Jump to content

40 posts in this topic

Recommended Posts

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Kosova
Timeline
Posted

He drools over every muscle-truck he sees, wants to buy a big Ford or Chevy pickup after he gets a job. I tell him the gas will be too expensive and he needs to buy insurance too. He tells me he has always dreamed of owning a big truck in the USA, and that he just wants to enjoy life with me. I apologize and make a mental note not to stomp on his dreams. Reality will kick in soon enough. He listens to me, I listen to him. We talk about anything and everything.

XMY93gI.jpgXMY9m5.png

AAD1m5.pngThankYouUSA-Kosova.jpg

See my Timeline for details of our visa journey
17-Aug-2011 Our Wedding Day in Kosovo 
07-Nov-2011 Filed I-130
21-Nov-2011 NOA1
23-Aug-2012 NOA2 Approved 276 days
10-Jan-2013 Case complete via email

28-Feb-2013 Interview, result AP
11-Apr-2013 Embassy appointment - VISA APPROVED and issued in 4 hours
30-Apr-2013 POE Chicago O'Hare - He's home!

04-Sep-2014 Moved to northern California

12-Mar-2015 Filed ROC
16-Mar-2015 Documents delivered
18-Mar-2015 Check cashed
19-Mar-2015 NOA1 dated 03/16/2015 received in mail
13-Apr-2015 Biometrics completed
02-Feb-2016 Contacted USCIS about case, was told it's on hold because of security checks (email)
04-Mar-2016 Moved to Wisconsin
12-Aug-2016 New Biometrics appointment
14-Sep-2016 Contacted USCIS again about case (email said we should hear from them by Oct 6)
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 explaining the Service Request is currently being reviewed by an officer.
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 with Interview appointment for both of us for 28-Sep-2016
28-Sep-2016 Interview, both of us, separated, not hard, 10 min. each, result---said hubby will get GC in about 10 days
26-Oct-2016 *****STILL WAITING*****
02-Nov-2016 Card is being produced!!!
08-Nov-2016 Card is mailed
10-Nov-2016 Card is Delivered!!!! YAY
CITIZENSHIP: 

Biometrics appointment for 2020-03-27 has been cancelled until further notice as all field offices are closed because of COVID-19.

***NOA dated 12/10/2020 USCIS stated they are able to reuse previous Biometrics***

Interview was easy. My hubby's Oath Ceremony is scheduled for February 25th. I can't watch >sad< but happy he is getting his certificate!

25-FEB-2021 Oath Ceremony! My hubby is a Citizen!

 
 
 
 
 
Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Ecuador
Timeline
Posted

wants to buy a big Ford or Chevy pickup

A former girlfriend of mine, who grew up in rural east Texas, confirmed this hierarchy of trucks as carved in stone, si man:

GMC

Chevy

Dodge

Ford

foreign

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Kosova
Timeline
Posted

A former girlfriend of mine, who grew up in rural east Texas, confirmed this hierarchy of trucks as carved in stone, si man:

GMC

Chevy

Dodge

Ford

foreign

good.gif

XMY93gI.jpgXMY9m5.png

AAD1m5.pngThankYouUSA-Kosova.jpg

See my Timeline for details of our visa journey
17-Aug-2011 Our Wedding Day in Kosovo 
07-Nov-2011 Filed I-130
21-Nov-2011 NOA1
23-Aug-2012 NOA2 Approved 276 days
10-Jan-2013 Case complete via email

28-Feb-2013 Interview, result AP
11-Apr-2013 Embassy appointment - VISA APPROVED and issued in 4 hours
30-Apr-2013 POE Chicago O'Hare - He's home!

04-Sep-2014 Moved to northern California

12-Mar-2015 Filed ROC
16-Mar-2015 Documents delivered
18-Mar-2015 Check cashed
19-Mar-2015 NOA1 dated 03/16/2015 received in mail
13-Apr-2015 Biometrics completed
02-Feb-2016 Contacted USCIS about case, was told it's on hold because of security checks (email)
04-Mar-2016 Moved to Wisconsin
12-Aug-2016 New Biometrics appointment
14-Sep-2016 Contacted USCIS again about case (email said we should hear from them by Oct 6)
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 explaining the Service Request is currently being reviewed by an officer.
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 with Interview appointment for both of us for 28-Sep-2016
28-Sep-2016 Interview, both of us, separated, not hard, 10 min. each, result---said hubby will get GC in about 10 days
26-Oct-2016 *****STILL WAITING*****
02-Nov-2016 Card is being produced!!!
08-Nov-2016 Card is mailed
10-Nov-2016 Card is Delivered!!!! YAY
CITIZENSHIP: 

Biometrics appointment for 2020-03-27 has been cancelled until further notice as all field offices are closed because of COVID-19.

