Pending Separation

[ChanelKitten 0]

I am very sad to report that my USC husband and I will be getting a separation very soon. He just came to me a few weeks ago and said that he thinks that we are 2 very different people, doesn't know if we're compatible and doesn't even know if he wants to have kids with me anymore. He said that he's been thinking this way for a long time now, but I know him better than anyone and he's an open book, so I know that this is not true. I just got my greencard on August 25th and started working for the first time in 2 years on September 25th. Before coming to the U.S. I sold my car, quit my job and he convinced me to file for bankruptcy on my Canadian debt. I only found out once I was here that he was in MAJOR financial trouble. I think that he might have another "love" interest, but that's an entirely different story. What hurts me so much is that I gave-up everything for him, I don't think that he's ever appreciated it and now he's willing to throw it all away so easily and so quickly.

Now I have a few questions that I hope someone can help me answer. Can the affidavit of support still be enforced if I move back home to Canada? If not, can I possibly get spousal support from him at least until I find a job or something?!

I am very sad for everyone going thru this type of situation because it is not easy, especially being from another country. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you!

[YuAndDan 153]

Sorry to hear the bad news.

No leaving the country long enough to be considered to be abandoning the LPR status, is one of the ways to terminate the obligation, and your working also reduces the obligation placed by that document.

You may want to consult a divorce attorney about other types of divorce settlements.

Good luck

[edsperfect 25]

Sorry to hear the bad news.

No leaving the country long enough to be considered to be abandoning the LPR status, is one of the ways to terminate the obligation, and your working also reduces the obligation placed by that document.

You may want to consult a divorce attorney about other types of divorce settlements.

Good luck

See a divorce lawyer. When you get divorced, if you do, the court should order some alimony and a division of marital property. How much of course will depend on your financial situation at the vtime of the divorce. Only a lawyer skilled in that area can tell you what the probabilities will be.

[mRx 16]

I dont really know much about your situation but Im real sorry to hear about that.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I am very sad to report that my USC husband and I will be getting a separation very soon. He just came to me a few weeks ago and said that he thinks that we are 2 very different people, doesn't know if we're compatible and doesn't even know if he wants to have kids with me anymore. He said that he's been thinking this way for a long time now, but I know him better than anyone and he's an open book, so I know that this is not true. I just got my greencard on August 25th and started working for the first time in 2 years on September 25th. Before coming to the U.S. I sold my car, quit my job and he convinced me to file for bankruptcy on my Canadian debt. I only found out once I was here that he was in MAJOR financial trouble. I think that he might have another "love" interest, but that's an entirely different story. What hurts me so much is that I gave-up everything for him, I don't think that he's ever appreciated it and now he's willing to throw it all away so easily and so quickly.

Now I have a few questions that I hope someone can help me answer. Can the affidavit of support still be enforced if I move back home to Canada? If not, can I possibly get spousal support from him at least until I find a job or something?!

I am very sad for everyone going thru this type of situation because it is not easy, especially being from another country. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you!

I'd recommend a consultation with a family lawyer and consider your options and discuss what might ba a reasonable settlement from the termination of this marriage. Alimony from a short-term marriage is not a foregone conclusion, especially in light of the state of your financial affairs prior to marriage. More often than not, family courts attempt to return the parties to the status they were in prior to the marriage, when the parties have not been married long. That said, any appreciation in the marital estate is oftentimes divided equitably. Sounds to me like there isn't much to divide, though.

[Fandango 1,439]

Ask a lawyer about 'detrimental reliance'...meaning you relied on his word to your detriment, and now that it's not working out, so to speak, you are the worse for it. In a roundabout way, it proves your good faith as you had more of a vested interest in it working as agreed.

I learned it in Business school, so I don't know if it is applicable in family law, but it's worth looking into.

Good luck!