After citizenship husband leaves me and 2 kids behind.

[okspider 0]

That is awful!! I guess all you can do now is remember your beautiful children and try to live again

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Sorry that you are going through this. I will hit him up style on the finance part. Where I am confused is to why in 10 years you haven't notice a change in his behavior. You said that everything was fine no problems. Well that maybe the problem a relationship isn't supposed to always be peaches and cream. Him seeing someone else was already in the making. He has been with this woman and also making plans to be with her. How could a person love you show no qualms and then all of a sudden jump up and decide to leave you. It makes no sense

It happens. I have heard it before, men leave and the women are stunned because some men can act so darn good and are excellent calculated pretenders who put all ducks in a row and at the preceise right time are gone. They just push a delete button.

The women never saw it coming. In hind sight there may have been some flags along the way she has missed, but sometimes not while it is

unfolding.

[kambingaso 9]

The other woman is in Tunisia as well? You say he was "never late," etc, but did he return home for trips solo? Did he meet the other woman recently, or was she introduced by the mother?

He sounds like a spineless monster, to make it seem that his mother was whispering in his ear instead of just being upfront about this. I'm so sorry to read about your problem, dear, and I hope it can be resolved with the least amount of grief--especially for the kids.

[destiny64 222]

He is Tunisian. My health is fine and there is a business.The friend came to me that about the other woman..i do not own a store with him.

Yes its a very similar story , go into the Morocco forum and you will find it. Get a lawyer and think about your kids. Don't focus on the fact you met him via immigration, any relationship can go bad. If you convince yourself he planned it all along , you will drive yourself crazy. Let it go and focus on whats important.

[BarbSami 32]

Sorry that you are going through this. I will hit him up style on the finance part. Where I am confused is to why in 10 years you haven't notice a change in his behavior. You said that everything was fine no problems. Well that maybe the problem a relationship isn't supposed to always be peaches and cream. Him seeing someone else was already in the making. He has been with this woman and also making plans to be with her. How could a person love you show no qualms and then all of a sudden jump up and decide to leave you. It makes no sense

IIt was a shocker. We disagreed on things but it wasnt like we were mad and couldnt or wouldnt talk to each other. He never not came home and if he met friends for coffee I would know it. He always was kind to me and the childrens. It happen just as I stated. A friend came by to tell me about the divorce and he mention the part about the woman. Either he was dumb or the friend because the friend that brought me the news can be called as a wittness if needed. It does not make sense but that is how it all happened. I still do not know what happen to he and I. Thanks Barbara

[BarbSami 32]

The other woman is in Tunisia as well? You say he was "never late," etc, but did he return home for trips solo? Did he meet the other woman recently, or was she introduced by the mother?

He sounds like a spineless monster, to make it seem that his mother was whispering in his ear instead of just being upfront about this. I'm so sorry to read about your problem, dear, and I hope it can be resolved with the least amount of grief--especially for the kids.

I feel she is in Tunisia because thats where the mother is. This too shall pass.

[BarbSami 32]

Yes its a very similar story , go into the Morocco forum and you will find it. Get a lawyer and think about your kids. Don't focus on the fact you met him via immigration, any relationship can go bad. If you convince yourself he planned it all along , you will drive yourself crazy. Let it go and focus on whats important.

I will take a look, Thanks. I feel that if the mother did suggest it, he is a grown man and If he did not want to he wouldnt have. What he did was a decision he made.

[BarbSami 32]

Who knows whats in another person mind or heart. There are some people in the world that are just that good at being deceptive. I worked and had 2children to care for and a husband. He never gave me reason to not trust him and If he had we would have never made all the years together. Anyways, God gives justice. Barbara

[BarbSami 32]

Who knows whats in another person mind or heart. There are some people in the world that are just that good at being deceptive. I worked and had 2children to care for and a husband. He never gave me reason to not trust him and If he had we would have never made all the years together. Anyways, God gives justice. Barbara

Thanks everyone for the Advice and comments. This has been very difficult for me. Trying to stay strong for the sake of my children and not ready to talk to my family about this.

[trinitylupe 0]

Barbara, truly I will pray for you during this very difficult time. I do not understand how you could be selfish for asking for more than what is being offered. What amount of money can replace a father's daily presence in the life of their child? In this case he is walking away from them as his own free choice. Responsibity for raising children is the hardest job in the world. Please count on my prayers. May God be with you and your children.

Jannie

[trinitylupe 0]

Barbara, I am praying for you and your family. May God be with you during this difficult time. Being a single parent is the hardest job in the world. Is there any amount of money that can replace the absence of a father in his children's daily life?

Edited May 5, 2013 by trinitylupe

[Maxheadspace 48]

This is an emotional time for me. I have been married for 10 years June7th 2013, A month ago my husband walked out on me and two kids...

This was so shocking to me that I didnt know what to say, he proceeded to tell me that my husband mom had been pressuring him to divorce me to marry a girl from home...

My only concern is protecting myself and my children, Barbara

A very bad situation. You have my condolences. I don't know the whole story, but I would guess that after 12 years together and two children that he wasn't with you just for US citizenship. But you are correct that you must protect yourself and your children. If he is from the Middle East I am sure you understand that families often arrange marriages, and I understand (but don't support) that his mother would pressure him to find a woman back home. Even a close friend of mine went through the same scenario...he left his wife here in the US and moved back to the Middle East to marry a local girl back home at his mother's insistence. Very sad and I'm sorry you are going through this. Best of luck.

[Boggy1974 124]

This story is unfortunate...follow what you said in the post by consulting and hiring an attorney to represent you and the children's interests! Best of luck!

[Enigma11561 336]

I cannot speal for your state but here in New York there is a "fair and equal" distribution of assets. If items such as a house or cars were purchased during the marriage you have a right to them in some fashion. Many people will sell the home, split the equity and the wife now goes on to something smaller that she can afford on her salary. Sometimes there will be alimony for the wife. The $1,500 for the kids seems reasonable. However, there could be terms where he needs to contribute to some type of educational trust for a higher education. Also, make sure your attorney makes him take out both disability and life insurance where you are the beneficiary. In the event something happens to him, you are assured of some lump sum income to cover expenses. Regardless of the reasons given, you are just one of many millions of couples who get divorced each year. It happens.

[India23 22]

Barbara I am so sorry for this hardship you and your children are going through. Nobody deserves to be abandoned and treated this way! I have a friend who got married at age 20 to a guy I never trusted but everyone else loved. She thought he was a great sweet Christian guy and he ended up physically abusing her and cheating on her multiple times. He also put her through a horrible messy divorce and tried taking the kids away from her but not because he wanted them, just to spite her! Thank God things are looking up for her now. She was married to him for 7 years and has 3 young children with him. My point is that your not alone in what your going through, unfortunately this happens to a lot of people I noticed that you said you haven't told your family yet. Obviously I don't know anything about them and maybe they wouldn't be understanding or kind in your time of need but I worry that you're alone in your pain. I think you need to tell someone close to you that you trust. You need support and guidance through this time from someone who loves you. Sometimes in forums people can be heartless and unsympathetic as I read in a few earlier posts. Nobody here knows you or your situation and I fear some of the posts might make you feel worse than you already do! Don't listen to those people and PLEASE reach out to someone you love and tell them! Please eat and try to sleep, if not for yourself then for your children. I'll be praying for you! Things will get better and you will be happy again. God bless!