How is your Filipina / Filipino Adjusting?

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

If you can buy her wedding dress there it is much cheaper. My wife bought hers for $125 and in the US similiar for about $1000.00

It costs as much to get her's stored here as we paid for it in the PI.

[X Factor 1,113]

It costs as much to get her's stored here as we paid for it in the PI.

I went to one cleaner and they wanted $55 to press her wedding dress. Then I went to another one and they charged $15.00. It's amazing how expensive it is just to take care of a wedding dress her than in the Philippines.

[marissa musthaler 3]

How is your spouse adjusting to the American culture / way of life for those who brought their lovers here. My love comes next week on Friday and am just curious as to how it is working out for you all?

I assume after sometime the rice dinners start to minimize and more of a cuisine is acclamated.

Notice any struggles from your love?

Was your love homesick?

How are you the petitioner / American dealing with the transition?

Just general info to start a discussion would be excellent in things you have noticed.

Hello, maybe i can speak for myself, it was a big decision for me, i left a high position in the govt office, a high paying job to come to the US just to be with my husband. We were married in the Philippines, a very simple one for my relatives there and they had a welcome party for us here.

Well, i lost 30 pounds after few months here in the states, thats true rice eater like us Filipinos will have to adjust with the american food, potatoes, bread, pasta etc. Sometimes we dont even have food to eat. Homesick yes, after few months most especially we had our first Christmas in the states and its not like in our country, the way we celebrate it. struggles, yes financially thats why

i have to look for a job,so that me and my son have something to eat.

she have to be strong and always be positive, you must be honest and tell her everything about you, as for me, i always hear my sister in law about my husbands past, i do feel insecured and tell my husband . . they have change since we arrived. reception was nice when we arrived here but since my husband has a family of his own now, his priorities is his family, we. side comments from my in laws about girls my husband had before . . they tend to compare us. but i believe every one is unique. My petitioner is very patient with all this nasty things i hear from his sister, he always tell me to be strong, and he loves me.

Edited March 5, 2013 by marissa musthaler

[revtech100 16]

We went through a lot of these but she's doing good. Finally she's out driving around town and getting out.....

But this morning she asks if spring is always like this. It 17 degrees. We live in Anchorage. She thought the trees would bloom and the birds would sing day 1. But she's such a trooper and such a great wife. My biggest regret is not doing this 10 years ago!

[Wariza 8]

Okay, we just got home to the US this week so things should be interesting here on out. I know we are wasteful here, and many in Philippines waste not one morsel of food. She cracked me up because she took the individually wrapped bread we got on airline flight but did not eat and put it in her bag. They are not sitting on the dinner room table. She was painfully watching me cutting the tops off strawberries because she thought I was cutting too much off. I told her that part is bitter and tough. I thought she would faint when I started cutting the pineapple up. Will this change?

The first thing I did was take her to get new shoes. The shoes she was wearing were fake leather high heels. The plastic was peeling off and the underneath showing. I bought her a pair and good heels, keds, and some sneakers. She did not want but one pair, but I convinced her she needed more for different occasions.

She was very happy though when we went shopping and I bought her fish, rice, and a rice cooker.

[Hank_ 9,174]

Wait until you empty a jar of something and try to toss the jar ....

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Almost six years later, and I am still teaching the wife the difference between returnables, recyclables, compostables, burnables, and garbage.

[actob99 156]

Isn't life great...i couldn't be happier with these daily occurances...

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Okay, we just got home to the US this week so things should be interesting here on out. I know we are wasteful here, and many in Philippines waste not one morsel of food. She cracked me up because she took the individually wrapped bread we got on airline flight but did not eat and put it in her bag. They are not sitting on the dinner room table. She was painfully watching me cutting the tops off strawberries because she thought I was cutting too much off. I told her that part is bitter and tough. I thought she would faint when I started cutting the pineapple up. Will this change?

The first thing I did was take her to get new shoes. The shoes she was wearing were fake leather high heels. The plastic was peeling off and the underneath showing. I bought her a pair and good heels, keds, and some sneakers. She did not want but one pair, but I convinced her she needed more for different occasions.

She was very happy though when we went shopping and I bought her fish, rice, and a rice cooker.

