Colorado school bars transgendered 1st-grader from using girls' restroom

[decocker 7,198]

I can't believe I'm reading this.

you can't believe it because it isn't the norm. it isn't normal for a six year old boy to want to dress like a girl. that's why children who identify as the opposite sex, generally, are under the care of a mental health professional.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Why? Because I don't believe how a child dresses really matters?

The bathroom actually impacts other people, so I understand that. But what they wear? As long as it's within the rules of the school's dress code, why does it matter if the kid chooses to wear pink?

How about a 6 year old boy wearing a dress? Or a skirt and tights? Would that meet your approval as a parent?

[decocker 7,198]

I don't know exactly what he is wearing to class. Would a dress be ok? How about a skirt?

um, yes. a dress or a skirt would be within dress code, no? no more than one inch above the knee or something...

[Penny Lane 8,159]

I don't know exactly what he is wearing to class. Would a dress be ok? How about a skirt?

Sure, why not? If the kid is comfortable in it, how does this impact other students or the school? It doesn't. Other than they think it's weird.

Is it okay if a girl wore "boy clothes", whatever those are? Or is it only when boys wear girl clothes that we all freak out?

Edited February 27, 2013 by Evylin

[spookyturtle 9,466]

you can't believe it because it isn't the norm. it isn't normal for a six year old boy to want to dress like a girl. that's why children who identify as the opposite sex, generally, are under the care of a mental health professional.

How about, honey, you're a boy and boys don't wear those?

Sure, why not? If the kid is comfortable in it, how does this impact other students or the school? It doesn't. Other than they think it's weird.

Is it okay if a girl wore "boy clothes", whatever those are? Or is it only when boys where girl clothes that we all freak out?

With an outlook like this, no wonder kids are the way they are today.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

How about, honey, you're a boy and boys don't wear those?

With an outlook like this, no wonder kids are the way they are today.

If you think that's going to work on a child that is legitimately having gender identity issues, then I don't know what to tell you. Perhaps short term it will. Long term will likely do more harm than good.

With an outlook like this, no wonder kids are the way they are today.

An outlook like WHAT? You didn't answer any of my questions. I don't care if a girl wears boy clothes. Do you? And if so, why? Clothes are clothes. I wore jeans and a tshirt from grade 1-4. Never wore pink, never wore dresses, one could say I dressed like a boy. Does that matter?

[decocker 7,198]

How about, honey, you're a boy and boys don't wear those?

that's how transgendered kids get royally screwed up by their parents. there are many more indicators that a child is transgendered other than on a whim asking to wear girls clothes. my nephew asked for a kitchen set and play vacuum for christmas when he was four. did his parents start dressing him in girls clothes because they assumed these behaviors meant he was transgendered or effeminate? nope.

With an outlook like this, no wonder kids are the way they are today.

yep. parents can totally make their kids transgendered or homosexual or heterosexual depending upon their parenting approach. totally..

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Funny we see more and more of this but the parents don't have anything to do with it. I can only imagine what the next generation will bring.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

Funny we see more and more of this but the parents don't have anything to do with it. I can only imagine what the next generation will bring.

There's plenty of situations like this around the country/rest of the world that you don't see or hear anything about. It's easy to say these parents have something to do with and are exploiting the situation, but what about the parents who aren't? Who are just trying to do what's right for their child when an issue like this comes up and they don't want to do permanent damage either way?

[spookyturtle 9,466]

There's plenty of situations like this around the country/rest of the world that you don't see or hear anything about. It's easy to say these parents have something to do with and are exploiting the situation, but what about the parents who aren't? Who are just trying to do what's right for their child when an issue like this comes up and they don't want to do permanent damage either way?

When I was a kid and wanted to play with dolls my mother said they were girl toys. I got over it quickly and as I grew older realized it was more fun to play with the real thing. And I turned out fine.

[Penny Lane 8,159]

When I was a kid and wanted to play with dolls my mother said they were girl toys. I got over it quickly and as I grew older realized it was more fun to play with the real thing. And I turned out fine.

And there are plenty of boys who play with dolls and girls who play with cars that "turn out fine" as well. Why are we forcing gender stereotypes on TOYS of all things? Kids want to play with whatever looks fun for them. It's the adults who put the "but that's a girl/boy toy" label on them. Why do we do that to children? What does it matter?

To kids, they're just toys. Unless they're taught otherwise.

Edited February 27, 2013 by Evylin

[spookyturtle 9,466]

And there are plenty of boys who play with dolls and girls who play with cars that "turn out fine" as well. Why are we forcing gender stereotypes on TOYS of all things? Kids want to play with whatever looks fun for them. It's the adults who put the "but that's a girl/boy toy" label on them. Why do we do that to children? What does it matter?

To kids, they're just toys. Unless they're taught otherwise.

And it's the adults that put the girls clothes on boy starting at age 5 in this case.

[decocker 7,198]

When I was a kid and wanted to play with dolls my mother said they were girl toys. I got over it quickly and as I grew older realized it was more fun to play with the real thing. And I turned out fine.

you're also not transgendered. correct?

[Teddy B 17,252]

There's plenty of situations like this around the country/rest of the world that you don't see or hear anything about. It's easy to say these parents have something to do with and are exploiting the situation, but what about the parents who aren't? Who are just trying to do what's right for their child when an issue like this comes up and they don't want to do permanent damage either way?

In my opinion those parents are doing what's right for their child by not making a public spectacle out of them, and letting life play itself out.

There is a very good reason why children aren't considered adults until the age of 18, they simply haven't matured enough mentally to make life changing decisions.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

you're also not transgendered. correct?

Anyway, I'll check back here a bit later on. I've got to go pick up some new heels and pantyhose on my lunch break.