Biggest Age Difference

[rzilla 0]

14 year age difference between me and my fiancee. I'm 40, she's turning 26 in July. We received our NOA2 yesterday.

[pagong 7]

oh i thought youre the beneficiary.well im not trying to start anything either im just telling you guys whats true.

im a filipina and i know how my fellow filipinas are like.

me and my husband has 6 yrs. gap.

all filipina knows how hard life is in the philippines and filipinos are a big fan of USA.all filipino wants US VISA.

if a filipina is with an old guy that is not rich,that doesnt show she loves him,she just wants to have a green card and she is smart to know that she has lots of opportunities when she comes here in the US even if the guys she is with is not wealthy.

to have a young filipina that ages around 18-25 is a gamble.

I'm 25 and my fiancé is 29. Oh let's just face the truth that a lot of Filipino benefiaries are after green card, i honestly think that most of those people who have a large age gap can be doubtful about their real reason of marrying their fiance/fiancee not only in PI but other countries as well. but lets take considerations for those who are not.

My fiancé and I decided to have prenup agreement, so definitely I'm not after his money.

I insist before that I will go in US via working visa because I'm a professional here in Philippines, but our situation has turned to other route since we're now having our baby.

With our small age gap, I can't say whats on others mind and I will never be in their shoes.

Who knows what they're really feeling? But it feels so good to be love and be loved back.

[pagong 7]

I'm 25 and my fiancé is 29. Oh let's just face the truth that a lot of Filipino benefiaries are after green card, i honestly think that most of those people who have a large age gap can be doubtful about their real reason of marrying their fiance/fiancee not only in PI but other countries as well. but lets take considerations for those who are not.

My fiancé and I decided to have prenup agreement, so definitely I'm not after his money.

I insist before that I will go in US via working visa because I'm a professional here in Philippines, but our situation has turned to other route since we're now having our baby.

With our small age gap, I can't say whats on others mind and I will never be in their shoes.

Who knows what they're really feeling? But it feels so good to be love and be loved back.

Regardless if the age gap

[Robb&Ann 101]

philippines doesnt accept or even think that being with someone 20,30,or 40 yrs. older than you is ok or good.they didnt care bcoz they know what is happening,they know that there are other intentions besides love and they think its a smart choice.

you exactly know what im saying.and infact it came out of your mouth.

have you ever asked your father if he is happy that you are marrying a guy as old as him?.

didnt it crossed your mind that your guy can almost date your mom?

you know you never ever dreamed to be in that position.maybe you fell inlove with him.but you know for a fact that you have a different intention at first.

oh i thought youre the beneficiary.well im not trying to start anything either im just telling you guys whats true.

im a filipina and i know how my fellow filipinas are like.

me and my husband has 6 yrs. gap.

all filipina knows how hard life is in the philippines and filipinos are a big fan of USA.all filipino wants US VISA.

if a filipina is with an old guy that is not rich,that doesnt show she loves him,she just wants to have a green card and she is smart to know that she has lots of opportunities when she comes here in the US even if the guys she is with is not wealthy.

to have a young filipina that ages around 18-25 is a gamble.

I lived in the Philippines for a short while, my fiancée is from there too, and eventually we plan to probably retire there. I partly agree with you. A huge age gap turns an eye there, here, most anywhere.

Do people think there are other intentions… sure… guess what, they think that to some degree with any Filipina with any foreigner. I would bet money that those same people even believe that about your relationship too.

Are there women who feel they will just endure what they need? Yes

Are there women who marry an old man hoping to inherit when he dies? Yes

Are there women who just want a GC? Yes

Are there men who are basically seeking a Filipina just for sex? Yes

Are there men who are think of a Filipina as submissive maid type? Yes

Are there men who think a Filipina will work and improve his financial situation? Yes

Each of those kind of people is probably going to get a rude awakening.

Anyone who has been in PI for any length of time has seen some terrified looking 18 year old girl with a grumpy looking 70+ year old man. And we ALL think the same thing at first sight.

Ann and I have a 20 year gap. But don’t assume.

I know her dad, he is several years older than me, and I get along well with the man and have a lot of respect for him. I asked his permission to marry her. I think at first he was leery of me, I would be more worried if he hadn’t been. I made a promise to him to not only always support her, but to always love and care for her.

As for her intentions. She was NOT looking for some imaginary better life.

She is educated, intelligent, and confident. She comes from a relatively wealthy family. One had ran for political office and has a beautiful home on a mountain with a breathtaking view of the manila skyline at night. Her family has no expectation of us supporting or helping them financially. When we met she was doing very well at her job and in the beginning wouldn't even let me buy her load for her phone to talk to me.

Yes I support her now. She quit her job at my request to be able to spend more time together. We Skype most every waking minuet, and often even while asleep. While I am writing this she is currently napping and I can see her in the corner of my screen. I think our longest non-stop Skype call was 60 hours. The one thing that can upset her or piss her off is if I’m not on cam for too long. And I get out of sorts without her too. Are we a little OC with each other? Yup.