***NOA dated 12/10/2020 USCIS stated they are able to reuse previous Biometrics***

Interview was easy. My hubby's Oath Ceremony is scheduled for February 25th. I can't watch >sad< but happy he is getting his certificate!

25-FEB-2021 Oath Ceremony! My hubby is a Citizen!

 
 
 
 
 
Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
Timeline
Posted

I think it is the best advice you could get. Odds are, some days he is gonna be perfectly ok, some days he will get upset about something totally random

(My own top 3: I don't have a job- I don't have friends - It is very difficult to find good bread in here) I know that the first 2 will come in time... And I know it won't change suddenly from one day to another. So it is always very surprising to my husband when I get upset about it.

Bad things he said to handle it: "don't feel sorry for yourself"... a bit harsh... But at the same time it certainly helps me beat myself up a bit when I am tempted to feel sorry for myself...

Good things he said: You stubborn enough, be you're usual strong stubborn self, and things will come around.

He is very patient with me. That really helps. And he does everything he can to make me feel good and make me feel like I am really home. And yes, sometimes he screws up too, because he is not perfect, but neither am I, so...

Another tip: when you don't understand why he reacts in a very strange or unexpected way, try to put yourself in his shoes.

good luck!

Thank you so much for the advice. lol he too worries about finding good bread, and finding friends. Thankfully he will have employment when he gets here so hopefully that will fix the friend worry as well.

He drools over every muscle-truck he sees, wants to buy a big Ford or Chevy pickup after he gets a job. I tell him the gas will be too expensive and he needs to buy insurance too. He tells me he has always dreamed of owning a big truck in the USA, and that he just wants to enjoy life with me. I apologize and make a mental note not to stomp on his dreams. Reality will kick in soon enough. He listens to me, I listen to him. We talk about anything and everything.

My finace has the same dream of having a big pick up truck lol

event.pngevent.png

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: France
Timeline
Posted

Thank you so much for the advice. lol he too worries about finding good bread, and finding friends. Thankfully he will have employment when he gets here so hopefully that will fix the friend worry as well.

My finace has the same dream of having a big pick up truck lol

I read somewhere on VJ that it took around 2 years to feel like home in a new country (the poster had lived in 5 different countries and backed up her saying with studies)

That really reassured me to read that. Now I don't put to much pressure on myself, I take things as they come and things will come around in time

Good luck in your visa journey!

From the day we sent I-129F to the day I recieved my K-1: Exactly 9 months
I am the benifeciary

event.png




Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Australia
Timeline
Posted

Thank you so much for the advice. lol he too worries about finding good bread, and finding friends. Thankfully he will have employment when he gets here so hopefully that will fix the friend worry as well.

No, he WON'T have employment when he gets here. He won't have employment until he gets his EAD, 60-90 day from filing AOS.

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
Timeline
Posted

No, he WON'T have employment when he gets here. He won't have employment until he gets his EAD, 60-90 day from filing AOS.

Yes naturally after that...what I meant was he has a job for when he does receive it

event.pngevent.png

Posted

I moved here from the UK in September 2012. I still am struggling to acclimitise myself to the United States, especially rural Colorado.

I have had so many issues with trying to adapt into my community and I have found the locals to be very hostile towards me. I wont go into too much detail as I don't want to make it sounds as if this treatment is normal. It totally depends on where you live, by no means is this experience of most expats. I have known many other British expats live only up the road from me and have a completely different experience.

First of all, accept there is a possibility of homesickness. My husband didn't and it has caused huge problems in our marriage. Try to do everything you can to ease that; listening to them, trying to find TV from their home country, snacks, Skype and most of all make yourself available for at least the first big steps. Take them to get their SSN if they don't receive it, take them to the DMV, got the first few doctors appointments, take them to job interviews etc. These show your support and mean so much instead of having to do this for themselves. Sometimes visits from home do help, but for me they have made my homesickness worse. Encourage them to take a trip back if affordable or go on a vacay in the USA somewhere to show them what the USA has to offer.

Secondly, make sure you have strong ties around you, whether its friends or family that are caring and reliable. This is something I haven't had here and it would have perhaps made a huge difference. I have only my husband and my 7 month year old son, if I had a support network the ups and downs would be so much more bearable.

And thirdly, it takes time. It can take up to two years to fully adjust when you move overseas. Remember what they have given up to come and be with you. That shows how much they really, truly do love you and value you. Homesickness is a condition at some point we all experience or have experienced so don't take it personally. Actions always speak louder than words so I would most definitely say doing all you can and working through difficulties together will not only help the other spouse tremendously but will solidify the bond between you.

