Age diffference and how long will this take?

[Coded 6]

Hello everyone,

Am quite new on this forum and I think for one to be successful in getting information about USCIS and all the processes involved in getting through their stress and huddle he/she should speak out, thus my reason for coming here. My wife filed and i130 petition with the Phoenix lock box and an i129f respectively as advised on the 14th of March 2013, we got married in Nigeria on feb 14^th 2013, can anyone kindly tell me how long it will take for the entire process to be completed? Also, does the age difference pose a threat to our union or our application? I am 31 and she's 59, we met in 2008 while she was in South Korea working but returned to the United States in 2011, tried to go visit her on a tourist visa but as you all probably know the drill I got denied and I wouldn't want to waste the application fee paying for a visa I know would be denied. We are opting for the CR1 visa so what do we need to do? She will be coming again probably by the end of August because of the sudden increase in air ticket we're planning on her coming when the fare is a lot reasonable. What do you advise we do, I would love anyone here to advise on what path would be best/ideal. We have the notice of action for both petitions, what do I do next? Ya’ll should advise me/us on the necessary steps to take.

Thanks

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

Congrats on your recent wedding!

Why did your wife file the I-129F? It's for the K3, an obsolete visa, which is usually closed at NVC stage anyways. In any case, you can expect the whole process to take about a year.

You are going through possibly the most difficult US embassy to get a visa approved in, so make sure you have a lot of bonafide relationship proof, especially with your large age gap. Are you of the same educational background and religion? Were you married before and/ or do you have children? One issue you will face is that not only is there a large age gap, but she is also too old to give you children, which is unusual espeically in your culture and a big red flag for the CO. ON the other hand, if you were together for three years (2088-2011) in South Korea, that is a big plus.

[Boiler 45,524]

Yes

About a year.

[Coded 6]

Yes I have a child, I didn't visit her while she was in Korea because I was still schooling and working then which made any travel to Korea impossible. I know she can't have children anymore and we can adopt if need be,in terms of a bonafide proof of our relationship what proof should I be stock piling now? We've got pictures and she will probably be around during the interview,will she be allowed to be there while the interview is going on or she will have to wait outside while I have the interview? She filed the i130 first and later the i129f as instructed, but I know the K3 visa is obsolete so we are just gonna wait for the i130 to be approved since I heard both forms or apps take same period of time for it to be approved.

[Boiler 45,524]

You said in your first post that you met in Korea?

[MedRoni 161]

You said in your first post that you met in Korea?

Actually I read it as he said she was in Korea when they met, and he was never given a visitor visa to go meet her there?

OP - Yes it will take about a year to get through the process... on average and yes, the age difference will be something of an uphill battle - especially with your embassy. As Penguin said, make sure to gather a lot of bonafide relationship proof. I would also have her visit as many times as possible. How many times did she visit? And did you get married on he first visit? These are all factors they will look at along with any other potential issues, like are you the same religion, do the families approve... do they know... previous marriages, length of time between marriages and divorces, etc.

Best of Luck on your journey!

Edited May 24, 2013 by MedRoni

[Boiler 45,524]

Actually I read it as he said she was in Korea when they met, and he was never given a visitor visa to go meet her there?

He tried it seems to get a visa to the US, I certainly would not know how easy or otherwise it was to get a visa to Korea.

If she was in Korea when they met the he must have been as well.....................

[rlogan3030 6]

My husband and I went through this in March and we also have an age gap. I am 21 years older than my husband. Of course going through Lagos I was sooo worried about this. But let me offer you some advice. I provided so much evidence. I believe after all submissions of evidence the petition reached 14 pounds by the time it got to the embassy for the interview!!!!! This might seem excessive to some but when you are dealing with :Lagos why take a chance of not having the one thing they might ask for. I can tell you FRONT LOAD FRONT LOAD. The USC IS NOT ALLOWED INSIDE FOR THE interview, you must wait outside and away from the consulate. My husband was there for 5 hours. Luckily a couple of friends went along to wait with me . They did require ALOT of pics. Went through all of our phone , chat and email records, but he was approved. They DID NOT even bring up the age difference. The IO said we had plenty of proof and the fact that I was there was a huge plus to him. They were very impressed that I was there and would be there for 10 days after the interview and not leaving the next day or 2 which is a huge flag to them. So if you would like any further info please feel free to ask. Good Luck in your journey!!!!!!!!!!!!a

[Ms Hogan 295]

He tried it seems to get a visa to the US, I certainly would not know how easy or otherwise it was to get a visa to Korea.

If she was in Korea when they met the he must have been as well.....................

Ummmm "met" could mean online... not necessarily in person.

[Boiler 45,524]

Another guessing game, I wonder if they have met met.

[LoveNigarmostyle 164]

The key is that you two show an ongoing and binding relationship which has been going on. Time is of essence in any relationship. Gather your evidence with time, have her come and visit and spend time with you and your family, friends and etc.

Good luck!

[Coded 6]

Hello,

Please I will need your assistance in getting something clear here. My wife has filed an i130 petition for me in March 2013, we got the notice of action NO1 few days later where after she filed an i129F as advised though I kicked against it. We sent the necessary paper works but she didn't front load it as mostly advised here on VJ with pictures of family and friends, our wedding pictures, boarding passes etc. Please is there anything we can do now? We've not heard anything from USCIS and when she did call she was told it will probably take as long as 7 to 9 months. My problem is not the wait time as August is going to make it officially 5 months already,but what I want to ask if you can be of assistance is if its because we didn't front load the i130 that's why its taking this long. Also, I will like to know if its possible for us to still send those stuff like call log, photos, pictures as well as boarding passes. What do you advise? I know Lagos is such a strict place and someone suggested its because am in Nigeria. She does not have any criminal record as its still on application review on USCIS website. One other thing, she's way older than I am though we've known for more than 6yrs now. Is that going to be a problem for petition to be approved?

Confused

[Hollyday 122]

It's taking long for many people these days... I'm also a March filer and there haven't been many approvals in March yet generally.

[NikLR 13,227]

If the petition is approved there is the opportunity to include more evidence when you submit the IV package to the NVC. You are still within the normal processing range for the I-130.