Vawa part 4

[positivity888 3]

Yes he submitted both. Thanks believe! Made me breathe a little easier! I really pray I would be able to get my Green Card early next year. Crossing my fingers.

[Alyssab 0]

I just can't imagine my selth asking my previous employee to give me those affidavits. I use to work for legitimate companies, for 6 months, even before I met my husband, but after everything started happaning everyone was shocked. They were asking me, what happened... I was lying, I was saying I went rock climbing. It's just too embarrassing to go back and tell them my husband was beating me up and I need them to sign paper:-( they are all Americans, how are they gonna look at me? all photographers they know each other, and my agency will find out also... i always was pretened that nothing is going, i had that fake smile for other people.... I'm 100% if I see him again he is start abusing me, I can call cops, but it'll make it even worse. In that case he will everything to make me deported or even worse I think he is capable to kill me... He had change so much, he eyes are so evil-( he is more dangerous than abusive person, he is really insane. I didn't know that he has a kid and owe money for child support, he didn't tell me that. Before we started getting letter and they froze our joint account.

The night before the interview was the worse night in my life, he was so abusive... Was treataning he isn't gonna gona come or he is gonna say that it's not real. Than he was lying that he lost his id and he can't go. I don't know why did he do that. I didn't do anything wrong, I was trying to be a good wife for him:-(

The other thing is, our Neighbours moved out already and I can't get affidavits from them.. One Neighbour is from Sweden, I have no idea how can I reach him to sign a paper. And I also think our landlord is illegal lady and she won't sign anything ether. I just can ask Photogphers and people from my work and our friends.

The other thing is, how do they consider financial abuse? I just got text on fb from him that he needs money and I owe him money (he always say that) and if I won't give it to him he will file a divorce... He also was asking me to buy him a laptop cuz he married me he said that I saved money to marry some other guy just for papers. I never would do that. We really loved each other, and he propose me, it was all real, he wrote a song about us. We were planning a trip to my home country together (Ukraine), I introduced him to some people, and they were gonna hire him in Ukraine for performance, but it moved from this summer to winter, and also was saying that owe him money for that:-(

If he beats me up again, how do I get doctor's evaluation? Just go to the hospital? Will they call police? Should it be a special doctor?

Thanks

[Sandra G. 5,047]

alyssabi it seems you don't have almost proof of the abuse then your chance to have a vawa approved is not good.To have a better chance you should have at least some affidavits.

In your case To file vawa based in financial abuse you have to prove he controlled your your finances preventing you to have access to the money, denied you access to money or you to prove you became entirely dependent on him for food, clothing and shelter.Getting phone call or texts messages from him saying that he needs money and if I won't give it to him he will file a divorce this is not considered financial abuse.

YOu should get a restraining order against him,go to the Court tomorrow and file a restraining order ,take the pictures with you to show the bruises and say you fear for your life,if he shows up do no open the door and call the cops right away.

If you will file vawa based in mental abuse you need to find a psychologist to start therapy and after 5/6 sessions of therapy then you can ask her/him a psychological evaluation.

[Alyssab 0]

Sandranj, thank you very much. Can you consider like financial abuse that all checks he put got bounced and we owe money to the bank? He doesn't have anything, he would never pay it. I have a messages when he said that i should pay it.

Like I read earlier affidavits from people are not the best evidence. I can probably get 4 or 5 affidavits that he was abusing me, one from my manager, one from my neighbor she lives in the same building, but not close apartment, once I escaped from him, and she saw all bruises. Also couple friends can say that we were real couple, and couple friends that who gave me a shelter and saw all bruises. If i really need i can ask photographers. but i really don't wanna do that because it's gonna affect my carrier. but if it helps for case, I might have a take a chance.

I also started making my own money and modeling and i might ended up paying lot of tax. I worked one months and I made 8k.... is it good for case or doesn't really matter? I'm just too scared to work more, in case he sees my pictures somewhere and start abusing and stalking me more.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

Alyssab it does not matter if you work or how much you are making for vawa case. Considering what you posted here i don't believe you have a vawa case based in financial abuse at all. I explained before to be considered financial abuse what you have to prove. Using your credit card or taking money from your bank account is not reason enough to file vawa based in financial abuse.Affidavit is very important,if the person has policial report,restraining order,hospital report then there is no need to submit affidavits but in your case of course The affidavit is extremelly important. You should file a restraining order against him asap. You can submit the affidavits you just mentioned, but if you have 1 person that worked with you stating that saw you with bruises it will help your case.Probably you husband withdrew forms I_864 and I-130.Did you check your case online lately?

