how wierd is that, talk of the devil...I just this second got a reply of "thank-you" to my "happy thanksgiving" message i sent her a few days ago. See this takes alot of will power. I get a text like that and I think.. is she expecting me to call her now? should i call her? No....she wouldnt have just sent a curt reply like that if she wanted me to call her.....but why send it now days later....anyways)

I think I need to find some regular activities or something to do on sundays to take my mind of everything and end the boredom.

Sorry for the rant, I dont know. I think I am just so frustrated. I got a great new job...had some interest from a couple of girls (thats gone nowhere by the way), im getting my own place soon, surely I should be happy right? I mean I am not full on depressed, but Im just not happy and Im not sure what the answer is. Maybe I just need to strengthen my mind and heart to ride out these tough days I get every now and then. Maybe its just a case of waiting. Perhaps because I can see that the healing has started to happen, and that things are going well as far as work etc that Im just getting impatient to get to the end, and get to the happy and over everything stage. I can't figure it out!!

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

Hang in there buddy. At least everyday is not like Sunday

[Savanphil 3]

I'm sorry Sunday brings you such sad memories and reminds you of your divorce.

[Carlawarla 1]

My fiance has a difficult time on Sundays as well. I think it's because Sunday is looked at as being the last day of the week. I'm sure he's thinking it's another week he had without me. As well, back to work Monday. He told me though, that even as a child he had difficulty falling asleep on Sunday nights. Worried about school, what he had to do during the week. I think his mind races with tasks, and this upsets his stomach.

Because of this, I did some googling one week, and found this is a VERY common ailment for North American's!

I've suggested to him, not watching 60 Minutes Sunday evening (that's usually a way to ramp anyone up!), relaxing Sunday evening. Talking to me on the phone before bedtime. Thinking of Sunday's as the beginning of the new week, in which we're one week closer to being together...

Just some thoughts,

Carla

[Fandango 1,439]

Hang in there...it will get better.

How about goin down the pub?

[Mags 112]

Sundays seem to be a more reflective and slower paced day in general. Maybe because of this you have more time to think and dwell on things.

You're right. You need to find something else that you can do that you don't associate with her. Something completely new. Hell, if you have interest from a couple of girls, go on a date with one of them. Doesn't have to be serious. Then maybe this would be the first step of you disassociating Sundays from your wife.

Get out of the house. Go for a drive. Go for a hike. Anything rather than sitting around the house moping. It really won't do you any good to do that.

I have to say that I don't recommend going down the pub... If you mix alcohol with maudlin feelings the effect can often make you feel 10 times worse!

[matako 0]

The solution to these feelings is simple:just go get laid. Whether you are trying to get over an ex or your girl is far away, that always gets the blues away.

[Fandango 1,439]

oi Mags not tellin him to go get ratazzed or anything, but even just sittin there enjoyin the craic might be a good diversion

[Mags 112]

oi Mags not tellin him to go get ratazzed or anything, but even just sittin there enjoyin the craic might be a good diversion

I don't know about him, but I quite fancy going out for a swift half!

[Peikko 1,575]

I take it you are back in the UK. If you were still in the US, I would suggest looking for groups on http://www.meetup.com/. There's pretty much something for everyone and there are Sunday activities for sure.

I guess it depends what you are interested in, I love rambling so Sunday is my time for that and there are many rambling groups around the Uk. However, if that's not your thing... However, I would think that taking up an old activity or trying a new one would help you not only to get out and about but also to interact with new people without any stress of an outside agenda.

Whatever you do to get through this period, I wish you well.

[Fandango 1,439]

oi Mags not tellin him to go get ratazzed or anything, but even just sittin there enjoyin the craic might be a good diversion

I don't know about him, but I quite fancy going out for a swift half!

Swift half, slow half....I'm quite flexible in accommodating either or owt inbetween

[Mags 112]

oi Mags not tellin him to go get ratazzed or anything, but even just sittin there enjoyin the craic might be a good diversion

I don't know about him, but I quite fancy going out for a swift half!

Swift half, slow half....I'm quite flexible in accommodating either or owt inbetween

Judging by Santa's condition in your siggy, he had a VERY LOOOONG half...or ten.