Surrogate offered $10,000 to abort baby

[Karee 4,191]

Surrogacy is tricky for situations exactly like this. Had I been the mother who was paying another woman to have my child, I'd hope I'd have some say in the decisions. However, at the same time, I would feel the need to respect the woman carrying the child and feel the need to respect the decisions she made for her own body. Such a mess.

Why not just adopt a kid? At least you can see what you're getting.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Why not just adopt a kid? At least you can see what you're getting.

Adoption is an expensive, lengthy process. This probably seemed like the better option.

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

Adoption is an expensive, lengthy process. This probably seemed like the better option.

I think they paid her quite a bit. Private adoptions range from 10k - 30k so I think based on her fee it would have been in their price range. If you go through the foster system its much cheaper.

The Telegraph's version has this "The couples' three children had all been born prematurely and two had ongoing medical problems." Something tells me they had no business having another child to begin with.

[aaydrian 479]

Adoption is an expensive, lengthy process. This probably seemed like the better option.

But there's Foster care. But the problem with adopting/fostering is most times candidates want babies. Babies don't come with developed habits, know their broken history, will require more emotionally in the initial stage etc.

[SBB 74]

Surrogacy is tricky for situations exactly like this. Had I been the mother who was paying another woman to have my child, I'd hope I'd have some say in the decisions. However, at the same time, I would feel the need to respect the woman carrying the child and feel the need to respect the decisions she made for her own body. Such a mess.

There's a reason that a number of states don't recognize surrogacy agreements at all.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

There's a reason that a number of states don't recognize surrogacy agreements at all.

Definitely. It's a more complicated issue than a lot of people think. This situation helps highlight why.