Support thread for parents & children waiting for k-1

[rascalcat 28]

If you have any children, feel free to post on this topic thread.

I have a 1 year old, and we are waiting to be with his daddy in the U.S. Its hard on our kids and stressful.. and sometimes we need to vent!

[pachacuti 154]

If you have any children, feel free to post on this topic thread.

I have a 1 year old, and we are waiting to be with his daddy in the U.S. Its hard on our kids and stressful.. and sometimes we need to vent!

Hey rascalcat,

I'm in. I also have a 1 year who is waiting to be with me here.

[Oregon Bound 30]

Two of my kids from my previous marriage are moving to the US with me while my eldest has opted to stay in the UK with her father. It's hard on us all and this waiting and waiting is making us all stressed

Edited March 23, 2013 by Oregon Bound

[rascalcat 28]

Hey rascalcat,

I'm in. I also have a 1 year who is waiting to be with me here.

there should be a fair time frame in which we can request to expedite our case.

If they were not able to cash our cheques until approval decision, then we would be getting approved much quicker!

Thats a lot of cash from all the petitions they receive!

[rascalcat 28]

Two of my kids from my previous marriage are moving to the US with me while my eldest has opted to stay in the UK with her father. It's hard on us all and this waiting and waiting is making us all stressed

Very stressful. Its hard to plan around everything as you need to when you have kids.

[KLB 3]

Two of my kids from my previous marriage are moving to the US with me while my eldest has opted to stay in the UK with her father. It's hard on us all and this waiting and waiting is making us all stressed

My eldest is coming over with me, it's my youngest (15) who has decided to stay .... whether he will follow or not is unclear atm ... to say it's hard is an understatement! He is a little academic genius and right in the middle of his GCSE years he wants to stay to finish those ... he had the choice ... we think it probably is the right thing but its not going to be easy!

[pachacuti 154]

there should be a fair time frame in which we can request to expedite our case.

If they were not able to cash our cheques until approval decision, then we would be getting approved much quicker!

Thats a lot of cash from all the petitions they receive!

I am not completely sure I agree. I am kind of torn. On the one hand I see my little boy growing up without me, but on the other hand I see the potential for abuse if couples with children are expedited... Also, how do you handle situations like Oregon Bound's? They are not kids in common. Grounds for expedite?? Or is it the fact that you and I have citizen kids and the weight of that citizenship is the basis for the expedite. As you can see, there are all kinds of issues raised by discussing expedites based on children. Now, having gotten all my philosophical ideas off my chest, on a personal level I am 100% behind having my case expedited because of my son. I guess it is kind of like my take on the death penalty. I am philosophically 100% against the death penalty, yet I know that were something like that to happen to me, I would be first in line to carry out the execution. Before I am labeled a hypocrite (which may be justified), I think it really boils down to a difference between rationality and emotionalism.

[rascalcat 28]

My fiancee was in the Armed Forces. He joined the Army as soon as he left school, and he is an ex Marine with honorable discharge. He never talks much about it, as he experienced many horrors. I know he went to Bosnia among many countries. Sometimes tiny pieces of glass come through his skin where they have finally surfaced from explosions during his military service. He watched many of his friends die at war. Horrible! He has done his part for the U.S.A, and never had anything in return. When he came out of the Marines he worked in a meat packing plant, his employer took him on because he was an ex marine, and said he wouldnt usually employ native american indians. (racist!) (hes worked in many of these) and got payed 30c for every pelt skinning. VERY hard work. He never got a payrise when everyone else did because of racism. He eventually left and found another job.. then his boss offered him a payrise.. should have offered it sooner!

He has worked hard all his life.

We were thinking about contacting the congressman. Not sure if it would really make a difference for our case though. I feel bad for him that he cant be with us.. our baby especially. I know this is harder for him than it is for me, because at least i get to be with our baby right now and kiss baby goodnight. It hurts me that its tough being apart, especially when hes given so much of himself to his country, and never asked for anything in return. He works long hours and cant get time off work to visit me. At the moment hes been working up to 14 hours straight every day, taking overtime. Thankfully he has a really good job now, well deserved! And has almost finished his degree!!

[LA and CF 9]

don't mean to intrude, just felt like posting here too..

i have a 8 year old daughter currently in elementary school, yesterday when i picked her up she started bursting into tears asking when daddy was going to bring us home with him ( he is a us citizen , works for air and space defense for the us gov. and luckily for us is able to come every couple of months or so for about a week). Not many are that lucky though. Even though she is not biologically his, but i do have all the custody and papers for her, soemtimes i start stressing and panicking wondering if that wont make it longer, harder, more complicated to get the papers to go to the us. He and i have been together for about 7 years now, reason we applied only last august is because it took a long time findig lawyer to get a court date for her papers. I'm hoping to be getting an answer before the end of the school year, dont know if i should sign her up for summer stuff , hire baby sitter etc, some of which has to be payed in advance, and i still have to schedule my vacation time too. Not knowing when we will get an answer makes it almost impossible to plan anything and we are all starting to suffer from it.

you would think being from canada, i would worry less.. at least we are lucky that our consulates, embassies etc seem to be aware of the southern neighbour...

i don't know.. i don't think i've ever been this stressed out in my life before.

prayers and best wishes to all those waiting!

hopefully csc hurries up soon

[rascalcat 28]

I am not completely sure I agree. I am kind of torn. On the one hand I see my little boy growing up without me, but on the other hand I see the potential for abuse if couples with children are expedited... Also, how do you handle situations like Oregon Bound's? They are not kids in common. Grounds for expedite?? Or is it the fact that you and I have citizen kids and the weight of that citizenship is the basis for the expedite. As you can see, there are all kinds of issues raised by discussing expedites based on children. Now, having gotten all my philosophical ideas off my chest, on a personal level I am 100% behind having my case expedited because of my son. I guess it is kind of like my take on the death penalty. I am philosophically 100% against the death penalty, yet I know that were something like that to happen to me, I would be first in line to carry out the execution. Before I am labeled a hypocrite (which may be justified), I think it really boils down to a difference between rationality and emotionalism.