She is 24. Are Filipinas 18-25 a gamble? Sure. So are American women the same age. Guess what American women 30+ are a gamble too. I would bet a Filipina or any woman of any age is also a gamble. Hell, I bet men of all ages are also a gamble. I think its part of being human.

Before her I dated girls here that were even younger than her. (Granted they were insane)

Why was she interested in a white guy? Honestly that part is superficial but easy to understand. She told me about how when she was young she was friends with Mormon missionaries, they were kind, clean cut, and she found it attractive. She still prefers when I wear a tie.

I have a similar history. I was born in Okinawa, and have always had a deep attraction for Asian women. My first crush was on the singer Mitsuyo Nemoto back in 1980. So much so I had special ordered albums from japan, not exactly a common thing back then. My Ann pushes all the right buttons, she is the most amazingly stunning woman I have ever seen.

Sure we talk ####### about ‘those’ couples. We talk ####### about lots of stuff. And we know others probably talk ####### about us too.

The truth is we are perfect for each other and very well aware that if we were with anyone else we would drive them insane. We are too needy, too demanding, too OC, for anyone but each other.

Yep we have an age gap. But don’t read a lot into it. Don’t bet on me dying decades before her either. My family lives OLD and vital lives. My grandmother is still alive and maybe a little insane because she has a crush on a guy in his late 20’s (shhhh, he don’t know). lol

We like the same music, she cried like a baby when I held her and sang ‘your song’ for her. We like the same TV shows and movies, we even sync watching them online together. She is my match, my soul mate in every way!

[Bayareaguy 156]

[duraaraa 203]

I think the best way to figure it out is by asking yourself this: Would your fiancé/e be interested in you if s/he already had a green card, and plenty of money? If the answer is yes, you've got a keeper.

Edited April 26, 2013 by duraaraa

[F&Z 8]

Yep!

[mysweetlips 5]

OK. I am a Filipina & USC-Petitioner. I turned 55 years old today. He is 30. Here in the Philippines, not only do we turn heads but we also turn what is inside their heads. It is so easy to conclude, bash people, and snicker. Makes other people feel "superior" when they look down on people for whatever reason.

Is it a gamble? What is not a gamble? I was married for 28 years, separated the last few years of the marriage before divorce went final. Was that a gamble?

I came to the Philippines to visit family and what was a 2 week vacation turned into living here for many years. On my 2nd year living in the Philippines, I met someone who became my best friend. Did I plan this? No. Did he plan to become involved with me? No. We did our best to resist being together because of obvious reasons--big age difference and the problems it brings with it. We tried not seeing each other. We tried being "just friends" and that was miserable. We are happiest when we were together.

Do we have problems? Disagreements? Is our relationship dysfunctional? Are we both dysfunctional? Are we both crazy, irresponsible, stupid and foolish? Foolish maybe but definitely not stupid.

Is he after money? A GC? A better life? I would give him the world if I could. Why? Because he inspires me. He is the one who got me to dance. And dance we did... that I lost a bunch of weight. I look much younger and sexier than my classmates. I am glowing. I am happy. He makes me laugh.

I did not even know how miserable I was until I knew what being happy is. They say: It is in knowing what you do not want that you know what you want. This is what I want. This is what I prayed for and God answered my prayers. But God, in His Infinite Wisdom and Mercy, not only gave me what I wanted but what I needed. Just that my God also has a funny sense of humor and does the unexpected. He is the God of Surprises. (My Ways are not your ways.) We are a perfect fit, just that he is... much younger than me. God, you are tooo funny!

So, I tell those around me... "even if you do not understand, condone or agree with my choice, just be happy for me because I am happy."

Today is my 55th birthday. And my Surprise Birthday Present? We got our NOA2.

Peace!

[Laurka 65]

OK. I am a Filipina & USC-Petitioner. I turned 55 years old today. He is 30. Here in the Philippines, not only do we turn heads but we also turn what is inside their heads. It is so easy to conclude, bash people, and snicker. Makes other people feel "superior" when they look down on people for whatever reason.

Is it a gamble? What is not a gamble? I was married for 28 years, separated the last few years of the marriage before divorce went final. Was that a gamble?

I came to the Philippines to visit family and what was a 2 week vacation turned into living here for many years. On my 2nd year living in the Philippines, I met someone who became my best friend. Did I plan this? No. Did he plan to become involved with me? No. We did our best to resist being together because of obvious reasons--big age difference and the problems it brings with it. We tried not seeing each other. We tried being "just friends" and that was miserable. We are happiest when we were together.

Do we have problems? Disagreements? Is our relationship dysfunctional? Are we both dysfunctional? Are we both crazy, irresponsible, stupid and foolish? Foolish maybe but definitely not stupid.

