muslim marriage tips

[jordanianprincess 0]

Now it becomes obvious why after 3 years here, I have only 2 hearts, I usually keep my fukin opinion to myself. But because this was about MUSLIM marriages, and I have been in one for 4 years, I THOUGHT I could post what works for US. I never said you HAVE to change your way of cooking and cleaning to keep your husband, only that you may WANT to. Enough shouting from me today, I have a pile of paperwork on my desk calling my name. Truce if anyone is interested.

I will go back now to my quite self and help those that need support during the waiting process. It's what I do best and I usually do it in private PM's.

Jackie

Jackie, I think you knew what the reaction would be with your initial post. You even said, "At the risk of negative attention, I have a comment regarding marriage tips." I thought it was up for discussion.

No hard feelings here.

Exactly.

[doodlebug 3]

Now it becomes obvious why after 3 years here, I have only 2 hearts,

You need to take more polls in the poll section and play the one word games. That will get your posts up to get the hearts.

Here's some in the meantime though:

[~Jackie~ 30]

I risked it and I got it!

Jackie

jenn--still meeting in chat for The Bachelor tonight?

[Jenn! 918]

I risked it and I got it!

Jackie

jenn--still meeting in chat for The Bachelor tonight?

I'll say, yes. That's assuming that I win the wrestling match for the remote control at 9. Let's just say The Bachelor is not one of Wadi's faves!

[jordanianprincess 0]

At the risk of negative attention, I have a comment regarding marriage tips. As you get closer to your SO's 10 year card, you might find yourself becoming more of what he expects and wants in a wife.

In this immigration process there is a period of time where your SO comes and is somewhat reliant on you. After a year or two of assimilation, their need of help diminishes and your role changes. It is at this point you can either make your relationship stronger, or give him a reason to leave the marriage. It's in your power.

Jackie

Now it becomes obvious why after 3 years here, I have only 2 hearts, I usually keep my fukin opinion to myself. But because this was about MUSLIM marriages, and I have been in one for 4 years, I THOUGHT I could post what works for US. I never said you HAVE to change your way of cooking and cleaning to keep your husband, only that you may WANT to. Enough shouting from me today, I have a pile of paperwork on my desk calling my name. Truce if anyone is interested.

I will go back now to my quite self and help those that need support during the waiting process. It's what I do best and I usually do it in private PM's.

Jackie

Can you please tell me what it is in your initial post that applies only to Muslim marriages? What makes it apply only to Muslims vs. other people?

[~Jackie~ 30]

Ummmmm cuz I posted it in a 'muslim marriage' thread.

Jackie

[mawilson 2,133]

I think it is the paranoia before the 10 yr card that makes a person change.

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A person that feels this will wear that extra pair of socks to ensure their toes don't freeze and will put away that extra dish in the sink to remind her spouse that she's a great wife and that he loves her. A far step ? yeah a bit. Does it happen? absolutely. I think after the 10 year card is received, the intensity level lessens and they feel they can resume their normal lives. It is just a level of paranoia, that's all.

Wow

[Bosco 1]

I dislike the Christian/Muslim lines that are being drawn, as if we are two different species.

You enter the Christian threads and no one is posting how this is only applies to Christians. They have been been quite welcoming of the entire forum. Seems to me, the same courtesy should be extended to the non-Muslim VJ members in the Muslim threads, and their contributions should be both welcomed and valued.

Seriously, I don't get the distinctions that are being made and the things that have been implied. I realize we all have different beliefs even when we share a religion, but it seems obvious to me that focusing on our similarities rather than our differences would be less divisive and more in accordance with your religion, whatever it may be.

[jordanianprincess 0]

I dislike the Christian/Muslim lines that are being drawn, as if we are two different species.

You enter the Christian threads and no one is posting how this is only applies to Christians. They have been been quite welcoming of the entire forum. Seems to me, the same courtesy should be extended to the non-Muslim VJ members in the Muslim threads, and their contributions should be both welcomed and valued.

Seriously, I don't get the distinctions that are being made and the things that have been implied. I realize we all have different beliefs even when we share a religion, but it seems obvious to me that focusing on our similarities rather than our differences would be less divisive and more in accordance with your religion, whatever it may be.

[sarachid 0]

Yes and no. Many of the guys stick around for a few more years because they can put more money away, especially if the woman is paying most of the bills. Even if it is 50/50, he can save more if he stays a few extra years (not to mention possibly have meals cooked for him and a clean home). I think the jig is often up once they have a nice chunk of change & the GC.

If I end up being dumped after he acquires a nice chuck of change and the GC, I am moving to Morocco to live with his mother.

[~Jackie~ 30]

I don't like the differences being made on VJ between religions. This is an immigration site. But I certainly don't fault my fellow VJ'ers from starting the threads.

Jackie

[peezey 0]

Ummmmm cuz I posted it in a 'muslim marriage' thread.

Jackie

Yes but then you later said you weren't talking about only Muslim marriages when I asked why you considered your view point only re: muslim marriages. I think we've long since left the idea that we are talking about anything other than marriage in general.

[~Jackie~ 30]

####### how long do you want to beat a dead fukin horse???????????? Seriously, a one month member of VJ and you want to help me boost my post count? Come on then, let's make this a few more pages. My ONLY point was to clean and cook....and ya know,,I don't even like cooking and cleaning. You'd think by the way I am defending it that I was Martha fuckin Stewart.

Jackie

[peezey 0]

####### how long do you want to beat a dead fukin horse???????????? Seriously, a one month member of VJ and you want to help me boost my post count? Come on then, let's make this a few more pages. My ONLY point was to clean and cook....and ya know,,I don't even like cooking and cleaning. You'd think by the way I am defending it that I was Martha fuckin Stewart.

Jackie

Remind me again when one's posts become valid. I think I missed that part of the TOS. I'm taking it to mean that although I have been in relationship and married to a Muslim for much longer than you (10 years), my opinion is less valid due to my VJ sign-up date. This is what you are saying? I find it highly suspect that I am the one you are targeting since I am not the only one who doesn't agree with your opinion here. Anything going on in the background prompting this type of reply? And I'm hoping this kind of **language** you are using isn't intended for the muslim wife tips.

As I've said before, I will not just go away because you or anyone else think I haven't posted for long enough. I have been here for many years, and will continue.

Might I add that while I can see you are frustrated with people continuing a conversation you'd prefer stopped, you are the only one who has made personal attacks in this thread. A discussion does not = a fight unless you throw in fightin' words.

Edited November 27, 2006 by peezey

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

this thread wins today's train wreck award

i'm sure those who helped win this know who they are.