Violent 2 Year GC holder mother & Divorce

[dwheels76 5,468]

Hi VisaJourney, i always used to come here and seek the good advice, sadly this time its sad news

I brought my wife over on a K1 visa and she got her 2 year GC, it expires in 2014.

we have a 2 months old baby boy

Since she came to the US she has been moody, violent, different, she called the cops 2 times because she wanted them to force me get her a plane ticket back, but because i love her i always tried to make things better. i always said to my self she must be like this because she is a new bride, new country, she is bored at home......etc. I even brought her mother over twice in 1.5 years we been marred so she can feel better. but now with the baby her she is more violent and disrespectful.

twice i had to call the police because she throws and break things around the house. tables, vases, plates, ....etc ...There is 2 police reports. last time the police brought over a lady from CPS Child protective services to talk to her and give her phone numbers for mental counseling.

Now what i want is for her to go back to her country and for the Baby to stay with me, my mom and my sister (who lives in California) offered to help me take care of the baby.

But she said she wont leave the US without the baby.

i live in Texas and the divorce can take a minimum of 60 days.

here are my questions:

1- How can i get her placed on removal proceedings?

2- How can i get to keep my son? do i contact CPS and file a claim of custody?

Thanks

In my personal opinion your wife is suffering from Post port um depression. Have her checked out dear. i bet the violence and behavior changes happened right after pregnancy. and just got worst.

Check those things out and try to keep the family unit together if thats what all parties really want. Her going back with a newborn no husband and stigma of divorce on her can't be a good thing.

Please take her to the doctors. You can even have her hospitalized for what 24 or 48 hours to be evaluated. For sake of baby and you and your marriage at least try that.Y

You can't remove her from the country she is not a puppy from the pound. Work it out please.

[Jon and Krissy 452]

You know, she may be seriously mentally ill. Has she been much worse since the baby was born? She might have post-partum depression bordering on psychosis - I suggest you find her professional help immediately, if she is not willing, you may be able to have her committed and/or get a convervatorship over her.

Hi VisaJourney, i always used to come here and seek the good advice, sadly this time its sad news

I brought my wife over on a K1 visa and she got her 2 year GC, it expires in 2014.

we have a 2 months old baby boy

Since she came to the US she has been moody, violent, different, she called the cops 2 times because she wanted them to force me get her a plane ticket back, but because i love her i always tried to make things better. i always said to my self she must be like this because she is a new bride, new country, she is bored at home......etc. I even brought her mother over twice in 1.5 years we been marred so she can feel better. but now with the baby her she is more violent and disrespectful.

twice i had to call the police because she throws and break things around the house. tables, vases, plates, ....etc ...There is 2 police reports. last time the police brought over a lady from CPS Child protective services to talk to her and give her phone numbers for mental counseling.

Now what i want is for her to go back to her country and for the Baby to stay with me, my mom and my sister (who lives in California) offered to help me take care of the baby.

But she said she wont leave the US without the baby.

i live in Texas and the divorce can take a minimum of 60 days.

here are my questions:

1- How can i get her placed on removal proceedings?

2- How can i get to keep my son? do i contact CPS and file a claim of custody?

Thanks

[pascanda 13]

As a Post Partum nurse, she sounds as if she has post partum depression. Have you taken her to the Doctor recently? If not, I would call her OB/GYN and get an appointment soon.

[Carie_Azan 35]

I agree with the last three posters. it sounds a lot like PPD. it's more common then not. please try to get her some help. I wish you all the best, I hope it gets better.

[johnanne 1]

Ramsis i agree with Harpa Timsah that since your wife gave birth two months ago maybe she is having some problems and dont know how to deal with those issues so if i was in your situation i would try to find out as much information possible before drawing a conclusion. please remember that it takes two people of an opposite sex to produce a child, neither you nor your wife could not have a baby without each other so i would not recommend separating the child from neither one of you. Should you come to that conclusion of separating make sure to have enough evidence of why you should have custody of the child and another thing i want to mention is if both of you were genuinely join in love then i dont why your wife would want you to pay her money when you are separated it should left up to your conscience to give her. Money cannot buy true love it have to come naturally and if your family or her family did not put you together then i dont think why it should be an option for separation of your marriage. Family should be willing to help both of you to resolve or mend the broken part of the relationship and you all will be happy. ###### luck .

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Senor Darnell, you're on fire tonite Sir. Not that I disagree with your thoughts (yes I know, I'm a bad apple) I'm just surprised that you offered these thoughts so casually.

OP, I suspect that Madam is mentally ill (post partum), this can be treated relatively easily but it will require her participation since after all she's the one that is ill but making the whole household ill too. The old adage about leading a horse to water.