[Jessy_L 7]

Hi sandranj,

If the person is made to close all her individual accounts and credit cards, and put all the money she has into joint account where husband and his mother both are on the account and have access to the money.

And they spend money frivolously by for example getting a puppy, putting deposit and next day changing the mind, and loosing deposit, make sure they shop only at expensive stores and throwing tantrums whenever she (wife) buys something in less expensive store.

Everything in the account is life savings of the wife.

[Sandra G. 5,047]

jessyL Vawa Unit will consider financial abuse if you can prove one or more of these circumstances.

-the abuser controlled your money preventing you to have access to the money ;

- you became entirely dependent on him for food, clothing and shelter;

-the abuser controlled all decisions of how the money was spent with food,clothes, medication etc.

-not allowing you to work or earn money;

-stealing considered amount of money, credit or property;

-forged your signature to get access to credit card, bank account;

-made financial investment that affected your credit without consulting you;

-filed fraudulent tax using your name;

-forced you to give him all money you earned;

-forced you to sell any property you had before getting marriage and using threats to the marriage;

-harassed you in your work place and because of that you lost your job;

-the abuser refused to work and used just your money to survive.

Edited June 17, 2013 by sandranj

[Jessy_L 7]

Just to be clear. "forbidding the victim from maintain personal bank account" is not going to be abuse?

[anajnic 87]

Just to be clear. "forbidding the victim from maintain personal bank account" is not going to be abuse?

All of that is an "upsell" to your Vawa case but cannot be the Substance/foundation for filing your case. Financial abuse is /can be a positive contributor to filing Vawa but not solely the filing for Vawa since financial problems and issues with a marriage is viewed as typical problems within any given marriage ( just my 2 cents)

I pray all works out

[Jessy_L 7]

All of that is an "upsell" to your Vawa case but cannot be the Substance/foundation for filing your case. Financial abuse is /can be a positive contributor to filing Vawa but not solely the filing for Vawa since financial problems and issues with a marriage is viewed as typical problems within any given marriage ( just my 2 cents)

I pray all works out

Thank you. I pray myself. (( It's all very sad.

Yes, I understand that this is the additional point for abuse.

I did not think that any one could win the case solely on financial abuse, can they?

[anajnic 87]

Thank you. I pray myself. (( It's all very sad.

Yes, I understand that this is the additional point for abuse.

I did not think that any one could win the case solely on financial abuse, can they?

Highly unlikely.. but im no expert.. however , you do not want to file and then get denied. Getting a good attorney wont change the facts of " either you have a case or not?" .I have seen a girl get through with just a psychologists report. Take a breather and think, focus , maybe your greencard is in the mail from his having filed for you already. you dont know do you?

[Jessy_L 7]

Highly unlikely.. but im no expert.. however , you do not want to file and then get denied. Getting a good attorney wont change the facts of " either you have a case or not?" .I have seen a girl get through with just a psychologists report. Take a breather and think, focus , maybe your greencard is in the mail from his having filed for you already. you dont know do you?

I wish ((

But he refused to go for the interview and it is going to be in few weeks (( so all screwed ((

So now I am working to file vawa

[anajnic 87]

I wish ((

But he refused to go for the interview and it is going to be in few weeks (( so all screwed ((

So now I am working to file vawa

Its not over till God says its over.. Im going to pray for you that God touches his heart in the name of Jesus.. So breathe , operate from a platform of faith.. Hang in there, Things work out regardless.Dont stress to much and yes its easy to say but not from a person who went through major traumas in life. You have to fight the good fight of faith to overcome this present mountain.God made man , man ddnt make God. You have nooooooooo idea what can happen in the mean time.. amen. This is your meantime moment.. Strengthen yourself. Remember to pray and breathe, Dont panic.All will be well in the name of Jesus.If you knew my story ull understand why i told you that

[Jessy_L 7]

Bless you, Anajnic!

Thank you kind words.

[anajnic 87]

Bless you, Anajnic!

Thank you kind words.

You are most welcome