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[saleem maria 6]

U.S. is not an ideal place to come.they have no jobs. monopolies are everywhere.they even don't accept our education.all you get warehouse jobs. GSI,or ZAPOOS.i don't know about u but my life was very good in my country.i am now panic here can't go back.racism is here also,lots of problem. this is not a place of to come any more.

[TimeTravel 78]

U.S. is not an ideal place to come.they have no jobs. monopolies are everywhere.they even don't accept our education.all you get warehouse jobs. GSI,or ZAPOOS.i don't know about u but my life was very good in my country.i am now panic here can't go back.racism is here also,lots of problem. this is not a place of to come any more.

Sorry for your unpleasant experience in United States. May be, you should move to better city with better location. This can be helpful. If it does not seem to work out for you, then you are free to go back to your home country anytime you wish.

I understand, it may take some time to set your feet here, but if you try hard, you will get it. Learn what you need to do to mix with this culture.

[JTB11 1,079]

You know, it is difficult to make a huge change in your life especially when you feel it is not for the better. I for one struggled with it myself...great job, great country that i lived in for 12 years of my life (Switzerland) and now I am to move somewhere with lack of jobs not knowing whether I can actually get a good job and continue my career path....it is a lot of unknowns and a lot to swallow and of course there is more to it than that....sometimes it feels like I am making a bad choice until I realize that without my fiance...no matter how much money i make, no matter how clean and ordered and perfect the country i moved from was....i was not really happy only comfortable living to work. He is what makes me want to wake up in the morning with a smile on my face and if it means making this huge move and change then I will. He is where my heart is and that is all that matters, the rest....we will work out together. He will help me and i am sure your significant other will do the same for you. Did you talk to your spouse about this ?

Just thought I'd chime in with my feelings.

[Boiler 45,525]

Do you mean Zappos?

[saleem maria 6]

Do you mean Zappos?

yes i worked there for one week in zappos warehouse also in gsi-commerce horrible working environment i never worked like dat in my life until my old fractured leg bone start hurting i quit immediately coz health care is also a horrible thing here.and i don't have any health insurance.also not eligible for medicaid.they dont give health coverage.

[Boiler 45,525]

Minimum wage jobs and employer provided healthcare are not a good match.

Your wife would have had to sponsor you, that would have been one of the factors in deciding who moved where.

[Ryan H 3,812]

Moved from IR-1/CR-1 Process & Procedures to Moving Here & Your New Life In America forum.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Sorry you've had difficulty. America isn't some promised land and it can be very difficult at times. I think you have the added challenge of being from an area that isn't CABA or Europe. That isn't something that anyone can fix for you and only you through dedicated hard work, education, and a drive to integrate can overcome.

Living in a new country is hard and the majority do find it a painful experience. I found it hard living in my husband's country and he'll find it hard living in America. It is what it is.

[Mey78 3]

Sorry to hear that things aren't working for you.. Maybe you chose the wrong place to live.. I started my journey in New York and let me tell you it was awful, I moved to a different state and not only I'm finishing my college education without even go thru all the annoying paperwork but also recently got approved for a new house which the mortgage will be cheaper than rent and my family is going to finally be together.. Look if you came from a different country pursuing a dream was for a reason and is normal to be scared, bad politics and economical problems are everywhere including safety and health but one thing is to have more resources than our own countries and better opportunities, life isn't easy anywhere you go and because is America doesn't mean is like the movies.. You build your own future according to your own decisions and how hard you have to work in life.. So doesn't matter where you go your life will be miserable if you don't work hard and do what it takes to make it better

[moroccogirlny 100]

You also came here to build a life with your spouse. Take baby steps....one day this shall pass.

[wilfon 30]

You also came here to build a life with your spouse. Take baby steps....one day this shall pass.

I just wanted to say, that is a funny picture

[Waiting234 18]

You know, it is difficult to make a huge change in your life especially when you feel it is not for the better. I for one struggled with it myself...great job, great country that i lived in for 12 years of my life (Switzerland) and now I am to move somewhere with lack of jobs not knowing whether I can actually get a good job and continue my career path....it is a lot of unknowns and a lot to swallow and of course there is more to it than that....sometimes it feels like I am making a bad choice until I realize that without my fiance...no matter how much money i make, no matter how clean and ordered and perfect the country i moved from was....i was not really happy only comfortable living to work. He is what makes me want to wake up in the morning with a smile on my face and if it means making this huge move and change then I will. He is where my heart is and that is all that matters, the rest....we will work out together. He will help me and i am sure your significant other will do the same for you. Did you talk to your spouse about this ?

