Will significant age difference pose a problem in interview date? Please help!

[kally101 1]

As someone mentioned before, your red flags keep increasing the more often you post... think about it from a CO point of view:

No pictures - "because I don't like having my picture taken"

No emails - " I deleted them all, I didn't think about them being important. My husband deleted them all too"

No phone records - "He uses a calling card so no records"

No hotel receipts, or any receipts of doing things together - "He stays with me and we just didn't think to keep receipts"

Etc.... the excuses will most sound fishy.

With the almost 50 year age gap you will most likely have a huge uphill battle. The only suggestion I can think of at this point is, since he is retired have him visit now, and stay through the interview. If they allow him in the embassy - take him with you! If they do not allow him in at least you will have had a few more months face to face, hopefully some pictures with the family by then, etc. At this point every bit will help.

Best of luck!

You are right it really does sound fishy and even though they will not take our word for it I just have to say this is all the truth sounds impossible but from my heart the truth.. He did actually save some of the international calling cards that he used to call me, but will that prove much? *sigh*.. He's always saved our receipts from supermarket, movies, restaurants etc but as I stated before we did not think this thing through.. We did have loads and I mean loads of email conversations that would have been great evidence and since hes been calling me every other night since 2009 if he didn't use calling cards that would have been great evidence also.. We had intended for him to come for the interview but what I'll do is suggest (as u suggested) that he come here now and stay till interview. He was just here in February though and before that it was November.. Thanks much for your input, much appreciated.

[MedRoni 161]

You are right it really does sound fishy and even though they will not take our word for it I just have to say this is all the truth sounds impossible but from my heart the truth.. He did actually save some of the international calling cards that he used to call me, but will that prove much? *sigh*.. He's always saved our receipts from supermarket, movies, restaurants etc but as I stated before we did not think this thing through.. We did have loads and I mean loads of email conversations that would have been great evidence and since hes been calling me every other night since 2009 if he didn't use calling cards that would have been great evidence also.. We had intended for him to come for the interview but what I'll do is suggest (as u suggested) that he come here now and stay till interview. He was just here in February though and before that it was November.. Thanks much for your input, much appreciated.

I know he was recently here, but unfortunately because you were not aware of what was important to keep or have for immigration he may now have to "pay the price" of a ticket sooner then he would have liked. This should be one of the most important things in your lives. Show it to the CO by doing what you can now. Yes, you will need to be honest and tell them you don't have a lot of the proof and why, but it may look better if you can also say "He has spent the last few months with me here for support and getting to know my family better"... Just my two cents

[kally101 1]

I know he was recently here, but unfortunately because you were not aware of what was important to keep or have for immigration he may now have to "pay the price" of a ticket sooner then he would have liked. This should be one of the most important things in your lives. Show it to the CO by doing what you can now. Yes, you will need to be honest and tell them you don't have a lot of the proof and why, but it may look better if you can also say "He has spent the last few months with me here for support and getting to know my family better"... Just my two cents

this just makes so much sense to me.. I will call him and make the suggestion not long from now.. We just got to face the consequences for our ignorance. Thanks again so much for your input am glad you responded.

[Caramel Swirl 54]

... This makes me sad even though its reality and I do need to be patient... We have no paperwork of that sort, just records of him visiting me and the wedding photos... I will discuss opening a shared bank account with him.. Thanks so much for your response, much appreciated!

I'm not a picture person either, so I don't think we have 5 pics together, but your hubby's tickets ever 3-mths for the past how many years is a damn good evidence. As another person said get yourself a camera or phone and start taking pics all over the place and even get you added to one of his accounts. Don't worry...you won't have any problems proving something true.

[kally101 1]

I'm not a picture person either, so I don't think we have 5 pics together, but your hubby's tickets ever 3-mths for the past how many years is a damn good evidence. As another person said get yourself a camera or phone and start taking pics all over the place and even get you added to one of his accounts. Don't worry...you won't have any problems proving something true.

Another sigh of relief.. Experience teaches wisdom..I am going to see what we can put together from now.. Thanks so much for your response! Much appreciated..

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Based on what was said by VJers on a similar case previously and what you have said so far you need to be careful that the CO does nto think that he is just a USC that is trying to help a friend come over.

[LilyR 7]

First, please fill in your timeline so we can provide more useful information and it helps others understand timing that could also impact them.

The lack of evidence would concern me greatly when there is a red flag as well.

So ... your 130 was approved already. Did your husband need to attend a standard interview? What is his local office (or where was the 130 adjudicated?) Do you have any inadmissibilities for which you would need a waiver?

