Just a little whining and feeling sorry for myself

[abbi627 43]

Ok I know I am so lucky to have had this three months in Morocco with my husband. And so soon after being with

him in September and October too. But now the time is ending. Time to get back and file the petition.

Time to start this process so we can permanently be together in the same country. I know all that but.......all I can feel right now is sadness at the thought of once again leaving him. I know you have all been through it. It is something we all have to live through. Just having a little trouble facing the

thought of leaving.

Ok now I will stop whining. My husband should be coming back in a few minutes and I will go spend time with him. I guess I just needed to talk to others who also go through this. And believe me I know

I have been so lucky to have this time with him. But wow did it go fast. I wish I could rewind the clock

and still have three months here. But it is time to face reality......like it or not.

[rylforever 18]

i dont think it is ever easy. i only see my husband for about a week twice a year, and it goes by so fast. i totally understand how you feel, but i am so thankful to have someone like my husband and i know in the end it will all be worth it. we have been doing this for almost two years now, our journey is kind of complicated but again it is all worth it.

[Happytobe 164]

When I was leaving in December, I knew it was not the last time I would see my husband. I looked at it as the beginning of a long life together. It was hard, but knowing that in the end we will be together every day, lifted my heart. I'm not saying it was easy, but having a more positive outlook did help. We are hoping he will get here this year, but I may have to plan a trip for November.... depends on where we are in the process. We speak in the mornings on Skype, as well as the evenings. I can not imagine what our phone bill would be like, if Skype were not an option. (scares me so much I have to laugh).

Have a good outlook when you leave... and have a smile on your heart.

Edited to complete my thought.

Edited May 23, 2013 by Happytobe

[New Beginnings 32]

Leaving my husband in Morocco was the worst feeling in the world. I still hate airports because they represented the sadness that I used to feel when I would have to fly back home. That being said, as hard as it is, try to think positive about it. You will be coming home to start your petition and then you're one step closer to starting a life together permanently. It's going to suck when you leave, there's no way around it. I remember how it felt and there is nothing that will help make it better. Try to immerse yourself in work or studies to help take your mind off of it.

[Crossed_fingers 128]

I sent you a PM. It's hard. I'd try to focus on the papers and how worth it the man/relationship is, it would help me feel less sorry for myself and more grateful for what I did have.

[Cathi 5,794]

I remember the gut wrenching sadness and despair every time I had to leave. The last time I visited and had to leave was last August after his interview in July, he was put in AP and the not knowing when the AP would end was horrible. I felt like we were stuck in some sort of black hole, never knowing when we would be out of it and when he would be issued his visa. He dropped me off at the airport and begged me to stay, after I checked in for my flight he continued to text me begging me to not get on the plane, then when I had my stop over in Paris I turned my phone on only to see more texts from him asking me to turn around and go back on the next flight back to Amman, I am crying just thinking of the whole experience. He was in AP 9 weeks and it seemed like 9 years. He has now been with me here in the US for 8 months, it seems like he has been here for much longer, it is hard to remember what life was like before he arrived.

I hope your process goes as smoothly and as quickly as humanly possible, the not knowing and the uncertainty of the whole process is stressful. You will get through it, you have all of us to talk to, to whine and vent and cry and to share your anger and frustration with. I didn't find VJ until after our NOA2 and his case was at the NVC. I wish I had found it earlier, if only just to have others to talk to who REALLY understood how I felt. My family and friends didn't understand the pain and fear and frustration. I found solace with all of my MENA VJ friends, and I still come back to this site weekly to check and see if their are others who perhaps, need help and could use my advice. I have made so many friends in this forum, some in real life now, some through email and many I speak to on the phone. I am not very familiar with the way things work in Casa other than knowing it is a tough consulate, but if you need anything at all, even if it is just someone to listen, I am here and please feel free to contact me, I will gladly give you my phone number if you want or need to talk.

Hugs,

Cathi

Edited May 25, 2013 by mimolicious

[Ismael&Blair 66]

We speak in the mornings on Skype, as well as the evenings. I can not imagine what our phone bill would be like, if Skype were not an option. (scares me so much I have to laugh).

We do too...and I want to thank Skype too! LOL

[Ismael&Blair 66]

Ok I know I am so lucky to have had this three months in Morocco with my husband. And so soon after being with

him in September and October too. But now the time is ending. Time to get back and file the petition.

Time to start this process so we can permanently be together in the same country. I know all that but.......all I can feel right now is sadness at the thought of once again leaving him. I know you have all been through it. It is something we all have to live through. Just having a little trouble facing the

thought of leaving.

Ok now I will stop whining. My husband should be coming back in a few minutes and I will go spend time with him. I guess I just needed to talk to others who also go through this. And believe me I know

I have been so lucky to have this time with him. But wow did it go fast. I wish I could rewind the clock

and still have three months here. But it is time to face reality......like it or not.

You are so lucky to have spent 3 months with your hubby. I can relate with what you are going through because I went through it myself. I remembered I cried my eyes the day before my departure. And now it's been 10 1/2 months later. Just look at me as an example, I never knew I would make this far and survive this separation from my hubby. Thanks to Skype and the internet! I have to say it was tough and still tough on weekend late nights and thank goodness for Visa Journey and access to the ever interesting reading. We somehow will manage!

I am excited because I will be going to see him in less than a month from now. But I won't be as fortunate like you to stay that long. But I'll take the 6 weeks I'll be there! And I am still waiting to get an interview date. So we will just have to wait and see how that plays out.

Just stay positive and know that you are coming back to the US to do your process so you guys can be together forever in one place together. That was how I had to put my mindset and wow, we have gotten this far.

And I want to thank Visa Journey for this outlet for us people going through the same thing and know that we are all in the same boat. Stay positive and it will go fast. . I still remembered you posting when you were going to get on the plane to go to Morocco to get marry! So hang in there, take care and have a safe flight back!

if only just to have others to talk to who REALLY understood how I felt. My family and friends didn't understand the pain and fear and frustration.

I totally agree with you on this!

[abbi627 43]

Thank you so much to everyone who replied to me. I have not been on here much. Just spending

every possible second with my husband. I just finished packing. Tomorrow morning I have to leave here. I cant even look at anyone in the family without crying. And I just seem to hold onto my husband with tears in my eyes. I cant imagine how to say goodbye to him tomorrow. I know we all go through this and that is why I am posting here. It feels like this trip has been a roller coaster of

emotions. Excitement joy and happiness on arriving and seeing my husband. The sometimes crazy

and frustrating process of getting married. The wonderful joy of the day we signed our marriage

contract. The happiness and contentment of settling into married life and having all this time together.

It was like we were just a regular married couple not separated by thousands of miles or dealing

with immigration. And now comes the gut wrenching sorrow of saying goodbye. I have to keep

reminding myself this is not forever. That I will be filing the petition and praying he will be home with me soon. And I can come back to visit. But right now that does not seem to help much. All I can

think of is tomorrow night I will not be with my husband. And it feels like my heart is breaking.

Thank you all for listening and for your kind responses. It has helped me. Now I just have to deal with this.

[RFQ 110]

I spend several days crying before hand... Somehow on the day I left it all just goes numb. I think its emotional shock-- just can't allow any feelings.

i don't really know how to survive it--one day at a time I suppose. Some days my husband and I don't even want to talk on skype. I spend a lot of time thinking about military families... when my friends' husbands have been deployed more than they are home for the last few years-- even a year at a time. Makes me appreciate them