Wife charged with check fraud and 2 years not up til next may (merged)

[eni001 0]

Hello everyone i need an advice.

I am a green card holder and was approved last year in may. My two year condition will be up next may but my wife is currently arrested. She was arrested a wk ago on check fraud charges. We have being having problems. I knew of her problem (drug habit and check fraud. she promised she will go clean) before we married. I have done a lot for her but i cannot keep up with this anymore. She stole from me before we got married about 1500 but i got paid back. She also had a previous charge of check fraud but it got dismissed because i made her go through the process. She was going clean and i made her go to school and she was doing ok. But later on she started acting suspicious and kept in contact with old friends living that same lifestyle. Our bank was closed caused she overdrew and all it was to pay for her habit. We had a fight and she was lying. I am currently staying at my aunts house and shes at her parents. Now she is locked up in jail waiting to be charged for check fraud again. SHe has also stolen from her parents, family friends and people close to her. I don't know what to do as she is awaiting arraignment. I don't know what to do. I know i am fed up with this and cannot do it anymore but at the same time i dont want to lose my green card. I just got admitted to san jose state to pursue my graduate degree. She has been lying to me i thought she had been attending school but she hasnt. She has been taking money from her parents and financial aid to keep up with her habit. I need some advice on what to do. I have been through a lot with her. i am 25 and she is 29.

[Inky 1,110]

Moved from ROC to effects of major family changes on immigration benefits.

Divorce her and file removal of conditions by yourself with the waiver.

[Cheezees 1,514]

Hello,

So sorry to hear about your situation. I think it would be best for you to seek a divorce. You can still file for a 10-year green card, just do it with a divorce waiver. You can submit information about your wife's activities to show why you may no longer have joint financial accounts. You can also try counseling if you want to salvage your marriage. USCIS needs to see that you are in a bona fide marriage, even though your circumstances are not great. Good luck!

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Hello everyone i need an advice.

I am a green card holder and was approved last year in may. My two year condition will be up next may but my wife is currently arrested. She was arrested a wk ago on check fraud charges. We have being having problems. I knew of her problem (drug habit and check fraud. she promised she will go clean) before we married. I have done a lot for her but i cannot keep up with this anymore. She stole from me before we got married about 1500 but i got paid back. She also had a previous charge of check fraud but it got dismissed because i made her go through the process. She was going clean and i made her go to school and she was doing ok. But later on she started acting suspicious and kept in contact with old friends living that same lifestyle. Our bank was closed caused she overdrew and all it was to pay for her habit. We had a fight and she was lying. I am currently staying at my aunts house and shes at her parents. Now she is locked up in jail waiting to be charged for check fraud again. SHe has also stolen from her parents, family friends and people close to her. I don't know what to do as she is awaiting arraignment. I don't know what to do. I know i am fed up with this and cannot do it anymore but at the same time i dont want to lose my green card. I just got admitted to san jose state to pursue my graduate degree. She has been lying to me i thought she had been attending school but she hasnt. She has been taking money from her parents and financial aid to keep up with her habit. I need some advice on what to do. I have been through a lot with her. i am 25 and she is 29.

PC hat on:

It's for better for worse, stick with her and help her..blah blah

Gowon hat on:

Drop kick her to the curb, file for divorce.

Be open to assist her once she's on the straight since she did help you at some point.

This kind of person, in my opinion and based on experience, will drag you down.

I do not envy your position.

[eni001 0]

Moved from ROC to effects of major family changes on immigration benefits.

Divorce her and file removal of conditions by yourself with the waiver.

if i divorce her does it affect me getting 10 year green card. i do love her but she has been dragging me down and dont know if i can keep doing this cause its the same old script. even after the divorce do i have enough evidence to get 10 year green card.

