Advice needed

[Albion 0]

Good morning, I have recently spent 3 months in the USA visiting my girlfriend, I am from the UK. I was on an esta visa and visited from October to Janurary. Me and this girl who lives in Western MA are in love and leaving in January was extremely tough but i didn't want to invalidate my esta. I want to go back as soon as possible but i am worried i won't get in the country and i was advised by a forum that i should wait 3 months before returning. We do plan to marry and we do intend to use a lawyer to help us through the process. Could you advise when would be a suitable time for me to return? Many thanks

[Lillen Faith 5]

I usually wait for 6 months or it depends when I can get off days from my work!

[JTB11 1,079]

Hi,

I had gone through similar situation so I am going to give you info about my experience and then you decide.

Also spent 3 months with my , now, fiance back in 2011/12 from November till February. I left as I was supposed to and came back July 2012. First time around i did get questioned quite a bit but was let thru, second time around I was also under scrutiny and was told that next time around they would not let me thru and to give myself a good long break before visiting again aka I was done being allowed to come into the US on ESTA for the rest of 2012 and need to let some time pass even in 2013 before I would be allowed to come in. The lady also said next time they might just ask me to return and get a visa. I did not attempt to come back at all while we are waiting for our petition for fiance visa to go thru. Somehow I got the feeling I would be denied entry. From that I can only gather that waiting 6 months before going back is a good idea and also not staying for 3 months even a better one. When I visited before the longer stays it was only for 2 weeks at a time and never had an issue.

Long, frequent stays are not ok since they will think you are trying to either stay forever or work illegally. Of course, I did not even think about that, all I wanted is to be with him without thinking what it may look like to others who don't know me.

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

You may get lucky and be allowed in tomorrow, but to be reasonably save, stay out at least as long as you have been in, ie 90 days, and bring ties to your home country (letter from job when you are expected back, enrollment to university etc). They WILL think it is suspicious you can afford to spend sop much time in the USA without working, and will also be concerned that you wil marry your US girlfriend and stay, ie use the visa waiver fraudulantly.

When do you plan to marry? Do you plan on getting the K1 fiance visa and marry once over there, or get married and then file for the CR-1 spousal visa?

[canadian_wife 1,829]

If you are able to travel to the US so quickly after a 3 month stay, what ties do you have to the UK to produce if asked?

good luck

[Albion 0]

In that case I think we're just going to file for marriage now. I've convinced my girlfriend it's the best thing to do and i think it is, I guess it is better to think long term than just living in the moment. Anyone going through this will know how tough it is and i sometimes wish she was from Canada or Australia so things would be a little easier. Things get easier over time i guess just struggling with the whole situation but must keep on... Thanks for all your replies.

[Albion 0]

In that case I think we're just going to file for marriage now. I've convinced my girlfriend it's the best thing to do and i think it is, I guess it is better to think long term than just living in the moment. Anyone going through this will know how tough it is and i sometimes wish she was from Canada or Australia so things would be a little easier. Things get easier over time i guess just struggling with the whole situation but must keep on... Thanks for all your replies.

and now she thinks she might be preg. Wow. As if things couldn't get any more complicated.

[Owen_London 65]

Good luck.

[raf.luv.leah 5]

I've convinced my girlfriend it's the best thing to do and i think it is, I guess it is better to think long term than just living in the moment.

So romantic.