muslim marriage tips

[Jenn! 918]

I beg to differ.

Don't argue with me!

[sarachid 0]

I tried to make it for the man or the women... either case it is bad... but no one is perfect.. anyone can wake up one morning and say "wow I messed up, but I will try to make it right" ??

Sure, but why would that time just *happen* to be around when your spouse is receiving the 10-year green card? Unless the green card somehow affects your marriage. Why should it?

It should not.... but I have seen alot not only with this type of marriage, but with all types... people are not perfect

All types? What other type do you mean? In this case one party is obviously benefiting from the actions of the other (green card).

I meant that not all marriages are the perfect, "I love you, you love me, we love a both the same" I've seen people married for there family, married for money, stay married for money, stay married because they have been married for 30 years, uhh married because she is afriad to leave, married for the kids, married etc.... so many

I don't think USCIS equates GC fraud with any of these scenarios.

nor did I say we are only talking about GC fraud....

[peezey 0]

nor did I say we are only talking about GC fraud

ok, however, that is what this thread is about, the current discussion is about changing your wifeliness when it gets closer to your SO's 2year or 10year GC so that you ensure he stays once he receives it.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

My husband will get his 10 year card when he gets here, insha'allah. Is it too late for us? I haven't had much of a chance to be "wifey" so far.

[sarachid 0]

I tried to make it for the man or the women... either case it is bad... but no one is perfect.. anyone can wake up one morning and say "wow I messed up, but I will try to make it right" ??

Sure, but why would that time just *happen* to be around when your spouse is receiving the 10-year green card? Unless the green card somehow affects your marriage. Why should it?

It should not.... but I have seen alot not only with this type of marriage, but with all types... people are not perfect

All types? What other type do you mean? In this case one party is obviously benefiting from the actions of the other (green card).

I meant that not all marriages are the perfect, "I love you, you love me, we love a both the same" I've seen people married for there family, married for money, stay married for money, stay married because they have been married for 30 years, uhh married because she is afriad to leave, married for the kids, married etc.... so many

Ok, I don't think you are getting the point. You are correct that people do stay married for those reasons. However someone that stayed married out of obligation is different than someone completly changing who they are in a marriage because their spouse is about to get a 10 year green card.

maybe I missed your point, but I was thinking outside the box in terms of understand many different reasons someone would do something like that.. not all women are as strong as the women here... some will do whatever it takes (even something wrong) to keep (what they think) is something that they don't want to loose....

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I beg to differ.

Don't argue with me!

Yes, ma'am!

[sarachid 0]

nor did I say we are only talking about GC fraud

ok, however, that is what this thread is about, the current discussion is about changing your wifeliness when it gets closer to your SO's 2year or 10year GC so that you ensure he stays once he receives it.

yeah your right... I went in a different direction I'm going to deep in thoughts today...

sorry guys

[Jenn! 918]

nor did I say we are only talking about GC fraud

ok, however, that is what this thread is about, the current discussion is about changing your wifeliness when it gets closer to your SO's 2year or 10year GC so that you ensure he stays once he receives it.

yeah your right... I went in a different direction I'm going to deep in thoughts today...

sorry guys

It's ok, it's more relevant at least than when we were just discussing cooking and cleaning for whatever reason.

[sarachid 0]

nor did I say we are only talking about GC fraud

ok, however, that is what this thread is about, the current discussion is about changing your wifeliness when it gets closer to your SO's 2year or 10year GC so that you ensure he stays once he receives it.

yeah your right... I went in a different direction I'm going to deep in thoughts today...

sorry guys

It's ok, it's more relevant at least than when we were just discussing cooking and cleaning for whatever reason.

Thank you for your kindness and understanding in this most delicate situation

[peezey 0]

yeah your right... I went in a different direction I'm going to deep in thoughts today...

sorry guys

Everything you said is correct, people do stay married for all those reasons and more, I just wanted to point it back to the original discussion, especially since we were talking about **not** staying in the relationship. Of course, tone is never something that can come across in posts.

[Caladan 19]

I have a question for the people posting in here.

If you found out that your husband's PRIMARY reason for marrying you was a greencard but he was nice to you and treated you well, would you end the marriage?

So fast his head would spin. Because then we'd have what, two years and change before his primary reason for getting married disappeared? Why would I bother wasting my time? Plenty o' fish in the sea.

On the larger question, there's a difference between modifying your own behavior and compromising, as part of being in an adult relationship, and changing your behavior radically in the hopes that someone won't ditch you/hit you/cheat on you. If I make lasagna for C. because he likes it and it makes him happy, that's a good thing. If I make it so he won't hit me or go out looking for women, that's pretty awful.

[garya505 2]

[peezey 0]

So, do you have something to contribute to the topic or you just wanted to do a drive-by Mr. Bossy?

[garya505 2]

So, do you have something to contribute to the topic or you just wanted to do a drive-by Mr. Bossy?

What, you didn't like my photo?

[ya falaha! 0]

Absolutely!

I have a question for the people posting in here.

If you found out that your husband's PRIMARY reason for marrying you was a greencard but he was nice to you and treated you well, would you end the marriage?