Peruvian Women After $

[gigarange999 1]

Hey everyone, I am talking to this awesome Peruvian woman that I have been skyping with for a few months, 5x a week. I just got back from visiting her from Thursday to Tuesday a few days ago and she is awesome.

I have ran into a few people while I was in Peru and a few people up here who say that Peruvian women are just after one thing- money.

She is very sweet and seems to have been raised right and I don't want to believe that she is just "acting" like she likes me. We have had the most passionate intimate relations I have had with any girl and we also have the best connection that I have ever had with any girl. Some people say this may be because she is acting.

I will explain more a little bit later but I have plenty of good reasons to believe that she is sincere. She has a job as a high school teacher and has a great life in Lima. Many people say that now since she is educated she knows she can do better than the Peruvian men who stereotypically treat the women very badly.

Does anyone have any first hand experience of gringos marrying a Peruvian woman? Do they change after they come to the US? If so how?

[LizLovesFlor 11]

Bad apples are everywhere. But I've never heard anything specifically negative about Peruvian women. Maybe the people telling you that are just jealous of you or her. Seems like a decent girl from what you wrote. Give the girl a chance. And maybe your friends or whoever is telling u this are the ones "acting." They are probably bitter,m.

[Mily90 8]

Don't listen to those people...trust me people will always talk out of jealousy it happens to me many times and since I did not pay attention they stopped talking..You follow your heart!!

[vegas12 12]

I married a Brazilian women we skyped for a year before we met. I went there for three months and lived with her. We married while I was there the last month I was there and we had good time and bad. We found we both grew and want to be together. You did was I call a Disney Land visit with her. My wife had dated a American before but they only spent two week at a time. Each time they went on Vacation he paid. He visited here twice and ask her to marry him she accepted. Then after the whole process of getting her a K1 visa he wrote her a dear john letter canceling her visa. He only visited her twice for two week at a time. She had the impress that this was what life with him and Americans. The reason I am telling you this you need to spend months if possible with her. The internet and just a few days or week is not enough to know each other. If you do not speak Spanish then that also will be a problem. I do not speak Portuguese and she does not speak English. This was the main problem between us. We have resolves this using translator and this allow us to become closer. My point is just a couple of week together is not enough to know each other and give false impressions. We learned a lot about each other and have resolve any misunderstanding. I would recommend you live with her for at least two months. Then you will know more but nothing is perfect this will give you a good start.

[gigarange999 1]

I understand. I was just wondering. I will definitely follow my heart.

It has been good hearing what people say. It makes me more aware. I am just a little concerned thats all.

From what I know about Peru, women have a really difficult time getting a job and money. Also, Peruvian men ALWAYS pay for the women when they go out. If I were a Peruvian women, I would probably go for a guy that I know will be able to provide a good future for myself as well- amongst all the other reasons why you are attracted to someone. It doesn't seem that bad if a Peruvian women wants to with a guy that can give more opportunity and a better life. I don't neccesarily know if that is a gold digger or not. Especially, based on the cultural differences with America and Peru.

I am more concerned with her changing into a so called "monster" after we get married. If that happens I will just divorce her and send her back. Nothing lost except a little time, money and a piece of my heart. That is the same risk I would take with any other relationship.

Also, she has a good life there. she has a job, friends and family.

I let he know that a friend of mine married a foreign bride and she was concerned with him leaving her for another woman and she would be left with nothing. She wanted him to give her a couple years salary if they got a divorce but he said no and agreed to $5000 for every year they were married. So if they remained married for 10 years she would get $50000 in a divorce- unless she cheated, she would get nothing.

I told the girl I am talking to about that and she said she didnt like it. She wouldnt want anything and doesnt think its good to go spend the mans money if the marriage didnt work. She would just go back to peru and start all over. I think that is a good sign.

The woman I ran into yesterday said she has a Peruvian girl living with her that her son met and she said all of the same nice things at first. Then turned into a lazy monster who sleeps all day. I also ran into an American man in Peru who said be careful, these peruvian women change into monsters when they move to the US. I dont know why, but the word "monster" has been used in multiple occasions when referring to the peruvian women who come to America.

Whats up?

What do you guys think?

Edited May 4, 2013 by chicagolage

[TBoneTX 45,659]

The replies above are sensible. Everyone is an individual. Just keep your antennae alert for red flags.

The question is, are you going to judge her on what "society" thinks, or on what she means to you?

[gigarange999 1]

The replies above are sensible. Everyone is an individual. Just keep your antennae alert for red flags.

The question is, are you going to judge her on what "society" thinks, or on what she means to you?

I am going to judge her on what she means to me. My heart tells me she is a very sweet girl and I am happy to know her.

Can't wait to continue to get to know each other.

I really like her a lot. Life is risks. I am confident it will work out

Anyone have any other opinons?

