EVIDENCE?!

[efc 1]

Hi everyone

I see some of you have a lot of evidence. We don't have joint accounts or anything and am worried they will see this as something to question. I sent off pictures of us with family at thanksgiving and christmas, and airplane tickets from our last vacation. But our accounts are separate mainly b/c I didn't have one at first obviously b/c of not being allowd to work. It wasn't something we ever thought of. The house is in his name b/c he already had it years before we met. Same way with the car. We have joint tax returns but that is it!

Anyone else in the same boat?

[Inky 1,111]

Hi everyone

I see some of you have a lot of evidence. We don't have joint accounts or anything and am worried they will see this as something to question. I sent off pictures of us with family at thanksgiving and christmas, and airplane tickets from our last vacation. But our accounts are separate mainly b/c I didn't have one at first obviously b/c of not being allowd to work. It wasn't something we ever thought of. The house is in his name b/c he already had it years before we met. Same way with the car. We have joint tax returns but that is it!

Anyone else in the same boat?

You don't need to be working to have a joint account or be put on a joint account tho. You just need your SS number and ask to make the bank account joint. You can also be added on his car insurance as a joint driver without owning a car or that particular car. You can also be added to a credit card he already has without having a job.

Do you have a joint grocery card? Do you have a drivers license you can copy both yours and his to show you live at the same address. Do you pay any bills in your name at his house or have any bills with both names on them? share a family cellphone plan?

You need evidence spanning 2 years of marriage, try and think of anything you can that could work for helping out your evidence.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

That's not enough most likely. Financial evidence is a big one.

Are you on the same car insurance policy? Health insurance? Store cards? Vet's bills (joint ownership of pets). Driver's license with same address? Joint name on bills (phone/elec etc)? Wills/POAs? Memberships.

They need to see co-mingling of lives. You're most likely going to get an RFE so start collecting any other relationship co-mingling evidence you can.

[Spiffdandy 0]

Hi everyone

I see some of you have a lot of evidence. We don't have joint accounts or anything and am worried they will see this as something to question. I sent off pictures of us with family at thanksgiving and christmas, and airplane tickets from our last vacation. But our accounts are separate mainly b/c I didn't have one at first obviously b/c of not being allowd to work. It wasn't something we ever thought of. The house is in his name b/c he already had it years before we met. Same way with the car. We have joint tax returns but that is it!

Anyone else in the same boat?

Not exactly the same but somewhat similar, see my new post in this category titled " house not titled together"

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

That's not enough most likely. Financial evidence is a big one.

Are you on the same car insurance policy? Health insurance? Store cards? Vet's bills (joint ownership of pets). Driver's license with same address? Joint name on bills (phone/elec etc)? Wills/POAs? Memberships.

They need to see co-mingling of lives. You're most likely going to get an RFE so start collecting any other relationship co-mingling evidence you can.

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Whether or not you want to take this advice OP, it is a good idea to have a will drawn up no matter what your ages are. Also helpful is a "Disposition of Remains" which basically gives your partner automatic rights to decide what to do with your body and outlines what you'd like.

Even if you don't go joint on the accounts, you can list the other person as a signee. It is quite simple. My mother is signee on my accounts and shows up on my statements and I am joint on her accounts. The whole process takes less than 5 minutes at the bank.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

:thumbs:

Whether or not you want to take this advice OP, it is a good idea to have a will drawn up no matter what your ages are. Also helpful is a "Disposition of Remains" which basically gives your partner automatic rights to decide what to do with your body and outlines what you'd like.

Even if you don't go joint on the accounts, you can list the other person as a signee. It is quite simple. My mother is signee on my accounts and shows up on my statements and I am joint on her accounts. The whole process takes less than 5 minutes at the bank.

Unfortunately if the OP doesn't already have this stuff it could be a moot point. You can't manufacture evidence after the fact (i.e. getting a bank account now isn't going to help much when they want stuff over the last 2 years). I hope for her sake that she has stuff that she doesn't realise she has.

Worst case scenario they will get an interview and maybe a stokes which a legit relationship wouldn't have a problem with. So she'll be okay eventually. Just stressed!