Victim blaming is an international problem.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Rehtaeh Parsons had a goofy sense of humour and loved playing with her little sisters. She wore glasses, had long, dark hair and was a straight-A student whose favourite subject was science.

On Sunday night, the 17-year-old’s family took her off life-support.

Three days earlier, on Thursday night, she hanged herself in the bathroom.

It was 17 months before that when “the person Rehtaeh once was all changed,” her mother wrote Monday on a Facebook memorial page.

“She went with a friend to another’s home. In that home, she was raped by four young boys,” wrote Leah Parsons.

“One of those boys took a photo of her being raped and decided it would be fun to distribute the photo to everyone in Rehtaeh’s school and community, where it quickly went viral.”

Rehtaeh, a 15-year-old Cole Harbour District High School student at the time, was shunned, wrote her mother.

“They all go to the same school. She couldn’t go back to the school,” Parsons said Monday in an interview.

Rehtaeh spent the past year and a half trying to handle the fallout from that night, said her mother, who runs a dog rescue.

Her daughter moved from Cole Harbour to Halifax to start anew and she checked into a hospital at one point to cope with anger, depression and thoughts of suicide.

Rehtaeh ultimately made some new, supportive friends and heard from some old friends who decided to stand by her, Parsons wrote on Facebook. Rehtaeh returned to Dartmouth, where she was attending Prince Andrew High School.

However, lately the girl had struggled with mood swings, and after an outburst on Thursday, she locked herself in the bathroom, Parsons said in the interview.

“She acted on an impulse, but I truly, in my heart of heart, do not feel she meant to kill herself,” her mother wrote on Facebook.

“By the time I broke into the bathroom, it was too late.”

There are things to be learned from the girl’s death, Parsons said in the interview. That is why she is talking about what happened, and why her daughter did the same.

“Rehtaeh would want her story out there,” she said.

For one thing, social media can be toxic, said the mother. After Rehtaeh left her school, other kids were relentless.

“People texted her all the time, saying ‘Will you have sex with me?’” she remembered. “Girls texting, saying ‘You’re such a #######.’”

But then there is the question of how the adults handled the alleged sexual assault that Rehtaeh described to her mother.

The RCMP investigation took a year, said Parsons.

RCMP spokesman Cpl. Scott MacRae confirmed the police are now investigating a sudden death involving a young person.

“An investigation into an earlier sexual assault was completed, and in consultation with the Crown, there was insufficient evidence to lay charges,” MacRae said.

Out of respect for the family, and because of privacy laws, he couldn’t discuss details of the investigation Monday, and the force sent its sympathy to Rehtaeh’s loved ones, he said.

Parsons said she was unhappy with what she saw of the investigation.

“They didn’t even interview the boys until much, much later. To me, I’d think you’d get the boys right away, separate them.”

When it came to the photo or photos taken that night, “nothing was done about that because they couldn’t prove who had pressed the photo button on the phone,” she said.

She was told that the distribution of the photos is “not really a criminal issue, it’s more of a community issue,” she said.

“Even though she was 15 at the time, which is child pornography.

“The whole case was full of things like that. We didn’t have a rape kit done because we didn’t even know (anything had happened) until several days later when she had a breakdown in my kitchen.

“She was trying to keep it to herself.”

Rehtaeh’s former classmates at Prince Andrew High were sent counsellors Monday to provide support, said Doug Hadley, spokesman for the Halifax regional school board.

“We’ve been working very closely with the family for several, several months to provide supports to her,” Hadley said.

“Right now, we’re very saddened by what has taken place.”

Rehtaeh always cared for the underdog and was interested in social issues, a girl who “read everything she could get her hands on,” said her mother.

On March 3, Rehtaeh posted a photo of herself on Facebook next to a quote from Martin Luther King Jr.:

“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”

http://www.thechronicleherald.ca/metro/1122345-who-failed-rehtaeh-parsons

These are the dangers of blaming the victims and treating the actual rapists with more respect than the girl who got raped. This is why girls are afraid to report their attacks. This is why comments like "she shouldn't have been there, she made it easy for them to rape her, she was asking for it the way she was dressed" are harmful.

[Darnell 8,478]

So, this isn't a localised-Canadien thing, at all ? It sure read that way.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

So, this isn't a localised-Canadien thing, at all ? It sure read that way.

What?

[Darnell 8,478]

Indeed !

[mota bhai 2,675]

Evylin's gettin' schooled on every thread today!

[Darnell 8,478]

Ah ! This article says nothing about 'victim blaming'.

What's up, O Evylin ?

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Ah ! This article says nothing about 'victim blaming'.

What's up, O Evylin ?

Did you READ the article?

Or do you just post nonsense for the sake of posting nonsense?

This entire article is about victim blaming (the abuse she received after reporting the incident) as well as a failed police investigation. Which lead to a young girl's suicide.

If you have nothing to actually add to the conversation, kindly go troll someone who finds you amusing.

[mota bhai 2,675]

Did you READ the article?

Or do you just post nonsense for the sake of posting nonsense?

This entire article is about victim blaming (the abuse she received after reporting the incident) as well as a failed police investigation. Which lead to a young girl's suicide.

If you have nothing to actually add to the conversation, kindly go troll someone who finds you amusing.

O Evylin!

[sandinista! 1,816]

This is heartbreakingly tragic.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

This is heartbreakingly tragic.

It is indeed.

[sandinista! 1,816]

O Evylin!

Reported. GTFO.

Edited April 9, 2013 by sandinista!

[Darnell 8,478]

sorry, the article was about Who failed Rehtaeh Parsons? and not victim blaming.

There was a comment by a reader , alluding to victim-blaming, but no where in that article (as written by the author) was victim-blaming mentioned.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

sorry, the article was about Who failed Rehtaeh Parsons? and not victim blaming.

There was a comment by a reader , alluding to victim-blaming, but no where in that article (as written by the author) was victim-blaming mentioned.

Victim blaming lead to her suicide. Read the article. The students at her school, who all got to see the video of her rape, harassed her, called HER the #######. Calling a rape victim a ####### for being raped is victim blaming.

Stop spamming threads with absolute garbage.

Edited April 9, 2013 by Evylin

[Darnell 8,478]

So, do you think this supposed 'victim-blaming' would have been quelched if the cops were better at their job, for this particular investigation?

Do you think she'd still be around IF she partook in the use of a rape-detection kit prior to showering that same evening?

[We Keep Receipts 9,238]

I don't know what's worse, this sad story, or the fact that Ev has to defend this thread from people who are trying to cause a ruckus.