Is there any couple went through this?

[The Mean Lady 604]

Are you suggesting that he should stay with her until he gets a green card and then dump her? It highly seems like visa fraud.

If the OP got maried for love and not for the GC, like he says (and I have no reason to doubt that), he has no reason to stay with her until he gets a GC if he has no desire to stay with her any more.

I believe it is against the policies of this forum to suggest and encourage visa fraud...

I took it more as having her write a letter to rescind what she said so it isn't on his record.

Not so he could have a visa.

[InHisTime 110]

I would recommend trying to make up and calm her fears. Get her to write another letter to rescend her accusations. Once things are good Run, don't walk., Drop her like a hot potato!

Very bad advice You need to think before you say or act....is this the right thing to do ?

OP, I know your instinct (the small voice inside of you) tells you the right things to do. Never ignore "red flags". These things happened for good reasons that you may consider. Be thankful that at least you've learned this now while still in your place. It's more difficult if you were in the US with nobody to run to. Give some more time to know her (character) better, don't worry about your visa.....if she really changed for the better then you will find it out. It's not gonna be an overnight process. She needs to show or demonstrate good change for enough time, not just by saying. If later you find her emotionally matured...then she may start filing another petition or maybe write the US embassy and other concern agencies to reinstate your visa validity, if still possible. Important is you'll have a working and loving relationship with her, then immigration stuff can start working out....for both (love) sake. Good luck and may God bless you.

[CaroSL 68]

I'm sorry for you. Remember, you are leaving behind your job, family, friends and home to make a life with her. Considering her personality and her actions (life changing ). Do you still trust her enough to go through this difficult process and life in America with her? If I was you, I would not start the process again with her until she move to your country and live with you. She needs to prove to you and immigration, if you do the process again that she wants to be with you.

Good luck

Now, I totally agree with this.

Once your in the US, you're are highly dependent on your spouse. You most probably thought of this already, but once you are there, you realise it all the more.

Your status depend of your marriage, for one thing. But until you find a job you can also be dependant financially. Your spouse is gonna have a very high input in your social life. If she includes you in her circles, introduce you to her friends, says tons of (and just) good stuff about you so her friends will like you, you'll feel welcome.

Will she do this for you?

Will she help you get a job? By giving you advice, using her network, working on your resume even late at night?

Will she let you use her car?

Will she support you when you feel down because you're homesick?

Will she have your back when someone says something rather insensitive to you? (Stupid comment about anything which is not the US, people not taking your passport as an proof of ID, things you just don't get at all because english is not your first language... It doesn't happen a lot, but it happens sometimes)

If the answer is no, maybe you shouldn't move. It is difficult enough to move for someone, even when that person is sensitive and caring... Imagine moving and being in a relationship with no trust...

[CaroSL 68]

I took it more as having her write a letter to rescind what she said so it isn't on his record.

Not so he could have a visa.

Batalion says : "Once things are good Run, don't walk., Drop her like a hot potato!"

hence my comment. I see nothing wrong with the first part of the post. Just the one about "droping her like a hot potato"

[The Mean Lady 604]

Batalion says : "Once things are good Run, don't walk., Drop her like a hot potato!"

hence my comment. I see nothing wrong with the first part of the post. Just the one about "droping her like a hot potato"

personal opinion?

chick is batpoo crazy.

I'd do what i had to do get her to take back the lies she said too.

what she did was slander and is going to put a mark on his record.

If someone did something like that to me, i'd appeal to their better half to get a retraction too.

Then drop him/her like a hot potato.

But OP is not looking for opinions, so he needs to figure all that out for himself.

[The Mean Lady 604]

Anyways, your comment mentioned visa fraud.

Dropping her like a hot potato after she retracts what she said about him committing visa fraud is NOT fraud.

Again, I took that person's statement to mean to get her to retract her statement so he didn't have a mark of visa fraud in history.

That has nothing to do with the receipt of a visa.

Her apologizing and retracting does NOT get him a visa.

It gets another "mark" in his file of the girl saying she 'didn't mean it'

[CaroSL 68]

Anyways, your comment mentioned visa fraud.

Dropping her like a hot potato after she retracts what she said about him committing visa fraud is NOT fraud.

Again, I took that person's statement to mean to get her to retract her statement so he didn't have a mark of visa fraud in history.

That has nothing to do with the receipt of a visa.

Her apologizing and retracting does NOT get him a visa.

It gets another "mark" in his file of the girl saying she 'didn't mean it'

Yes, ok, I get it. Batalion, I am sorry it it was what you meant. I didn't read your post as KDH did.

Of course it is not a fraud at all to clear the record. It would be a fraud though to clear the record, refill with here with the clear intention to dump her after the GC. But Batalion probably meant the first, not the second...

Sry again

[The Mean Lady 604]

Yes, ok, I get it. Batalion, I am sorry it it was what you meant. I didn't read your post as KDH did.

Of course it is not a fraud at all to clear the record. It would be a fraud though to clear the record, refill with here with the clear intention to dump her after the GC. But Batalion probably meant the first, not the second...

Sry again

ohey for all i know you could be right

and if that's the case, definitely visa fraud.

just sharing that that isn't how i took it.

[Justine+David 218]

It sounds like you are well shot of her. She acted like a child with no regard for you. You deserve better.

[bigdog 376]

You can't fix crazy thought, i would strongly rethink this.

[Divorced UsedBad 0]

I think since they stamped it " cancelled without prejudice" You ( and her) may just need to reapply. Have her call USCIS and explain what happened and ask

what she needs to do. But in all honesty, a woman who can do this even being frustrated, is not a good thing. Inshallah if you both succeed in getting a

new visa, what will she do next, if this happens again and you are actually here in USA? Time to re-think your relationship. Will she be willing to come

and live in Morocco instead?

Edited June 9, 2013 by Lara and Mohamed

[ConGau1981 56]

I can't give you any advice about this...but you do have my sympathy. Your wife got upset and she did something to hurt you and now she says she is sorry, I hope that the damage done to your marriage can be repaired.

[The Mean Lady 604]

I think since they stamped it " cancelled without prejudice" You ( and her) may just need to reapply. Have her call USCIS and explain what happened and ask

what she needs to do. But in all honesty, a woman who can do this even being frustrated, is not a good thing. Inshallah if you both succeed in getting a

new visa, what will she do next, if this happens again and you are actually here in USA? Time to re-think your relationship. Will she be willing to come

and live in Morocco instead?

oh good thinking!

I forgot he said w/o prejudice!

[Jawaree 718]

Dude my sympathy to U, but do U want a roller coaster life? Y

did she accused U of marrying her for visa? we don't know on the

net what really brought it about, but maybe U should just have her

move to your country since U love her and she's supposed to be now

sorry...say 3-4 yrs documenting this and then have her petition U

with and explanation of her calling uscis and making such statement

until then I C no visa coming you way.....best wishes

[fantonledzepp 159]

Well this sucks. Women are something else, and this one seems to be completely out of her mind. I agree with the advice of getting her to write a retraction and then dropping her like a hot potato. You don't need crazy in your life, brother.