Vawa part 4

[howtosurvive 43]

To each is own. Abd when I said call ur abuse I meant give him a shocker I didbt say she should reconcile and when I need info I call my lawyer because too much people on her have JD. Sometimes talk need to read with understanding and so attacking and assuming. All I was trying to do was calm her down. Aggression is not a way to answer someone.

[Samusbbz 0]

I have been waiting for over a year for a response, one year ago my lawyer mailed in my VAWA and on October I received an RFE for proof of marriage of good faith. Since then I haven't heard anything.

My lawyer says the odds of me getting approved are only 40-50% because there are no police reports and my spouse cheated on me with 3 other people while we were together, I sent in my medical records which state I suffered from PTSD and was emotionally traumatized, and that I attended a battered women's support group.

I also sent in a restraining order that I and my mother was granted after my spouse moved out/was kicked out by my parents, along with arrest reports and court documents of my spouse committing assault and battery on other people. Which includes stabbing their father in the arm with a knife, wounding one of the people my spouse cheated on while with me, and destroying property. Oh and most recently witness intimidation and check forgery, they ended up on parole and got arrested again for stabbing their next partner months later, my spouse ended up in prison (second time since they left) until the case was dropped. They were recently arrested again and is being held in prison without bail.

Would the fact my spouse is such a violent nutcase as demonstarted by the arrest and court documents help? Besides those as I mentioned previously I included therapy and medical records where my therapist says I was traumatized and ended up emotionally scarred, along with my restraining order, affidavits from me and my parents and pictures of physical injuries I obtained when my spouse assaulted me. (I did not go to the hospital or call the police in those incidences)

Edited August 20, 2013 by Samusbbz

[anajnic 87]

To each is own. Abd when I said call ur abuse I meant give him a shocker I didbt say she should reconcile and when I need info I call my lawyer because too much people on her have JD. Sometimes talk need to read with understanding and so attacking and assuming. All I was trying to do was calm her down. Aggression is not a way to answer someone.

Girl you said I gave false and misleading info hence I copied and paste Sandranj comments to prove or rather, validate my comment. To each his own is right nevertheless, You can listen to your lawyer but Sandranj is more qualified than any immigration lawyer thus far.

exhibited by the numerous approvals on here.I have none and ddnt need one but if I need to know something I can PM Sandranj and trust and believe , what ever info she gives me will be exactly whats needed.

As for me , I dont suggest calling noo ex after interview, thats insane, to prove what?Anyway, thats that, and im done responding to this

[alicemungai30 3]

Im not googling anything because I WILL NEVER make back with my ex,I have very high self esteem now.. If a dog does not lick his own vomit why should I.. Any who I copied and paste what Sandranj had wrote..SEe below:

"they just deny the AOS if some new fact/proof comes up and Vawa Unit was unaware of the existence such as the alien gets married before Vawa approval, reconciled with the abuser, or if they find out for example the alien's marriage is null and void because the spouse (abuser) did not get divorce from his first wife, and vice versa, and if the alien cannot proof bonafide marriage. Last year the Visa Journey Member " Micandmic" had the AOS denied after her Vawa was approved, because they said she did not have enough proof showing a bonafide marriage, she posted about it".

Dont they check the bona fide marriage n the marriage being null n void before they approve vawa.l thought these,are some of the requirements for vawa approval?

[Godhelpusall 2]

It's my birthday today, just saying,lol. I am going back to work tomorrow after 10 wonderful 10 days off...oh life...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SANDRAJ, happy birthday to you.

[alicemungai30 3]

Hi the august approvals hve ur cases been transferred to local office?

[Sandra G. 5,047]

I saw people being having AOS denied because they reconciled with their abusers,not one,not two, not three times but several times. In 2007 and 2011 two girls asked my help because their petitions for naturalization were denied because they reconciled with their abusers before becoming US.citizen.I could not help them , first because there is anything in the Immigration Law forcing USCIS to approve the naturalization process once they reconciled with the abusers, and second I will never help someone willing to fool the system filing Vawa and reconciling with the perpetrator.

People who reconciles with their abusers need therapy for life,because suffering abuse is not the victim's fault ever, but going back to the abuser shows low self esteem and total disregard to their own lives.When you can't keep self respect you can't respect anyone. As I said many times abusers are the scum of our society!

In memory of all deceased women victims of domestic violence such as Lacy Petterson (murdered in 2002), Kathleen Savio’s (murdered in 2004),Amanda Rinaldi (murdered in 2012) Reeba Steenkamp (murdered in 2013)Jennifer Martel (murdered three days ago),Jennifer Alfonso (murdered 11 days ago) Patricia Waschbisch( domestic violence advocate murdered in April 2013) and all other 1,324 women murdered in 2012 in the U.S we should say NO to violence, and we say NO when we remove ourselves from the abuser's presence.

Edited August 20, 2013 by sandranj

[Sandra G. 5,047]

CC1988 you don't have to ask the scumbag to attend the interview with you, thank God. You will be fine.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Thank you to all who sent me birthday wishes through pm, text messages and posted here.Life is great!

