Biggest Age Difference

[ilovehim30 34]

philippines doesnt accept or even think that being with someone 20,30,or 40 yrs. older than you is ok or good.they didnt care bcoz they know what is happening,they know that there are other intentions besides love and they think its a smart choice.

[Glenn & Anne 16]

philippines doesnt accept or even think that being with someone 20,30,or 40 yrs. older than you is ok or good.they didnt care bcoz they know what is happening,they know that there are other intentions besides love and they think its a smart choice.

What exactly are you saying here. That most Filipinas are not marrying the kano for love? It's just a smart financial move? Why do you say the age difference is not accepted in the Philippines? I would be interested in hearing more of what you have to say on this.

BTW, we have a 20 year difference.

[ilovehim30 34]

you exactly know what im saying.and infact it came out of your mouth.

have you ever asked your father if he is happy that you are marrying a guy as old as him?.

didnt it crossed your mind that your guy can almost date your mom?

you know you never ever dreamed to be in that position.maybe you fell inlove with him.but you know for a fact that you have a different intention at first.

[Glenn & Anne 16]

you exactly know what im saying.and infact it came out of your mouth.

have you ever asked your father if he is happy that you are marrying a guy as old as him?.

didnt it crossed your mind that your guy can almost date your mom?

you know you never ever dreamed to be in that position.maybe you fell inlove with him.but you know for a fact that you have a different intention at first.

First off let me correct you, I am the petitioner, not the beneficiary. It is obvious that this is your opinion on this issue and maybe even the views you were raised with. I will assume you found someone who is closer in age to yourself than those you snub and degrade in your post. You can't make a blanket statement about all Filipinas even if you are Filipina yourself. You make it sound very mercenary, like there is no way a Filipina could possibly be happy or ever consider being with a older man unless the financial equation makes it worth it to her. I see on here quite a few who ask questions because they barely meet the poverty guidelines to file for a visa. What do you think the reasoning is for the Filipina who will marry someone who is not well off or wealthy?

I am sad to see that you can believe such things about every couple with a large age gap. It brings to my mind questions about what you are expecting from your marriage to a USC.

I am not trying to start anything here or insult anyone either. Just amazed that you would drop such a blanket statement into the discussion dispariging all Filipinas who marry with a larger age gap than you.

[duraaraa 203]

I want to give my opinion on this issue. I am 11.5 years younger than my fiancee. I am the male, and I am the U.S. citizen petitioner. With that out of the way...

I have heard that it is very easy for Americans to find Filipina girlfriends. I have also heard that there are many Filipinas who want so desperately to go to a country like the United States, that they are willing to pretend to love someone. It is a common issue... I have read about it many times, from many places. Do a search for "filipina marriage visa scam" on google or similar, and see.

This doesn't only happen to men, and it doesn't only happen in the Philippines. It's very common that younger men scam older American women in the Middle East. It's also common for people to be scammed in Africa.

With that said, of course not every relationship is a scam! There are true relationships with no ulterior motives. There are even relationships which start off as scams and turn into honest relationships. I don't even want to judge which is which, because I don't know any of you well enough to even attempt it!

I do think, though, that for Americans travelling abroad, it is very important to be careful of someone's intentions if you find that you are able to meet a partner a little too easily. Many people have been taken advantage of in the past, and surely it will happen again in the future.

That being said, if you are sure your relationship is legit, that's all the convincing I need.

Edited April 25, 2013 by duraaraa

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

I am not trying to start anything here or insult anyone either. Just amazed that you would drop such a blanket statement into the discussion dispariging all Filipinas who marry with a larger age gap than you.

To be fair, another poster said this:

My fiancée and I are 27 years apart. The age difference is not a big deal in her home county (Philippines), but it raises eyebrows here in the U.S. My kids from my first marriage are not at all accepting of our relationship. My fiancée is 3 days younger than my daughter.

which sort of looks like a blanket statement in and of itself. Perhaps it is fair to say that for some people it is a big deal in the Philippines, and for others it is not.

[ilovehim30 34]

oh i thought youre the beneficiary.well im not trying to start anything either im just telling you guys whats true.

im a filipina and i know how my fellow filipinas are like.

me and my husband has 6 yrs. gap.

all filipina knows how hard life is in the philippines and filipinos are a big fan of USA.all filipino wants US VISA.

if a filipina is with an old guy that is not rich,that doesnt show she loves him,she just wants to have a green card and she is smart to know that she has lots of opportunities when she comes here in the US even if the guys she is with is not wealthy.

to have a young filipina that ages around 18-25 is a gamble.

[duraaraa 203]

Perhaps it is fair to say that for some people it is a big deal in the Philippines, and for others it is not.

That is a very good way to put it, and I think it's true for almost every country.

[Bayareaguy 156]

That is a very good way to put it, and I think it's true for almost every country.

Yes, even in the USA, I might add. Age gap is becoming less of an issue here as well.

[duraaraa 203]

Yes, even in the USA, I might add. Age gap is becoming less of an issue here as well.

Yes, but there are golddiggers in the USA, nonetheless, so one must be careful.

[Bayareaguy 156]

Yes, but there are golddiggers in the USA, nonetheless, so one must be careful.

I agree...and with a ~50% divorce rate, that goes for no age gap as well!

[duraaraa 203]

I agree...and with a ~50% divorce rate, that goes for no age gap as well!

I wonder how many divorces involve successful men leaving their similar-aged wife for a younger golddigger, though. Kind of sad how people always want to 'trade up.'

[Bayareaguy 156]

I wonder how many divorces involve successful men leaving their similar-aged wife for a younger golddigger, though. Kind of sad how people always want to 'trade up.'

Which is why maybe an age gap is the way to go in the first place.

[duraaraa 203]

Which is why maybe an age gap is the way to go in the first place.

Well, there you have it. It's better to have an age difference.

[F&Z 8]

Age makes no difference for a couple in love. Maybe there are people doing it just for a green card or something, but that's why you have to be careful.