Getting Married

[EminTX 131]

If, for some reason the food doesn't go off as planned, order pizzas to cover the extra folks. Seriously. It would be fun and funny and memorable and you could ask the staff (teenagers) who are decorating the pizzas to make symbols like valentine hearts with the pepperonis or whatever. Or you could order BBQ plates to be delivered. Or Mexican food. Or whatever. Look around at what is locally a favorite and run with it. As long as you are flexible and flat out refuse to be stressed out by suprizes, all will be good.

I also want to add that I am glad to see you avoiding the courthouse routine. Even though it is technically legit and there is nothing really wrong with it, it always feels so wrong to me to celebrate a life changing milestone in the same place you pay a traffic ticket or sue someone. It seems belittling. I have been to a few. One, the guy went to work on his evening shift right after that and the bride returned to her house and they moved in together a couple of weeks later. Practical, yes. Celebratory? No. The last one I went to was equally depressing. The bride's adult children were in town but not invited to come at all because "it would just have been too much bother." Very depressing. I was invited as the only witness because I was off work. She announced the marriage to her children after the fact. No shock--there was a lot of resentment over that.

It is so easy do SOMEthing that is fitting the value of the occasion that I just can't see why anyone would do the courthouse routine unless there is a huge amount of shame involved.

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Edited to add:

Check out Craigslist for officiants, too. There are sure to be some verrrrry freaky ones available to "consider". Here in Houston, there is one that specializes in Furby weddings and another that specializes in Nude weddings. Yep. Considering the climate, I know which would be my preference. hahahaha

Edited April 13, 2013 by EminTX

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

I also want to add that I am glad to see you avoiding the courthouse routine. Even though it is technically legit and there is nothing really wrong with it, it always feels so wrong to me to celebrate a life changing milestone in the same place you pay a traffic ticket or sue someone. It seems belittling. I have been to a few. One, the guy went to work on his evening shift right after that and the bride returned to her house and they moved in together a couple of weeks later. Practical, yes. Celebratory? No. The last one I went to was equally depressing. The bride's adult children were in town but not invited to come at all because "it would just have been too much bother." Very depressing. I was invited as the only witness because I was off work. She announced the marriage to her children after the fact. No shock--there was a lot of resentment over that.

Some court houses have a separate area. We had a separate building just for marriages. NYC is very proud of it. It had awesome green upholstered benches and flowers all over the steps from other people. It was nice. Your experience may differ from other people's.