Hope this helps. Its hard to write a response because I am still going through this.

I love my husband!!

I-130 sent - 9/5/2011

NOA 1 received and routed to CSC - 9/22/2011

Petition Touched - 9/27/2011

Expedite Request sent - 02/24/2012

NOA 2 - 03/21/2012 (without need for expedite)

NVC Receive - 04/09/2012

Case Number Assigned -

Filed: Other Country: Denmark
Timeline
Posted

I find it very hard to get used to being here.

My husband is very patient, but of course he feels sad sometimes because so many things here makes me sad, (especially how people interact), because this is where he was born, this is his life, so it's hard to see me struggle.

But he's very patient and talks to me about how hard it is for me, and tells me I am very brave to just give up my entire life , to come live with him in a completely different country. It means a lot to me he that he acknowledge that.

He helped me get my dog here, even though it cost a fortune, he found me a Danish bakery and I cried when I took the first bite of the bread I so miss. He will go with me to meet a group of Danes here, and he watches Danish movies with me. He wants to learn Danish, and he is very open to do things how I am used to. Sometimes those things makes me more homesick though. But it means a lot to me he wants to make me feel at home, and I commend you for wanting to do the same for your husband!

- Dane in Denver.

Newly wed to the love of my life.

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: France
Timeline
Posted (edited)

First of all, accept there is a possibility of homesickness. My husband didn't and it has caused huge problems in our marriage. Try to do everything you can to ease that; listening to them, trying to find TV from their home country, snacks, Skype and most of all make yourself available for at least the first big steps. Take them to get their SSN if they don't receive it, take them to the DMV, got the first few doctors appointments, take them to job interviews etc. These show your support and mean so much instead of having to do this for themselves. Sometimes visits from home do help, but for me they have made my homesickness worse. Encourage them to take a trip back if affordable or go on a vacay in the USA somewhere to show them what the USA has to offer.

This is very true! But you guys should find your own balance. This is not easy... My husband called the bank for me. He told me were the DMV was, his friends told me what social security office to go to. He clearly holds my hand during my job search (correcting everything I need him to check, making sure I know what to do, who to contact, etc... bearing my mood swings). But he won't take me to job interview (I wouldn't want to, I wanna feel independent!). Talk about it with him, make sure that he has all the info he needs when he has to do something alone.

So many little things are disorienting, so advice is always appreciated: i don't know good places to go out, I don't know have favorite channels on the us tv yet, I have no clue where things are in the supermarket... It took me a while to realize standard paper size in the US is not A4... So I kept sending my resume in A4 to everyone. Fortunately not everyone tried to print it!

But I also need to just try and make things happen on my own sometimes. I got the car inspected and registered 2 weeks ago. I was so happy I did this (even with the DMV nightmare), just because I need to be able to do things on my own...

Secondly, make sure you have strong ties around you, whether its friends or family that are caring and reliable. This is something I haven't had here and it would have perhaps made a huge difference. I have only my husband and my 7 month year old son, if I had a support network the ups and downs would be so much more bearable.

I think this is such a good advice! My husband's friend are a great support to me!

And thirdly, it takes time. It can take up to two years to fully adjust when you move overseas. Remember what they have given up to come and be with you. That shows how much they really, truly do love you and value you. Homesickness is a condition at some point we all experience or have experienced so don't take it personally. Actions always speak louder than words so I would most definitely say doing all you can and working through difficulties together will not only help the other spouse tremendously but will solidify the bond between you.

I couldn't agree more

Hope this helps. Its hard to write a response because I am still going through this.

Edited by CaroSL

Good luck in your visa journey!

From the day we sent I-129F to the day I recieved my K-1: Exactly 9 months
I am the benifeciary

event.png




Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Australia
Timeline
Posted

I read somewhere on VJ that it took around 2 years to feel like home in a new country (the poster had lived in 5 different countries and backed up her saying with studies)

That really reassured me to read that. Now I don't put to much pressure on myself, I take things as they come and things will come around in time

I've read studies about it too, but of course it depends on the person and their situation.

I didn't start to feel better about living here until I got a job I liked. I had my own vehicle (not on a loan), I had a drivers license, bank account, car insurance, health insurance... and a GPS to help me get around, but it wasn't until I got this job, with people I liked, work that keeps my brain active and money coming in (not a large amount, I'm only part-time)... It made a HUGE difference to how I felt. Suddenly I had "my" money and I could get my hair done, go grocery shopping, food shopping etc without feeling like I was leeching of my husband. He didn't MAKE me feel that way, I had just been earning my income since I was 16, so 10 years later to being unemployed, in a foreign country and dependent on someone else... it was a big adjustment.