Hello,

So sorry to hear about your situation. I think it would be best for you to seek a divorce. You can still file for a 10-year green card, just do it with a divorce waiver. You can submit information about your wife's activities to show why you may no longer have joint financial accounts. You can also try counseling if you want to salvage your marriage. USCIS needs to see that you are in a bona fide marriage, even though your circumstances are not great. Good luck!

if i divorce her does it affect me getting 10 year green card. i do love her but she has been dragging me down and dont know if i can keep doing this cause its the same old script. even after the divorce do i have enough evidence to get 10 year green card.

[Eric-Pris 1,604]

Did you notice what you said: "I made her do.... I made he go..." You can't change anybody who doesn't want to change. You sound like you have your head on straight and have ambition. You don't need her to drag you down with her. Drop her and move on with your life. I'm surprised you stayed with her even after she stole from you. Trust would be gone for me forever.

[eni001 0]

Did you notice what you said: "I made her do.... I made he go..." You can't change anybody who doesn't want to change. You sound like you have your head on straight and have ambition. You don't need her to drag you down with her. Drop her and move on with your life. I'm surprised you stayed with her even after she stole from you. Trust would be gone for me forever.

I appreciate the support but pls what do i do next and what are my chances after the divorce to remove the condition also.

[cptrosco 0]

I appreciate the support but pls what do i do next and what are my chances after the divorce to remove the condition also.

Your visa can still be approved if you divorce her. Many people file a divorce waiver (myself included). When it comes to filing, I would write down another letter, well more like a statement of accounts of what has happened in the relationship. All you need to do is prove to the USCIS that you did not marry her just to come to the USA, you married her because you love(ed) her and wanted to be with her. You are doing the mature thing and separating because you do not want her to drag you down the same road that she is going. Good Luck.

[believe 46]

Correction: He is not seeking a visa, but filing to remove conditions, otherwise called ROC on this site.

OP like others have said, file for divorce now. You can gather proof to show that your marriage was entered into in good faith - e.g. joint medical and car insurance, joint bills, a joint lease or mortgage, joint loans, etc. You should also get a letter from your bank to show that you and your wife had a joint account, but it was closed due to check fraud on her part. Any other records of you bailing her out could also be used. You will sumbit those documents with the I-751.

So, file for divorce now, then file form to remove conditions based on the divorce immediately you get your divorce decree, or when your 90-day window opens (whichever one is sooner).

[Shiobhan 235]

I'd get letters from her friends and parents also documented proof of her habit & U trying to help

and file ROC.....to show marriage was entered into for love

[David & Diana R 1,005]

I am very sorry for you. One thing I think you have to face up to is you must get divorced and separate yourself from this toxic relationship. If you cannot get a green card then that's unfortunate but you need to get out of this relationship at all costs. You need to save yourself. She will not change for you or anyone else. She has to want to change and perhaps you divorcing her will be the bottom she needs to hit to realize she needs and wants help. God Speed

[batallion9 50]

1. Been there, done that with Drug addicted wife. Unless she wants help, there is nothing you can do. She will lie, cheat and steal. I don't care how hard you try to help her, it will all be in vain. !st order of business is to document that she is unfit to be a wife. This takes proof! police records, bank records , affidavits from family ( statements from them that are notarized). It is easier to get records before divorce is final. 2nd, get a good attorney that knows divorce and has some experience with immigration. Good luck, my friend!

[eni001 0]

Now a friend of mine suggest i should wait it out but i dont think i can do that. he suggest wait to get 2 yr condition off and then divorce. pls i really need help this is a difficult situation

1. Been there, done that with Drug addicted wife. Unless she wants help, there is nothing you can do. She will lie, cheat and steal. I don't care how hard you try to help her, it will all be in vain. !st order of business is to document that she is unfit to be a wife. This takes proof! police records, bank records , affidavits from family ( statements from them that are notarized). It is easier to get records before divorce is final. 2nd, get a good attorney that knows divorce and has some experience with immigration. Good luck, my friend!

do u think i have a strong case?

[bigdog 376]

Been there done that, move on immediately, see an attorney.

[Jawaree 717]

If wife is doing all that & locked up document it

and get your papers done yourself .....she wont stop

until she hit rock bottom...if she one day needs to

get up stay far & lend a hand...right now get out.