If my future wive's autistic son

[visagreenhorn 4]

I will return to Beijing to marry my fiance soon, but in the future we plan to both apply for a visa to both return to live in the US together. There is a complicated situation though. My fiance's ex husband refuses to sign off his name on an apartment that should only be in my fiance's name by law of their divorce agreement. Right now the apartment is in both of their names though. She has attempted to talk with him about having his name taken off, so the apartment is only under her name, but he ignores her and refuses. He recently told her that he would only take his name off if she applied for and signed a official letter stating that her son is autistic aka "disabled" according to China. She told me that she thinks that he only wants this because he is married to another woman now and they want to have a child together, but can't because of the one-child policy. By having her get this official disabled letter for her son, he would be able to have another child with his new wife. My concern is that once she gets this disabled letter for her son, that it will create a roadblock for us applying for a visa to live in the US together with the boy. I know that the US government will deny people sue to autism and things like this. I would greatly appreciate anyone's help with this complicated situation. Anyone on here in an international marriage with an autistic child?

Edited March 2, 2013 by visagreenhorn

[Penguin_ie 5,997]

I know that the US government will deny people sue to autism and things like this.

I have an autistic son, though he was only 8 months old when we immigrated. In any case, you are wrong in what you "know". The only reason people get denied on medical grounds is if it is a communicable disease (such as active TB they are not willing to treat). Even if your step son has autism, he will be elligible for a visa.

[Darnell 8,479]

she should have remedy from the court and the court officers, for apartment title.

What has she attempted, with the court, so far?

[visagreenhorn 4]

Well, she took her son to get diagnosed for autism, but since autism was just discovered really recently in China, the autism "specialists" don't know much it seems. She told me that when her son was being diagnosed, the specialist didn't even write up any official documents or anything. He just basically wrote down on a regular piece of paper his behavior and then told her that he seems to act like a boy with autism. I guess this would constitute as us "knowing" that he is autistic? I have my doubts and I want to have him re-tested in the US in the future. Now I am just worrying about getting her and him there without issues. I guess we can just be up front and say that the autism specialist told us he is autistic and apply and see what happens. Is there a special way to apply for a visa for a boy with autism? Will they observe his behavior and try to talk with him at the visa interview? He is not really social and avoids eye contact. Things like this.

As for dealing with her unreasonable ex...so far she has just approached him politely about the matter just to be shut down every time. She told me that she will just hire a lawyer and force him to take his name off because the apartment is supposed to be only in her name according to their divorce agreement. I hope that works without too much drama or collateral damage type nonsense. Any suggestions regarding either one of these topics I mentioned?

[Darnell 8,479]

she should have remedy from the court and the court officers, for apartment title.

What has she attempted, with the divorce court, so far? Since he not get down to the registry office to update the hukuo books voluntarily, the court officers can assist a bit.

[Penguin_ie 5,997]

Did you read what I said? The autism will not have any effect on the interview/ visa.

There is no different visa for autistic kids, it is not easier or more difficult to get a immigration visa for a stepson because he is autistic. If he has sensory issues such as that the medical would be difficult/ is non verbal, then accomodations can be made. Otherwise, carry on as normal (young kids are often not really interviewed anyways). The child is no danger to himself or others, so him getting a visa weill be no problem.

[apple21 953]

I will return to Beijing to marry my fiance soon, but in the future we plan to both apply for a visa to both return to live in the US together. There is a complicated situation though. My fiance's ex husband refuses to sign off his name on an apartment that should only be in my fiance's name by law of their divorce agreement. Right now the apartment is in both of their names though. She has attempted to talk with him about having his name taken off, so the apartment is only under her name, but he ignores her and refuses. He recently told her that he would only take his name off if she applied for and signed a official letter stating that her son is autistic aka "disabled" according to China. She told me that she thinks that he only wants this because he is married to another woman now and they want to have a child together, but can't because of the one-child policy. By having her get this official disabled letter for her son, he would be able to have another child with his new wife. My concern is that once she gets this disabled letter for her son, that it will create a roadblock for us applying for a visa to live in the US together with the boy. I know that the US government will deny people sue to autism and things like this. I would greatly appreciate anyone's help with this complicated situation. Anyone on here in an international marriage with an autistic child?

You are misinformed. The US government will NOT deny the child a visa because of autism. The autistic child will be under THE SAME category as a normal child. Having autism will NOT slow-down (nor speed-up) his immigration process. Children are NOT extensively interviewed at the embassy so you don't have to worry about that.

[visagreenhorn 4]

Yes, I read what you wrote and I am sorry for coming off as misinformed. It is just that someone I know was adamantly telling me not to let them know the boy is autistic because they would deny him, not wanting to have to possibly support him in some social programs. I guess that person is totally wrong and I don't need to listen to them. So I will just be honest about the boy being autistic then. I was also wondering if I married my Chinese fiance in China and I had a spousal visa and gained permanent residence, would my future wife have no problem obtaining either a visa to relocate to live in the US with me and her son?

[Penguin_ie 5,997]

There is always a chance of getting denied, but couples who are married and living together tend to have a much easier time getting a visa (if the financial issue can be overcome).

[Ippsy Pippsy 31]

I would think that being diagnosed autistic could cause problems if they are asked about how they plan to pay for health insurance/"treatments".