i just get home from interveiw

[AichaKandisha 0]

Congratulations on your successful interview!

As a side note: Don't take anything personally here on VJ. It's not worth it.

[hicham913 0]

Love and commitment is dependant upon how fast the visa process moves...didn't you know that?

Ya, I think I missed that one. WOW, WOW, WOW. I think I am speechless. (doesn't happen too often)

lol haha go to find way to yourself and not look what other people do or did ok

Let me correct you, YOU posted this matter here on VJ about divorcing your wife. I could care less what you do or what your intentions are but since you wanted to make it public knowledge then I can't help but to point out this very shocking observation.

oh but u don't anything i not write anything about divorce that my wife did because she was angry that all so we said divorce but we not mean it at all because we have real love so what about u

What about me? I don't even use the word divorce with my fiance. Yes I recall she was upset because you asked her for a divorce because your petition was delayed and you didnt want to wait, nothing like true love, eh?

haha really haha that good sound good so have nice day bye

Congratulations on your successful interview!

As a side note: Don't take anything personally here on VJ. It's not worth it.

Thank you so much have nice day

[dawnnhatem 0]

if you can't say something nice, ya know.....

unbelievable

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Ok, calm down, please. We know that this process can make you go crazy. Hicham913 or his wife would not be the first ones here to post about the strains of waiting. Many of us have gone thru this at one time or another.

Be nice, all. Hicham has had a good experience at the consulate, and that is always good to know. What happens between he and his wife later is up to them.

Edited November 16, 2006 by szsz

[AichaKandisha 0]

if you can't say something nice, ya know.....

unbelievable

Ok, calm down, please. We know that this process can make you go crazy. Hicham913 or his wife would not be the first ones here to post about the strains of waiting. Many of us have gone thru this at one time or another.

Be nice, all. Hicham has had a good experience at the consulate, and that is always good to know. What happens between he and his wife later is up to them.

I couldn't have said it better myself! Well done! I'll never understand and I don't ever want to understand why throwing something in someone's face is considered 'funny'.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Oh are we giving sympathy to everyone now? C'mon! You all know darn well if your man came on here and posted that he wanted a divorce bcz the petition was not approved yet, well you would be MORE than heartbroken. Sorry....no sympathy here

if you can't say something nice, ya know.....

unbelievable

Ok, calm down, please. We know that this process can make you go crazy. Hicham913 or his wife would not be the first ones here to post about the strains of waiting. Many of us have gone thru this at one time or another.

Be nice, all. Hicham has had a good experience at the consulate, and that is always good to know. What happens between he and his wife later is up to them.

I couldn't have said it better myself! Well done! I'll never understand and I don't ever want to understand why throwing something in someone's face is considered 'funny'.

Who said it was funny? I don't think its funny at all

[Bosco 1]

It surprises me how quickly women will come to the defense of men who post things that obviously raise questions about their sincerity.

I see people say obviously alarming things on this forum from time to time, and the "acceptable" form of support is tightening the blinders, patting them on the back and cheering them on.

Congratulations Hicham

Edited November 16, 2006 by Bosco

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I understand what you're saying, JP, he should not have done that, but what happens between them is up to them. It's not a matter of sympathy, at least not for me. Perhaps it's empathy. There are times when it gets to be ridiculous to be married and alone for so long.

[jordanianprincess 0]

I understand what you're saying, JP, he should not have done that, but what happens between them is up to them. It's not a matter of sympathy, at least not for me. Perhaps it's empathy. There are times when it gets to be ridiculous to be married and alone for so long.

If I ever thought divorce was an option, I wouldn't be engaged.

If my man came on here and posted that he wanted a divorce because the petition wasn't approved fast enough and everyone here patted him on the back, well that would be a huge disservice to me. Sorry but I just can't believe what I am hearing here.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm not patting him on the back. I'm simply saying that the two of them have to deal with their problems in the best manner they see fit. I agree, that would break my heart and I'm sure it did break hers (I think I missed the post where he did this). Still, she apparently hasn't done anything to impede his visa progress. I don't know what's going on between them. If she ever came to me and asked for my advice, then she can have it. For now, what I read here is all I have to go on.

[ya falaha! 0]

I agree, szsz..It does get hard to be married and alone for so long. However, I would seriously question the intentions of my husband if he mentioned divorce because things weren't progressing as fast as he wants it. Perhaps telling everyone about these threats was a bad decision on his wife's part.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Some people post more of their private stuff online. I've moved away from that, but there was a point in time where I felt the internet was completely anonymous and I could post and vent as I pleased. I probably didn't come across as the sweet, stable person I portray now

Most relationships I've seen are messy. It's just that usually the mess stays hidden from public view.

Edited November 16, 2006 by rahma

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I hear ya, sis. Well, it's clear that she can post here, too. Let's hear from her, if she cares to share.

[AichaKandisha 0]

It surprises me how quickly women will come to the defense of men who post things that obviously raise questions about their sincerity.

I see people say obviously alarming things on this forum from time to time, and the "acceptable" form of support is tightening the blinders, patting them on the back and cheering them on.

Congratulations Hicham

Not defending here. I am amazed though at the lack of empathy that is expressed here on VJ. I know that I've said and done things that I wish I hadn't. Was this the right place to talk about their relationship? Probably not. And I know for me, this is one of the most stressful times that I've gone through (and I've had more than my fair share of stressful situations). We are all going through the same thing but all in our own way. There are ways to express your opinion about concerns for another, without degrading or humiliating them.

[ya falaha! 0]

That's exactly why I don't post my most intimate stuff online. I save that for PMs and emails.