Just thought I'd chime in with my feelings.

My thoughts exactly.

[EAS 45]

U.S. is not an ideal place to come.they have no jobs. monopolies are everywhere.they even don't accept our education.all you get warehouse jobs. GSI,or ZAPOOS.i don't know about u but my life was very good in my country.i am now panic here can't go back.racism is here also,lots of problem. this is not a place of to come any more.

Welcome to the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA!

The economy here is in a very bad way. You will hear talk of how things are improving but that isn't applicable for those that didn't have a pretty good place in the economy already. Unemployment is still very, very high. Employers are being very, very choosy about whom they hire and are paying lower wages to many [not all]. So, I would agree with you that high paying jobs are not easy to get.

The United States considers itself an education powerhouse, at least in the secondary educational levels. So does a lot of the rest of the world as evidenced by enrollment of foreign students in the major and minor Universities and Colleges here. It can be difficult to get one's education recognized here and frankly in some cases it won't be recognized and one will have to start over or at least redo part of it. The United States Department of Education can give you guidance on how to have your educational qualifications evaluated and validated. Once you get your credentials validated properly you will know if you have a US equivalent degree or if you need to do more work.

Warehouse jobs suck, even if you are a natural born U.S. Citizen. My brother worked at warehouse jobs and was not enthralled with the working conditions. But that is the nature of those types of jobs.

It is nice to know that you had a good life in your country. Can you tell me why you can't go back? If your life in your country was very good, why did you choose to move to the United States? I mean couldn't your spouse/fiance(e) have moved to your country and enjoyed sharing your very good life there?

You are quite correct there is racism in the United States. You will never escape it. Racist don't limit themselves to living in one county, town, city, state or region. Racist come from all walks of life: educated, uneducated, rich, poor, middle class, etc.

There are lots of problems in the United States; you haven't even scratched the surface in your list. If you are looking for a trouble-free existence you won't find it here, unless potentially you are a member of the wealthy and/or powerful classes. Although I read that even they have problems.

The United States is not a perfect place and honestly it has never been the land of fairness and opportunity that it once was perceived to be. But one can live a decent life here, given a little good luck in addition to hard work! Only you can decide if the United States is the right place for you.

Edited February 24, 2013 by EAS

[StephAnn2012 50]

It is very difficult in life to make such big changes. I think you have gotten some great feedback from some very kind people. My first reaction was to get defensive as you were criticizing America. But after reading the patience that others used in their responses, I too can sympathize with you.

1. One of the challenges is being new to an area - regardless of which country you are from, even American's take time to adjust and be accepted in a new city, job, school.

2. Language creates challenges - When I am in my fiancee's country, I get frustrated that they don't understand me and I don't understand them and using hand gestures gets old and accomplishes only basic communication.

3. The world is struggling and if things are bad in the US, I promise you they will be worse in your country soon. The ripple effect is like a stone being dropped into the water. The world is connected through world trade. No matter what country you came from. They will be affected as the crash and slow recovery spread throughout the world.

4. Take whatever job you can get and can do (provided your health is good) - Work hard, work your way up or learn to find another job in your spare time after you have some US street credit for having done a good job where you are.

If I moved to any other country or any other profession than I am in now, I would have to start at the bottom.

You might consider - reconsidering your approach to all of this. As negative as your attitude is right now, it will be difficult for you to accomplish anything here in the US. If I were interviewing someone who was from a foreign country and they seemed upset and bitter about our country, I wouldn't hire her/him just because I would be offended that a foreigner was criticizing the country I call home.

Good luck to you though.

[LanaMay 5]

Not everything is ideal here true.I lived in Netherlands for a while before US and loved it.But it was very difficult to find a good job there not being fluent in Dutch. For me US was a better option and the fact I was very young when I came here helped to adapt.

At first I wanted to blame this country and it's people for my failures too.But you have to reconcile yourself to the simple truth that everyone is in charge of their own life and decisions to certain extent.I am curious too,why can't you go back to great life in your home country?

My happiness is people I love, not good work and a lot of money.

When all is said and done US of A is not even close to the worst place a person could live.I learned to love this country and appreciate what it have given me.I would not have a better life in Ukraine,where I was born.

Be positive and open minded,be kind and good to people and they will treat you the same.

Edited February 24, 2013 by LanaMay