Coping.. How do we all deal with waiting for our loved ones

[FherJess 15]

Okay, I understand. She and I visit about every other month and I assumed a lot here visited more often rather than waiting 8 months at a time. I didn't mean for my post to offend anyone, just throwing that out there.

I can only imagine the pain you all go through.

Oh no offense taken

Personally, for me to fly to Mexico where my fiancé lives would cost between $600-$800 and right now we're trying to save up for future expenses.

It really is hard and I'm impulsive as I find myself THISCLOSE to just buying a ticket and going.

But I have to hold off and be patient ?

[CharliesAngel13 7]

I would like to visit my fiance again, but its too expensive to travel.. especially with our baby.. plus we have to save for our flights to U.S. after i get the visa. Flights are so expensive right now.

No kidding!!! $1,200-3,400!!! Insane really!!

[dwheels76 5,468]

Okay, I understand. She and I visit about every other month and I assumed a lot here visited more often rather than waiting 8 months at a time. I didn't mean for my post to offend anyone, just throwing that out there.

I can only imagine the pain you all go through.

Trust me most of us dealing with the country didn't know that the US would deny a person to visit. Like what.

I was living with my husband in Nigeria after we got married ion 2011. We had no clue than I read about this Affidavit of Support and was like "babe I have to go back to the states and find a job" That was 18 months ago I last saw my husband.

It's damn hard trust me. But thank God interview is in 11 days.

[CharliesAngel13 7]

Whatsapp chatting, Facebook chatting, Skyle video....and it's not enough ?

But at least it's something.

I'm just SO ANXIOUS for the day when we can live together.

I'm a VERY IMPATIENT person so this is going to be hard but I love him soooo much.

This is just gonna make us stronger.

Me too!! The waiting is killing me lol thats y every little thing helps to the extreme!! I hate waiting even for toast!! Lol

[CharliesAngel13 7]

We also Skype few times daily. He wakes me with video calls when it's time to get the kids off to school. It's the closest thing to actually waking up beside each other. It's so very hard when your loved one is so far away. We also have been visiting each other every 6 months or so. As alot of you know, visiting another country also get very expensive.

Time zones.. ugh. Time zones are so hard also when one is sleeping and the other is awake, but I guess it gives us time to do our daily thing without disturbing the other.

Each day we wake, is another day closer to hopefully being together forever

My advice to everyone.. Don't lose sight of the longer picture. All good things come to those who wait

They sure do!! And patience is a virtue!! However after reading some of the processing times ppl have encountered on their journey im starting to wonder if my patience will b over extended!! I dont have a long rope!! Lol

I took the extreme path and relocated to be near to my wife . The only things I have to do more when filing for my wife's visa are the domicile package and finding a joint sponsor. But the experience is worth it. My wife also appreciates what I have done for her very much .

Appreciation is a great reward!! Its nice to see couples on here able to b 2gether thru this process.. We arent all so lucky

[rascalcat 28]

Okay, I understand. She and I visit about every other month and I assumed a lot here visited more often rather than waiting 8 months at a time. I didn't mean for my post to offend anyone, just throwing that out there.

I can only imagine the pain you all go through.

Are they ok with that? I mean going through customs/ boarder patrol every other month? They gave me the impression they dont like peoples visits to the U.S. to be too close together.. not sure if this has affected you. Have you/ your fiance ever had any trouble with this?

[CharliesAngel13 7]

Whatsapp chatting, Facebook chatting, Skyle video....and it's not enough ?

But at least it's something.

I'm just SO ANXIOUS for the day when we can live together.

I'm a VERY IMPATIENT person so this is going to be hard but I love him soooo much.

This is just gonna make us stronger.

[CharliesAngel13 7]

Can u say zanax?!?! Lol anxiety should b a side affect warning on the application listed in bold!!! Lmao... But wat doesnt kill us will indeed make us stronger!! Keep up the positive thinking!! All will progress in due time

I would like to visit my fiance again, but its too expensive to travel.. especially with our baby.. plus we have to save for our flights to U.S. after i get the visa. Flights are so expensive right now.

[johnnyv 20]

Are they ok with that? I mean going through customs/ boarder patrol every other month? They gave me the impression they dont like peoples visits to the U.S. to be too close together.. not sure if this has affected you. Have you/ your fiance ever had any trouble with this?

As of yet we haven't. This is how our routine has been since October

October - Visited Canada

November - She came here

December - Visted Canada

January - Visited Canada

March - She came here

May - She's coming here.

So far we haven't had trouble, but I still worry.

[CharliesAngel13 7]

Awww... I will b excited to hear u all reunited!!!

[CharliesAngel13 7]

Trust me most of us dealing with the country didn't know that the US would deny a person to visit. Like what.

I was living with my husband in Nigeria after we got married ion 2011. We had no clue than I read about this Affidavit of Support and was like "babe I have to go back to the states and find a job" That was 18 months ago I last saw my husband.

It's damn hard trust me. But thank God interview is in 11 days.

[CharliesAngel13 7]

11days!!! Thank God!! Hail Mary!! Praise Jesus!! Whhhoo hooo!! So happy for u!! Congrats!! Id start knockin down doors at USCIS after 18 months of being without my man!! Lol God bless u both & may he be with u at the interview!!! Thats exciting!! So related to the post; how did u copr for 18 grueling months?

[CharliesAngel13 7]

As of yet we haven't. This is how our routine has been since October

October - Visited Canada

November - She came here

December - Visted Canada

January - Visited Canada

March - She came here

May - She's coming here.

So far we haven't had trouble, but I still worry.

Im jealous!! Lol wish i could see my partner every month or even every other month! Heck id settle for every 3!! Lol

[dwheels76 5,468]

11days!!! Thank God!! Hail Mary!! Praise Jesus!! Whhhoo hooo!! So happy for u!! Congrats!! Id start knockin down doors at USCIS after 18 months of being without my man!! Lol God bless u both & may he be with u at the interview!!! Thats exciting!! So related to the post; how did u copr for 18 grueling months?

Cope hehe me cope. See my profile? Yesterday I got my 4th heart 4000 post. LOL I live here on VJ. This is my escape learning and helping.

To think before I came here me and my man thought oh you get visitor visa come here we get married and live happily ever after. We didn't even know there was a spousal visa,an adjustment of status. OMG.

But at least I got to live 6 1/2months with my husband in Nigeria. And yes I will be there for interview by God's grace.

Thanks for the shout out.

One thing I can say. Through the good and bad I have gotten on her (most of us have had our hands and feelings slapped a few times) this is still a community of people who get what we are feeling. I could post on my wall on facebook all my thoughts of this process and except for a few friends who are going through this no one would get it. So for that I love it here. Just like a family we laugh, we cry, we yell we cuss. But most of all we are so happy when we see approved and POE and Visa.....my bad

[rohandlulu 22]

I go visit mines every other month or so... I wud go ever crazier than I am now if I cudnt see him thru this process