I think everyone should have the right to get their case expedited after a reasonable amount of time.. maybe then they would have to get the staff issue sorted. It would encourage people to do things the legal way.

[pachacuti 154]

don't mean to intrude, just felt like posting here too..

i have a 8 year old daughter currently in elementary school, yesterday when i picked her up she started bursting into tears asking when daddy was going to bring us home with him ( he is a us citizen , works for air and space defense for the us gov. and luckily for us is able to come every couple of months or so for about a week). Not many are that lucky though. Even though she is not biologically his, but i do have all the custody and papers for her, soemtimes i start stressing and panicking wondering if that wont make it longer, harder, more complicated to get the papers to go to the us. He and i have been together for about 7 years now, reason we applied only last august is because it took a long time findig lawyer to get a court date for her papers. I'm hoping to be getting an answer before the end of the school year, dont know if i should sign her up for summer stuff , hire baby sitter etc, some of which has to be payed in advance, and i still have to schedule my vacation time too. Not knowing when we will get an answer makes it almost impossible to plan anything and we are all starting to suffer from it.

you would think being from canada, i would worry less.. at least we are lucky that our consulates, embassies etc seem to be aware of the southern neighbour...

i don't know.. i don't think i've ever been this stressed out in my life before.

prayers and best wishes to all those waiting!

hopefully csc hurries up soon

I, for one, will never understand why the US and Canada have never entered into an agreement that allows completely free movement between our two countries. I don't even think Canadians should be standing in this line. And before anyone chimes in with "what about country X", Canada is different. And I am talking about a diplomatic arrangement between two sovereign nations. Besides, it probably will never happen, but I bet it would have pretty broad public support in both countries.

[rascalcat 28]

don't mean to intrude, just felt like posting here too..

i have a 8 year old daughter currently in elementary school, yesterday when i picked her up she started bursting into tears asking when daddy was going to bring us home with him ( he is a us citizen , works for air and space defense for the us gov. and luckily for us is able to come every couple of months or so for about a week). Not many are that lucky though. Even though she is not biologically his, but i do have all the custody and papers for her, soemtimes i start stressing and panicking wondering if that wont make it longer, harder, more complicated to get the papers to go to the us. He and i have been together for about 7 years now, reason we applied only last august is because it took a long time findig lawyer to get a court date for her papers. I'm hoping to be getting an answer before the end of the school year, dont know if i should sign her up for summer stuff , hire baby sitter etc, some of which has to be payed in advance, and i still have to schedule my vacation time too. Not knowing when we will get an answer makes it almost impossible to plan anything and we are all starting to suffer from it.

you would think being from canada, i would worry less.. at least we are lucky that our consulates, embassies etc seem to be aware of the southern neighbour...

i don't know.. i don't think i've ever been this stressed out in my life before.

prayers and best wishes to all those waiting!

hopefully csc hurries up soon

you are always welcome here on this forum Keep us updated on how things are going for you and your family. I am thinking we will not hear anything about approval until maybe August/ September. I hope you get approved sooner, as you have a lot more to sort out with a school age child. It is tough on our kids being away from the other parent they love.

[rascalcat 28]

I, for one, will never understand why the US and Canada have never entered into an agreement that allows completely free movement between our two countries. I don't even think Canadians should be standing in this line. And before anyone chimes in with "what about country X", Canada is different. And I am talking about a diplomatic arrangement between two sovereign nations. Besides, it probably will never happen, but I bet it would have pretty broad public support in both countries.

Check this out.. i read it recently. Very interesting speech that mentions this issue in there with Canada too... http://www.workers.org/2006/us/native-immigration-1130/

[rascalcat 28]

I am not completely sure I agree. I am kind of torn. On the one hand I see my little boy growing up without me, but on the other hand I see the potential for abuse if couples with children are expedited... Also, how do you handle situations like Oregon Bound's? They are not kids in common. Grounds for expedite?? Or is it the fact that you and I have citizen kids and the weight of that citizenship is the basis for the expedite. As you can see, there are all kinds of issues raised by discussing expedites based on children. Now, having gotten all my philosophical ideas off my chest, on a personal level I am 100% behind having my case expedited because of my son. I guess it is kind of like my take on the death penalty. I am philosophically 100% against the death penalty, yet I know that were something like that to happen to me, I would be first in line to carry out the execution. Before I am labeled a hypocrite (which may be justified), I think it really boils down to a difference between rationality and emotionalism.

Totally agree!

[pachacuti 154]

Totally agree!

BTW, to clarify my position. I am very for expedite for active duty military, especially on the verge of deployment. I am also for preferential treatment for vets and other honorably discharged military personnel. I am not opposed to Haiti expedites; those folks are the most down-trodden in our hemisphere. I am not sure how I feel about financial hardship expedites... how will you escape the public charge denial? Health issues? Yeah, I can see expediting that. Other endangerment issues, yep, all for it.

I am not ex-military (although I am an army brat and have many, many friends and relatives in service). I am to the far left of most everyone I know. I still feel very strongly about awarding the service of people who have so put their lives at risk for our nation, whether actively right now or at some time in the past... and whether they were actually called to lay their lives on the line or got lucky to serve when there was no current conflict afoot.