Here is what I think though, you need to have a three legged stool, one leg standing on steadying the love of your life medically, one leg in protecting yourself from her mood swings criminally (of which it will get worse before getting better and this is if she cooperates with therapy and meds) and the third one is the safety of the child. There is no immigration resolution I'm afraid.I doubt she will be deported even if she commits a crime.

Good luck.

[Hypnos 6,578]

Fathers attempting to abrogate their parental responsibilities is one of the reasons there is such a large pro-female bias in family courts these days.

[Jawaree 718]

Dude mental issue was mentioned ....commit her...get police reports, the aim is to get your child and be

rid of her...prove U are mentally able, financially able, have family support & stability, Texas is a place

one can divorce quickly but that's if no kids , property,or issues, so its a long way to go in the courts, get

U a female divorce atty & don't focus on the immigration part as its not much U can do until if she commits

a crime then ICE deals with her.

[fantonledzepp 159]

I have to call bull**** on some of these posts saying that it's post partum depression. Do you really think that a depressed woman would call the police because her husband wouldn't buy her a plane ticket? Do you think that it's normal to throw things at her husband? Even if this is an amplification of a person that is not balanced, the OP has indicated that he doesn't want to continue in this relationship. He does, however, want to have a relationship with son. He has not asked for advice on saving his relationship with his wife, as far as we're concerned, the relationship is beyond repair. I know that I would be upset if I ask for advice on something like this, and people start giving the other party the benefit of the doubt.

I believe that Darnell has given the OP a very real option. Of course, he doesn't want to lose his son. It may be extreme, but sometimes extreme circumstances require extreme measures.

Ramsis, if I were in your situation, I would follow Vanessa&Tony's advice. Get the attorney, file for divorce and sole custody, file for the order of protection (it may be tough to get without an arrest, but every state is different), and don't get the child the passport.

Who knows, you may get full custody, you may have to pay alimony, only the courts can determine this.

And there's nothing you can do about her immigration status. She is a legal resident and can remove conditions without you.

Best of luck brother.

[Bugs 455]

I don't think the people calling this postpartum depression have read the OP carefully. He's saying she has been like this ever since arriving in the U.S.

Edited May 13, 2013 by Leon & Mylen

[Joe2506 3]

This so so sad after the entire process and now a new born to be faced with such a terrible situation. I do hope you find a way through this.

[SurrenderNess 5]

http://www.fathersrights.com/legal-services/child-custody/

http://www.cadivorce.com/news/fathers-and-children-determining-custody-arrangements/

Just offering some links-- very sorry to hear about your situation. The courts want the child's life to remain as normal as possible because its in the best interest of the child. They will probably not take kindly to the idea of someone fleeing the country with an American citizen child. I'm just speculating, but I know it was a big deal for the courts just when I drove 30 minutes across the state border to the next state. Keep records of everything, especially her" moments". Courts love details and facts, including specific times, dates, and descriptions. If she is in danger of harming the child you can file for an order of protection at the local court.

Since I don't know your wife, and how comfortable she is with the US systems, I will just add this--- Be aware that sometimes if the other parent knows you are going to do something, they may try to do it first. She could run to the court and make up a story how you are abusive and get a protective order and take the kids from you-- force you out of the house even.... and you would be stuck waiting for a court date to prove your innocence.

Good heavens Darnell... tell me you aren't serious.

Darnell is totally right....btw if you just want to be with your baby, why are you trying to remove the proceddings ? ...why are you trying to shut her all the way out? what if she wanted to see her baby? would you prevent her from that because of something between the 2 of you? she broke vases and so on but you never mentioned her harming the baby so why are you even trying to take the baby from her? wouldn't that be unfair? how can i believe that she is the bad ones etc.. and you are the innocent ones..it could be the contrare ..right ?...im going to give you an advice because i have had the same situation my self..Do NOT try to UNFAIR her, YOU or the kid because you will be the ones harmed and the baby..if you really love him...don't unfair him or his mother or even your self.

[brahimwaleilah 4]

Worst advice ever how can you ask a father to give up on his kid you should be ashamed

I agree with u 100% on that shayma.

[SurrenderNess 5]

i thought about that, but i love my son so much, and she told me when she go back she will expect money from me monthly and not just for the baby for her as well. and if i dont send enough money she will start contacting my family members!!

She is trying to act strong and so on, first of all she can't force you to send her money, secondly she is lonely in a FORIEGN country ( her view) and she doesn't want to look weak.If your wife was smart enough to be an evil, She wouldn't have told you that, She woulda have been scilent till she goes back home and then ask you for money and if you didn't send her..she would contact your family members..be smart..she is just huffing and buffing

[SurrenderNess 5]

Here's the pitch .. .

Send em back, file for divorce.

Send no monies to them.

When she starts contacting your family - have them tell her - 'You made the choice, you live with it'

and be done with it.

Very wise honestly