I still have moments of course but when I went "home" last year the difference in mind-set, the difference I noticed in myself compared to others was astounding. I adapted to living here and no, not necessarily a good thing in some ways, but it was definitely interesting to notice because I thought I was still as Aussie as I always was!

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: France
Timeline
Posted

I didn't start to feel better about living here until I got a job I liked.

I can't wait for this.

Waking up every morning knowing I have somewhere to go and something to do is going to be great. Not having my stomach hurt each time I buy something is gonna be even better (because right now I am spending my savings... And I don't pay a bill, I don't pay gas, never pay when we go out... I can't wait for this to change either!)

Plus, I always feel guilty when I don't clean up and go grocery shopping because "I am at home all day".

... I can't be totally myself yet...

Good luck in your visa journey!

From the day we sent I-129F to the day I recieved my K-1: Exactly 9 months
I am the benifeciary

event.png




Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Australia
Timeline
Posted

I can't wait for this.

Waking up every morning knowing I have somewhere to go and something to do is going to be great. Not having my stomach hurt each time I buy something is gonna be even better (because right now I am spending my savings... And I don't pay a bill, I don't pay gas, never pay when we go out... I can't wait for this to change either!)

Plus, I always feel guilty when I don't clean up and go grocery shopping because "I am at home all day".

... I can't be totally myself yet...

Yep that's exactly how it was for me. Even though the wages here suck compared to home, cost of living evens it out enough for me to not notice (until I go home to visit, OUCH!).

The house work.. omg I'm so on your page there. I felt like I wasn't "pulling my weight" and I still feel that way sometimes because my husband still pays the majority of the bills (I pay the ones that aren't monthly, like car insurance for example) but it sure feels good to go and get my hair done and know I was paying for it so I could have done whatever I wanted (well... within reason)... such a small thing with such a huge impact :)

My husband always said he'd love to be home all day, he wouldn't get bored... and then he had surgery and was off work for 4 days.. he kept saying "I feel like a bum!" and felt like he never got anything done and his days were just wasted... I said remember that feeling because that's how it felt for me all those months! Now you understand!!

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: France
Timeline
Posted

The house work.. omg I'm so on your page there. I felt like I wasn't "pulling my weight" and I still feel that way sometimes because my husband still pays the majority of the bills (I pay the ones that aren't monthly, like car insurance for example) but it sure feels good to go and get my hair done and know I was paying for it so I could have done whatever I wanted (well... within reason)... such a small thing with such a huge impact smile.png

Yeah, I am hoping to earn half of what my husband make... at best! So it won't solve totally the problem. But I am sure it will help rolleyes.gif

I kind of found my dream job... I am rather confident I am in a good position to get it.

But I have no clue what the salary will be... If it was just me, I wouldn't care, this is my dream job after all... But I don't want to feel too dependent for 2 long...unsure.png

Deep down all I want to do is work on the last step of the recruiting for this job, but I push myself to look for something else (even though I don't really want something else)

sry offtopic45vn.gif

Good luck in your visa journey!

From the day we sent I-129F to the day I recieved my K-1: Exactly 9 months
I am the benifeciary

event.png




Posted

Caro, there are websites that can give you an idea of what a salary would be for a given job. Try salary.com. And remember, you can negotiate!

AOS for my husband
8/17/10: INTERVIEW DAY (day 123) APPROVED!!

ROC:
5/23/12: Sent out package
2/06/13: APPROVED!

 
Didn't find the answer you were looking for? Ask our VJ Immigration Lawyers.

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
- Back to Top -

Important Disclaimer: Please read carefully the Visajourney.com Terms of Service. If you do not agree to the Terms of Service you should not access or view any page (including this page) on VisaJourney.com. Answers and comments provided on Visajourney.com Forums are general information, and are not intended to substitute for informed professional medical, psychiatric, psychological, tax, legal, investment, accounting, or other professional advice. Visajourney.com does not endorse, and expressly disclaims liability for any product, manufacturer, distributor, service or service provider mentioned or any opinion expressed in answers or comments. VisaJourney.com does not condone immigration fraud in any way, shape or manner. VisaJourney.com recommends that if any member or user knows directly of someone involved in fraudulent or illegal activity, that they report such activity directly to the Department of Homeland Security, Immigration and Customs Enforcement. You can contact ICE via email at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423. All reported threads/posts containing reference to immigration fraud or illegal activities will be removed from this board. If you feel that you have found inappropriate content, please let us know by contacting us here with a url link to that content. Thank you.
×
×
  • Create New...