Just want to be married and be together

[Flaxen 2]

We filed for the K1 petition in early August 2012 ... 220 days ago today. There is no guarantee that we will get a response, possibly for months still... we can hope for 'any day' but realistically we have been saying that since January.

My question is... can we legitimately and legally move from a K1 to K3 process? We simply want to get on with our lives... and be married. Can I in any way travel to the States and marry.. stay and leave for any visa processes required in my off shore country? At least waiting for the petition process being together seems more manageable... We want it to be legal and up front though. If it's not legal.. we would not consider doing it.

A complication is that my boss at work is going for a long holiday in a few months.. and I don't want to resign while he's away and leave work in the lurch so to speak. It would be so much more convenient to have a replacement on board before he goes away. I am feeling torn.

Any input appreciated...

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

If you marry you will have to start over from the beginning. I know it is hard, but it will be over soon and this pain will melt away. You should get NOA2 soon.

[Oregon Bound 30]

Your filing date is just after mine and I am still waiting. We realy shouldn't have much longer to wait now. Personally, I would wait. My fiance and I agreed we didn't want to spend married life apart for months so we chose the fiance visa. Yes it's hard being away from each other but in a way, I think it would have been worse if we were married and living apart. Just my thoughts. Hang on in there.

[Boiler 45,466]

You can always visit.

K3 is dead btw.

[Salamat_sa_Diyos 1]

Hi...! ALL of us just want to be married and be together. Hang in there! I usually say "Pray"! but I have to be sensitive if you have any religion. So pardon me.

I'm an August filer at Vermont. I already got my papers to fill out from the US Embassy here in Singapore. I think you should be receiving something soon. At one point, CA was going faster than VT in terms of replies. Now it's VT going faster.

Back in August, we were told that we would have our reply in Jan. We got ours in mid-Feb. So, please hang in there. I would opine that changing it to K3 would mean back to square 1. Apply again, and then wait for another 6-8 months.

Like my fiance tells me all the time--We're closer (in terms of time) to being together than we were before.

Have a great day!

[BaBamSam 239]

I believe K3 has been discontinued, but either way it would make no sense to jump ship now and start over. It's hard to wait, but the waiting is almost over.

I usually say "Pray"! but I have to be sensitive if you have any religion. So pardon me.

Just wanted to say thank you for this! It shows a great deal of respect and appreciation

[Azsara 110]

We filed for the K1 petition in early August 2012 ... 220 days ago today. There is no guarantee that we will get a response, possibly for months still... we can hope for 'any day' but realistically we have been saying that since January.

My question is... can we legitimately and legally move from a K1 to K3 process? We simply want to get on with our lives... and be married. Can I in any way travel to the States and marry.. stay and leave for any visa processes required in my off shore country? At least waiting for the petition process being together seems more manageable... We want it to be legal and up front though. If it's not legal.. we would not consider doing it.

A complication is that my boss at work is going for a long holiday in a few months.. and I don't want to resign while he's away and leave work in the lurch so to speak. It would be so much more convenient to have a replacement on board before he goes away. I am feeling torn.

Any input appreciated...

You are sooooo close! Dont give up! My fiancee and I are thinking about abandoning the K1 and getting married but we are only (less than) 2 months into the process, I think you would highly regret this 7 month wait for nothing

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

You do know you can visit now, and stay a few weeks/ months with your fiance? That may make the wait more bearable and is a better option than loosing all the time you've waited already and loose the filing fees to get married and start all over- there is no switching to a K3/ CR-1 spousal visa, you would need to start from scratch.

[rascalcat 28]

Yes absolutely hang in there! I know its hard to wait. We have a baby boy and are anxious to be together. 7 months since NOA2 so far. You should expect an a 8-9 month wait. So i am sure it will be a matter if just a few weeks before you hear something now! Dont start over with a k-3, as its going to take even longer, and is finacially straining enough, without having more processing fees, stress, and time apart. Not worth it. You have come this far and your almost there now!

[Lillen Faith 5]

You do know you can visit now, and stay a few weeks/ months with your fiance? That may make the wait more bearable and is a better option than loosing all the time you've waited already and loose the filing fees to get married and start all over- there is no switching to a K3/ CR-1 spousal visa, you would need to start from scratch.

Are u sure it is okay for me to visit my fiance in America while we are waiting for the NOA-2 or for the visa?

We filed for the K1 petition in early August 2012 ... 220 days ago today. There is no guarantee that we will get a response, possibly for months still... we can hope for 'any day' but realistically we have been saying that since January.

My question is... can we legitimately and legally move from a K1 to K3 process? We simply want to get on with our lives... and be married. Can I in any way travel to the States and marry.. stay and leave for any visa processes required in my off shore country? At least waiting for the petition process being together seems more manageable... We want it to be legal and up front though. If it's not legal.. we would not consider doing it.

A complication is that my boss at work is going for a long holiday in a few months.. and I don't want to resign while he's away and leave work in the lurch so to speak. It would be so much more convenient to have a replacement on board before he goes away. I am feeling torn.

Any input appreciated...

I have the same feelings too, the waiting time is so stressful...

[Maxheadspace 48]

We filed for the K1 petition in early August 2012 ... 220 days ago today.

August 2012?!? OMG, you are almost there! Why screw it up by starting over with another submission? I wish I was that close! Good luck!

[AndrostoAustin 2]

We are at 248 days from NOA 1 at Vermont for fiance visa. I would say hang in there and stay on the current track because starting over wiill only add time unless your fiance was able to move to your country.

[Flaxen 2]

Thanks everyone... the weekends are the hardest. Getting to work on Monday gives focus...

I guess its the not knowing... and the thought that this can still go on for weeks and weeks.. and just wanting some ability to manage my own life. Luxury complaints I know.

Really appreciate the encouragement.

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

Are u sure it is okay for me to visit my fiance in America while we are waiting for the NOA-2 or for the visa?

Absolutely- being from a visa waiver country, you will likely have no trouble and be waived through, but to be on the safe side, bring your NOA1 (or NOA2, if you have it by then), and maybe a lease or letter from the employer... ie something showing you will return.

[packypax 0]

We filed for the K1 petition in early August 2012 ... 220 days ago today. There is no guarantee that we will get a response, possibly for months still... we can hope for 'any day' but realistically we have been saying that since January.

My question is... can we legitimately and legally move from a K1 to K3 process? We simply want to get on with our lives... and be married. Can I in any way travel to the States and marry.. stay and leave for any visa processes required in my off shore country? At least waiting for the petition process being together seems more manageable... We want it to be legal and up front though. If it's not legal.. we would not consider doing it.

A complication is that my boss at work is going for a long holiday in a few months.. and I don't want to resign while he's away and leave work in the lurch so to speak. It would be so much more convenient to have a replacement on board before he goes away. I am feeling torn.

Any input appreciated...

dont worry mate you are not alone. I filed aug.05,12 got NOA1 2 days later. and still waiting for the NOA2. I am almost losing hope. Good thing I found VJ and got encouragement.