And that is the way it goes. I looked in my our closet soon after we got married. I told her.. No man should have more shoes than his wife. We fixed that. You will be selecting restaurants based on who serves rice for a while. Just accpet some things are diffrent and what may seem very minor to you may be a big deal to her.

[Caryh 5,206]

Okay, we just got home to the US this week so things should be interesting here on out. I know we are wasteful here, and many in Philippines waste not one morsel of food. She cracked me up because she took the individually wrapped bread we got on airline flight but did not eat and put it in her bag. They are not sitting on the dinner room table. She was painfully watching me cutting the tops off strawberries because she thought I was cutting too much off. I told her that part is bitter and tough. I thought she would faint when I started cutting the pineapple up. Will this change?

The first thing I did was take her to get new shoes. The shoes she was wearing were fake leather high heels. The plastic was peeling off and the underneath showing. I bought her a pair and good heels, keds, and some sneakers. She did not want but one pair, but I convinced her she needed more for different occasions.

She was very happy though when we went shopping and I bought her fish, rice, and a rice cooker.

That will change with time. My wife had nothing but a pair of sandals to wear to the USA. Some housebreakers had gotten into her place and stole her tennis shoes, she never replaced them. But I knew she'd be too cold on the flight to the USA, so I made her buy a new pair. Jump to the USA and she thought she was just fine, a pair of sandals and a pair of tennis shoes. Well we live in Minnesota, you don't get by with just that, so I took her out and bought her appropriate shoes for different weather conditions. So now she had a 4 or 5 pairs of shoes. Jump forward a year and half. I'm not to sure how many pairs of shoes she has, its more than she ever dreamed she would in the Philippines. We're watching Kris TV on the Filipino channel and they're at some actress' home who is showing off her Imelda closet and my wife mentions she now wants a 100 pair of shoes I told her when my daughter is grown and no longer needs her room, just a couple years away, I'll turn that room into an Imelda closet for her and she can collect away. She's really good at using her weekly allowance to buy clothes and shoes, even for me to, that how many she wants to get is fine with me. Its a little strange, she refuses to use the check card and access our money directly, instead she wants me to take it out of the ATM and give it to her in cash. I guess saving cash in hand feels more real to her than dollars in the bank accessed with the card.

At first every little left over table scrap my wife would try to find a way to use. A year and half later she comments how we throw away more food every day than she ate back home, said as she was throwing more away. Back home every bit of that extra food would have gone to feeding the dogs, and if still extra saved for some neighbor who was raising a pig or two. Here the dog, gets her own special food and just a bit of scraps as a treat. Failure to do so will get her sick and no one wants to deal with that mess.

As it dawns on her you can afford to cut a little more off the strawberry because that part is not as good, it won't bother her so much. You can't go from not having enough regularly, to I'll just cut off and throw away a third because its not as good overnight. But it doesn't appear to take that long to adjust. Also its easier in the Philippines to buy just the amount you need, where here we're often forced to buy in prepackaged sizes. I'll still see that Filipino frugality come out at times. We were at the Asian grocery getting a few things. As we were checking out I notice one carrot being rang up in a plastic bag I had no idea it was even possible to buy a single carrot, I know in the American grocery stores I never see that, its a bag or a bunch. I really love the big Asian grocery stores here. We can leave with a ton of food for much less cash than at the American style grocery.

[Caryh 5,206]

Almost six years later, and I am still teaching the wife the difference between returnables, recyclables, compostables, burnables, and garbage.

My wife has been pretty good at that, but some things that hit recycling are the wrong type of plastic that can't be recycled here. I just pull it out and move it to the trash, as I usually don't catch her doing it. But once she knows, she's pretty good and remembering. Of course we only have garbage and recycling, so its easier. Can't compost, the townhouse community doesn't allow it. Can't burn, same reason. Don't get many returnables here. My growler is about the only thing that's returnable, or should I say refillable.

[Hank_ 9,174]

What about using the dishwasher? Talk about something that is tending to collect dusty. ....

[actob99 156]

I hope the growler isn't collecting dust?????

[Caryh 5,206]

I hope the growler isn't collecting dust?????

No si man. It gets its use!

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

What about using the dishwasher? Talk about something that is tending to collect dusty. ....

Yup my wife will not use it..