How did you and your husband meet?

[Peter_Pan 661]

Your chances are very slim. Did he put you on his will, add you to his cards?

[kally101 1]

Based on what was said by VJers on a similar case previously and what you have said so far you need to be careful that the CO does nto think that he is just a USC that is trying to help a friend come over.

I understand and this is why I am so concerned.. Thanks much for input, much appreciated!

[kally101 1]

Your chances are very slim. Did he put you on his will, add you to his cards?

Wow! I know its reality but this sure didn't make me feel so right at all.. In answer to your questions , nope.. What cards?

[kally101 1]

First, please fill in your timeline so we can provide more useful information and it helps others understand timing that could also impact them.

The lack of evidence would concern me greatly when there is a red flag as well.

So ... your 130 was approved already. Did your husband need to attend a standard interview? What is his local office (or where was the 130 adjudicated?) Do you have any inadmissibilities for which you would need a waiver?

How did you and your husband meet?

Yes I am living in regret mostly because we did not take any pics together.. And to answer your questions respectively.. My I-130 has already been approved and we are now at the DS-230 stage, no , Vermont service center, no , introduced by a relative..

[Karee 4,190]

Pictures are not just secondary evidence at our embassy. They are proof of your relationship being around other people. Take pictures of you being out and about,in JA, but pictures of you being around friends and family. They asked who was in our pictures and what is their relationship to us. Such as family, friends, even my husband's dogs. They want to see your life as husband and wife told through pictures. Remember you are proving to them a real relationship.

I read through a couple pages of this thread with people saying pictures are just secondary until I got to your post. Your are 100% correct. Pictures were not considered secondary in my case. I lived with my wife in Bangkok for 2+ years. I had 100+ entry stamps for Thailand in my passport. we gave them all that and 5 photos. They said that wasn't enough, and gave my wife 221g at the interview saying they wanted more photos. We simply ran around Bangkok and took a bunch of photos that day and turned them in the next day and she got the visa.

Point is, it's whatever the CO feels like accepting as evidence. I don't know much about the consulate in Jamaica, but that age difference would be a huge red flag in most countries. If they think that that the relationship is SOLELY to obtain an immigration benefit, you can forget it.

Edited April 27, 2013 by Karee

[Peter_Pan 661]

Wow! I know its reality but this sure didn't make me feel so right at all.. In answer to your questions , nope.. What cards?

Credit cards?

[kally101 1]

I read through a couple pages of this thread with people saying pictures are just secondary until I got to your post. Your are 100% correct. Pictures were not considered secondary in my case. I lived with my wife in Bangkok for 2+ years. I had 100+ entry stamps for Thailand in my passport. we gave them all that and 5 photos. They said that wasn't enough, and gave my wife 221g at the interview saying they wanted more photos. We simply ran around Bangkok and took a bunch of photos that day and turned them in the next day and she got the visa.

Point is, it's whatever the CO feels like accepting as evidence. I don't know much about the consulate in Jamaica, but that age difference would be a huge red flag in most countries. If they think that that the relationship is SOLELY to obtain an immigration benefit, you can forget it.

Oh well it is now completely obvious that I have a lot to worry about.. I would have thought that the fact that you lived with your wife for 2+ years would have been proof enough but apparently now *sigh*. I was thinking that since we have records of my husband's visits here since 2009 that would have helped us but now that thought has been crushed.. And you are indeed correct when you stated >>>>"Point is, it's whatever the CO feels like accepting as evidence"... Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience, much appreciated!

Credit cards?

Nope

[Jawaree 717]

Young lady are you joking around or serious? Don't take this the wrong way

I wish you all the best and want to awaken you to the realities of immigrating

you have to get evidences together since you are saying you both been in touch

since 2009.

Its hard for me an outsider to understand it, you have huge red-flags but each post

sends up another, really what young 26 yr old don't love taking pictures , what 73 yr

old on the beach don't want to take pictures, if you tell that to IO ,you deleted his

emails, so can he print some of his and bring to you.If you are an interacial couple

really most Caucasian don't buy/use phone cards they prefer a proper phone plan, do

your family knows him, you keep stressing it was a "private wedding", every post carries

a lame excuse, don't give these lame answers to interviewer.

No offence but you make the scenario seem as if you guys met, he visit often, he wants to

help you out so he says lets get married, and you all just now realize the hoops you have

to go through, the ppl at consulate is taught about each country they go into culture. I

am not saying this is it ok, I am saying get your house in order with the short time you have

maybe its a good idea for him to accompany you to the interview . I hope you are approved.