Ugh, I dont get it

[rohandlulu 22]

Im clearly on this site way too much, but its nice to be in the company of people who are also in your shoes. My friends who have their loved ones here with them dont get what we go through.

With that being said, there are way too many people asking questions regarding if they will lose their status after they marry and want to divorce, and when or if they have to return if the marriage doesnt work, etc

O_O

I understand that nothing is promised, but to go through this process only to immediately seek alternatives for a way out, I will never understand. Why go through this process if you arent expecting to be with your petitioner for life. People who are even in the states are asking questions in regards to protecting their status if the relationship fails, wanting to make note it hasnt yet failed.

Word of advice, if you arent planning to be in these relationships for life, then find another way to get here. Its people like that who are making this process so painful, scrutinized every damn step of the way, trying to weed out fraud, while holding up those of us who want to move on with their life with their loved ones.

smh

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

**** Moving from Tourist Visa to Off Topic as not tourist visa related ****

[Jamaicancricket 38]

I see you point and agree, but its a whole new ball of wax when we're finally together. Just like with any marraige, it takes time and patience and a sense of humor to get though it. And even then, it can fail. There is a huge adjustment (depending on the country) that both parties go through and if neither person is REALLY ready to adjust and grow, then it will be difficult to move forward. I personally have already experienced a HUGE blow to my friendship and marriage with my husband in a very short period of time. This process is tough. Just be patient, try not to read every story and post on here during your wait. You will drive yourself and your fiance mad.

[Caryh 5,206]

I see you point and agree, but its a whole new ball of wax when we're finally together. Just like with any marraige, it takes time and patience and a sense of humor to get though it. And even then, it can fail. There is a huge adjustment (depending on the country) that both parties go through and if neither person is REALLY ready to adjust and grow, then it will be difficult to move forward. I personally have already experienced a HUGE blow to my friendship and marriage with my husband in a very short period of time. This process is tough. Just be patient, try not to read every story and post on here during your wait. You will drive yourself and your fiance mad.

I had no idea how much work, time, and patience it was going to take having an immigrant spouse. In the end, I think we're coming out much stronger, but its certainly taught me to have much more sympathy for those who's marriages don't work out in this immigration journey.