[anajnic 87]

I saw people being having AOS denied because they reconciled with their abusers,not one,not two, not three times but several times. In 2007 and 2011 two girls asked my help because their petitions for naturalization were denied because they reconciled with their abusers before becoming US.citizen.I could not help them , first because there is anything in the Immigration Law forcing USCIS to approve the naturalization process once they reconciled with the abusers, and second I will never help someone willing to fool the system filing Vawa and reconciling with the perpetrator.

People who reconciles with their abusers need therapy for life,because suffering abuse is not the victim's fault ever, but going back to the abuser shows low self esteem and total disregard to their own lives.When you can't keep self respect you can't respect anyone. As I said many times abusers are the scum of our society!

In memory of all deceased women victims of domestic violence such as Lacy Petterson (murdered in 2002), Kathleen Savio’s (murdered in 2004),Amanda Rinaldi (murdered in 2012) Reeba Steenkamp (murdered in 2013)Jennifer Martel (murdered three days ago),Jennifer Alfonso (murdered 11 days ago) Patricia Waschbisch( domestic violence advocate murdered in April 2013) and all other 1,324 women murdered in 2012 in the U.S we should say NO to violence, and we say NO when we remove ourselves from the abuser's presence.

Sooo sad!!.

[citragirl 25]

The violence against women has been increasing in frequency and level of damage, we can't put ourselves at risk by having unnecessary communication with our former abusers. No shocker necessary, that people are not normal they could respond in a very aggressive way. In my aopinion our very best revenge is take control of our lives and be as happy as we can be, and thank God VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) opens a huge door of opportunity for the survivors, guess who is that? US!!!

[peanutbutter 6]

I saw people being having AOS denied because they reconciled with their abusers,not one,not two, not three times but several times. In 2007 and 2011 two girls asked my help because their petitions for naturalization were denied because they reconciled with their abusers before becoming US.citizen.I could not help them , first because there is anything in the Immigration Law forcing USCIS to approve the naturalization process once they reconciled with the abusers, and second I will never help someone willing to fool the system filing Vawa and reconciling with the perpetrator.

People who reconciles with their abusers need therapy for life,because suffering abuse is not the victim's fault ever, but going back to the abuser shows low self esteem and total disregard to their own lives.When you can't keep self respect you can't respect anyone. As I said many times abusers are the scum of our society!

In memory of all deceased women victims of domestic violence such as Lacy Petterson (murdered in 2002), Kathleen Savio’s (murdered in 2004),Amanda Rinaldi (murdered in 2012) Reeba Steenkamp (murdered in 2013)Jennifer Martel (murdered three days ago),Jennifer Alfonso (murdered 11 days ago) Patricia Waschbisch( domestic violence advocate murdered in April 2013) and all other 1,324 women murdered in 2012 in the U.S we should say NO to violence, and we say NO when we remove ourselves from the abuser's presence.

I do totally agree with you Sandraj!

I am praying that people suffering from abuse is strong enought to leave their abusers and to not to come back to them ever again, not because you are risking your greencard or your AOS can de denied but because you deserve to have a normal life and be loved.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

samusbbs it helps your case that he has a criminal record.Last week one girl from VJ got an RFE and USCIS asked her to get a copy of his police record because it will show he is a violent person, she never filed police report , but she mentioned he had a previous record.

You don't have necessary to have a police report, of course it helps your case thou. It seems your lawyer filed your Vawa based in extreme cruelty(mental abuse) and doemstic violence and you submitted a psychological evaluation, why did he say you have just 405 or 50% chances to have your case approved? victims of mental abuse do not have police report and have their cases approved all the time.

[anajnic 87]

The violence against women has been increasing in frequency and level of damage, we can't put ourselves at risk by having unnecessary communication with our former abusers. No shocker necessary, that people are not normal they could respond in a very aggressive way. In my aopinion our very best revenge is take control of our lives and be as happy as we can be, and thank God VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) opens a huge door of opportunity for the survivors, guess who is that? US!!!

I wish my friend Cathy had a chance.. he beat her every day, every dayyy, until one day he beat her soo much , she fell and never woke up... She died right there. ( this is in Trinidad) Nobody did anything. She wouldnt even leave ddnt wanna leave , couldnt leave.. If making up with my abuser is an option for immigration since as someone stated " it helps because it proves bonafide marriage", they could deny me now...Cervical spine surgery was the result of my constant abuse. A big scar on my neck... Never datttt!!!!

[Samusbbz 0]

sandranj, I am actually my lawyers first vawa case, but according to what other lawyers have said to him because my spouse cheated on me with other people the legitimacy of our marriage could come into question. As well the fact I have very minimal proof that our marriage was in good faith, we never opened up a mutual fund bank account or anything. (which turned out I dodge a pretty big bullet since my spouse is financially irresponsible, he blew through $21,000 in drugs right after entering college with in a few months.)

Edited August 20, 2013 by Samusbbz