Is he after money? A GC? A better life? I would give him the world if I could. Why? Because he inspires me. He is the one who got me to dance. And dance we did... that I lost a bunch of weight. I look much younger and sexier than my classmates. I am glowing. I am happy. He makes me laugh.

I did not even know how miserable I was until I knew what being happy is. They say: It is in knowing what you do not want that you know what you want. This is what I want. This is what I prayed for and God answered my prayers. But God, in His Infinite Wisdom and Mercy, not only gave me what I wanted but what I needed. Just that my God also has a funny sense of humor and does the unexpected. He is the God of Surprises. (My Ways are not your ways.) We are a perfect fit, just that he is... much younger than me. God, you are tooo funny!

So, I tell those around me... "even if you do not understand, condone or agree with my choice, just be happy for me because I am happy."

Today is my 55th birthday. And my Surprise Birthday Present? We got our NOA2.

Peace!

Congratulations on your NOA2! I wish you happy birthday and I know it already is!

Good luck to all the honest people out there who just want to be together with people they trully love.

For all the other cases, I wish the USCIS had a lie detector to immediatly reject those petitions, which are fraudulent.

[ilovehim30 34]

all im sayinng is that philippines is also like other countries,people will look at you head to foot and they will never believe that youre in a relationship because you love each other.

people will think that you hit the jackpot once youre with an old foreigner.

guys,did it ever crossed your mind that when you are in your 20's your fiancee/wife is still a baby?oh well,LOVE makes things possible i guess.

trust will always be an issue with this kind of relationship.but as long as you All are happy i am happy.

[storminnorman 9]

Wow this topic has really kinda gone places I didn't expect. We have one young lady here saying quite bluntly that in her culture it is NOT acceptable for a young woman to LOVE an significantly older man. That is interesting as there certainly seem to be many looking. Be that as it may, my fiance and I have a significant age difference and I have struggled with this since the start. My heart lead me a different direction then my logic. My primary reason for finding an overseas wife was twofold. First is the culture in the Philippines frowns on divorce, an option here all to common in the US of A. Second I truely love the Philippines and will be retiring there in a few years. If I had any doubts about her love for me I would not be filing a K! visa. I have met her whole family from Mom, Dad, Aunts, Uncles, Brother, and Sister. Not once did they indicate there was an issue with our age difference rather they were very accepting and charming.

To all of those here truely IN LOVE, there are no guarantees in life but LOVE is a blessing. To all those devote Catholics who frown upon us, ask your Priest how old Joseph was and how young Mary was.

God bless everyone here and may the Heart lead us all on our own journies.

[Laurka 65]

To all of those here truely IN LOVE, there are no guarantees in life but LOVE is a blessing. To all those devote Catholics who frown upon us, ask your Priest how old Joseph was and how young Mary was.

God bless everyone here and may the Heart lead us all on our own journies.

Leave Catholicism out of this, s'il vous plait

I'm following the topic, because I was interested in what people have to say about age difference, but the discussion has turned into what it's like in the Philippines. Never been there, but I'd go visit if I had ton of money for traveling around the world But Catholicism shouldn't be brought up like this as it has nothing to do with the issue; rather cultural and individual prejudices.

[F&Z 8]

all im sayinng is that philippines is also like other countries,people will look at you head to foot and they will never believe that youre in a relationship because you love each other.

people will think that you hit the jackpot once youre with an old foreigner.

guys,did it ever crossed your mind that when you are in your 20's your fiancee/wife is still a baby?oh well,LOVE makes things possible i guess.

trust will always be an issue with this kind of relationship.but as long as you All are happy i am happy.

If you are really in love, you put aside what other people think. The people around me have said some very unkind things about my relationship. It hurts, but I just set aside what people think. That's just how it is when you're in love.

[storminnorman 9]

Leave Catholicism out of this, s'il vous plait

I'm following the topic, because I was interested in what people have to say about age difference, but the discussion has turned into what it's like in the Philippines. Never been there, but I'd go visit if I had ton of money for traveling around the world But Catholicism shouldn't be brought up like this as it has nothing to do with the issue; rather cultural and individual prejudices.

Again not trying to turn it into a religious discussion, but the Spaniards and Catholicism does place a tremendous role in the culture of the Philippines. The Philippines is one of only two countries that does not recognize divorce and that is due to the influence of the Church.

And I encourage anyone and everyone to visit the Philippines as the many, many cultures there as well as the beauty of almost 10,000 islands make it a wonderful world. The people are the friendliest, and life is simple and very humble: both concepts very beautiful.

[ilovehim30 34]

That is the truth though.People will never believe that its all for LOVE even if you both know it is.

And people wont tell you that theres an issue with your age because filipinos still tries to be nice and hospitable.

why am i saying this stuff????

i have talked to a lot of filipina that is with old guys,

i asked if that is what they wanted and they say you know why im doing this.just understand.

some told me that i just want to get there and see what happens.

some says i dont want to do this but i have to.

the best question is do you think your wife/fiancee will date you if she is already here in the US????