[woodsman4cb 8]

My neighbor married a peruvian that didn't know English. She organized his house, then his shop, went back to college, took english courses, and nursing courses. Now she drives a new car, works in the emergency room at the hospital, knows good english and seems to be a very good mother to their new baby. She definately isn't lazy.

I do know of another peruvian that married an american, after they communicated for awhile. She planned on coming to the USA, told him that she was a strong person, and could leave her family. He told her they would visit Peru periodically. After their petition was approved, she changed her mind, and said her family members needed her, and did not want to come live in USA. She said she would visit USA, but wanted to have a baby in Peru. She said was common in Peru, to have american husband to send money...they divorced...that goes to show you that women are different, no matter what country they are from. They are not the same...

[woodsman4cb 8]

If you do not speak Spanish then that also will be a problem. I do not speak Portuguese and she does not speak English. This was the main problem between us. We have resolves this using translator and this allow us to become closer.

My Fiancee knows most English, but I have found that using my I-phone with a free translator application is very valuable. I don't even use the cellular function while in Brazil, I use the free wi-fi at restaraunts, and at her condo...put it in airplane mode, so you don't get charged for anything cellular. Now, if she doesn't understand something, I have the help in my pocket...

[gigarange999 1]

My Fiancee knows most English, but I have found that using my I-phone with a free translator application is very valuable. I don't even use the cellular function while in Brazil, I use the free wi-fi at restaraunts, and at her condo...put it in airplane mode, so you don't get charged for anything cellular. Now, if she doesn't understand something, I have the help in my pocket...

Hey thank you so much for responding to my message. I am terribly busy right now preparing some sales material for my new sales campaign so I can make more $$ to get married and bring her here. I have been getting side tracked a little lately as well.

I really appreciate your insight. She is a wonderful person and I really look forward to spending our lives together.

I have been doing the same with my phone in Peru.

Thank you so much. Gotta go.

[NordicSaxon 0]

On 5/4/2013 at 11:44 AM, gigarange999 said:

I understand. I was just wondering. I will definitely follow my heart.

It has been good hearing what people say. It makes me more aware. I am just a little concerned thats all.

From what I know about Peru, women have a really difficult time getting a job and money. Also, Peruvian men ALWAYS pay for the women when they go out. If I were a Peruvian women, I would probably go for a guy that I know will be able to provide a good future for myself as well- amongst all the other reasons why you are attracted to someone. It doesn't seem that bad if a Peruvian women wants to with a guy that can give more opportunity and a better life. I don't neccesarily know if that is a gold digger or not. Especially, based on the cultural differences with America and Peru.

I am more concerned with her changing into a so called "monster" after we get married. If that happens I will just divorce her and send her back. Nothing lost except a little time, money and a piece of my heart. That is the same risk I would take with any other relationship.

Also, she has a good life there. she has a job, friends and family.

I let he know that a friend of mine married a foreign bride and she was concerned with him leaving her for another woman and she would be left with nothing. She wanted him to give her a couple years salary if they got a divorce but he said no and agreed to $5000 for every year they were married. So if they remained married for 10 years she would get $50000 in a divorce- unless she cheated, she would get nothing.

I told the girl I am talking to about that and she said she didnt like it. She wouldnt want anything and doesnt think its good to go spend the mans money if the marriage didnt work. She would just go back to peru and start all over. I think that is a good sign.

The woman I ran into yesterday said she has a Peruvian girl living with her that her son met and she said all of the same nice things at first. Then turned into a lazy monster who sleeps all day. I also ran into an American man in Peru who said be careful, these peruvian women change into monsters when they move to the US. I dont know why, but the word "monster" has been used in multiple occasions when referring to the peruvian women who come to America.

Whats up?

What do you guys think?

Gigarange999, I wanted to respond what you wrote. I married a "nice" Peruvian women 2 years ago, probably going into it  naive. She was nice at first, but definitely either changed, or showed her true colors. We had a child relatively quickly, after I spent a lot of money to get her here and make her happy. Our son is a blessing to be sure, but she became resentful about not being around  her family, not having a taxi service closeby (we live in suburbs), me not being able to send her to medical school (too expensive) and on and on and on. We went to church together, I prayed for her and I spoke to others about what to do to help her or make her happy (including her Peruvian/Latin friends here). Nothing seemed to work at all. I was doing the yard work, working a very busy night shift, and most of the housework. I got very little help from her. Our home turned into a pigpen (dirty diapers thrown everywhere, garbage thrown everywhere) despite my efforts, and she just got more and  angry with me everytime I asked her to help a little (like washing the dishes). Many times, many many times, I felt like I was married to the very wrong person. My advice is, not to "follow" your heart, but get to know the person well first, and when you see warning signs earlier on before marrying, please take notice. I am sure there are a lot of nice Peruvian women out there, but please be aware, there are a lot of bad apples there, just wanting a Green card out of you. We are divorcing now, and she is using my son is a pawn in all this. Sad, but with God's help, I will get through it. 

[TBoneTX 45,659]

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