How is your Filipina / Filipino Adjusting?

[Benediction 15]

How is your spouse adjusting to the American culture / way of life for those who brought their lovers here. My love comes next week on Friday and am just curious as to how it is working out for you all?

I assume after sometime the rice dinners start to minimize and more of a cuisine is acclamated.

Notice any struggles from your love?

Was your love homesick?

How are you the petitioner / American dealing with the transition?

Just general info to start a discussion would be excellent in things you have noticed.

[sld 5]

Good topic.

I was concerned about the weather and her being cold.

She has relatives that live close to where we will be living. I hope they don't AMERICANIZE her, too much.

[Hank_ 9,174]

all was good then..... it started snowing today and she got all excited and had to go run outside to catch snowflakes - without a coat on! What can I say it doesn't snow too often in Tucson.

[Tintin and Mike 127]

Mike's a Filipino also but more from the rural part of the country. He has yet to adjust to my american way of living as I'm the proud 'americanized pinay' lol. I've always have to explain how we do things here in the US as compared to how it is back in the Philippines. This country is not perfect, we do things different here but better. I think he's starting to pick up the message

Weather wise, he's used to the chilly weather here in San Diego. It's like in South Korea where he worked for 6 years.

[Caryh 5,206]

How is your spouse adjusting to the American culture / way of life for those who brought their lovers here. My love comes next week on Friday and am just curious as to how it is working out for you all?

She's adjusted pretty well after a year and half.

I assume after sometime the rice dinners start to minimize and more of a cuisine is acclamated.

We eat rice every day

Notice any struggles from your love?

She doubts herself a lot, but is getting better about it with her career successes

Was your love homesick?

Very homesick many times. It still raises its ugly head on occasion, but short duration and not as intense

How are you the petitioner / American dealing with the transition?

It took a lot of patience on my part. I had to learn not to be sensitive to negative reactions from her when she had homesickness.

Just general info to start a discussion would be excellent in things you have noticed.

My wife was very very close with her family. Also it was never her desire to leave the Philippines. Many times she asked me to move there, and she would support me. The good side of this is I knew a thousand percent my wife would only come to the USA for love, and not a green card. The bad side is, it has taken her much longer to adjust with being away from family and her country than your average Filipina probably would. I knew this going into our visa journey, but I really didn't expect as much trouble as it really was. Homesickness was a big issue for at least the first 12 months.

As to the food, I liked Filipino food from the first time I tried it. After enough trips to the Philippines, my wife's friends took to calling me a Kanoy, because I ate and did things just as they did. So me changing to a primarily Filipino food diet was not an issue for me, plus my wife is a fantastic cook. I've converted her some American ways of cooking to, chicken is usually baked not fried now. She loves American hamburgers on the grill and sweet potato fries, which I make for her. Which is also one of the few meals we don't eat rice with.

But now she drives, and knows her way to work and the mall. She has a decent job she enjoys with her own cubicle, phone line, computer, etc... She knows how to write a check, and use the ATM card, but prefers to use cash. She can log into our bank accounts and pay the bills. She loves not having to buy loads for her phone and can talk, text and browse all she wants. She does not like the Minnesota cold, but we got her a car with remote start and heated seats which keeps her warm enough. She's also learned to layer her clothes and check the weather before getting dressed in the morning. At home we keep the house pretty warm, so she can run around in skimpy clothes.

We also got a subscription to TFC.tv so she can get her favorite programs from back home. The online streaming subscription was really pretty cheap compared to what our satellite company wanted, and they didn't carry the ABS-CBN network, which is what she likes. If I ever get away from my wife long enough to get those Rosetta Stone Tagalog lessons done, I might actually understand the shows a bit better.

[Psoas10 17]

My wife really had no problems here. Most of the people living here are from her province. The weather is tropical so the same fruits and gulay grow here. The big problems was going from a long distance relationship to her being here 24/7. Also the aos process was tough as well, since she could do anything until she got her green card.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

How is your spouse adjusting to the American culture / way of life for those who brought their lovers here. My love comes next week on Friday and am just curious as to how it is working out for you all?

I assume after sometime the rice dinners start to minimize and more of a cuisine is acclamated.

Nope. Buy a rice cooker, and find the nearest Asian store. Get used to buying them 20# bags of rice.

Notice any struggles from your love?

Was your love homesick?

Homesickness will happen. Find the nearest mall. That will help to distract her attention.

How are you the petitioner / American dealing with the transition?

Going on six years now - It is still an emotional roller coaster - Wait until the emotional blackmail from her family begins having an effect on both your lives.

Just general info to start a discussion would be excellent in things you have noticed.

Patience is the key. You will both be in learning mode for a long time.

Edited February 20, 2013 by The Patriot

[JoBri 548]

I complain more about the cold than she does. She complains it is too hot.

Good topic.

I was concerned about the weather and her being cold.

[LoveLife2 5]

What a great topic!

My girl is already shopping for warm stylish clothes like boots. I really like Caryh responses as I am also in Minnesota. I send her pictures of our snow filled tree's and the total white background of snow filled grounds. I try to express how much we in MN love the Winter and if you embrace it then it is a very good time. I ride Snowmobile, love slidding/tubing/hiking and just getting outdoors and being active. That is what keeps you warm here in MN. I also point out that we allways stop for hot cocoa or coffee and the busy day in a MN Winter rarely will leave you cold.

It's so good to hear from others that have been through the changes of life after a continental move and I'm so glad we have this forum for me and her to discuss as she also has a VJ account.

Brad

[X Factor 1,113]

I can't be any prouder of my wife. She has mostly adapted to my diet and cooks what I like. We just got a drivers manual for her to lean the driving laws. She made her first snow man (more like a snow polar bear) last week. We are so much in love.

And the best news is that she has a tampo session ---- get this ---

IT LASTED ONLY 10 MINUTES. :dance:

[dave01 16]

What a great topic!

My girl is already shopping for warm stylish clothes like boots. I really like Caryh responses as I am also in Minnesota. I send her pictures of our snow filled tree's and the total white background of snow filled grounds. I try to express how much we in MN love the Winter and if you embrace it then it is a very good time. I ride Snowmobile, love slidding/tubing/hiking and just getting outdoors and being active. That is what keeps you warm here in MN. I also point out that we allways stop for hot cocoa or coffee and the busy day in a MN Winter rarely will leave you cold.

It's so good to hear from others that have been through the changes of life after a continental move and I'm so glad we have this forum for me and her to discuss as she also has a VJ account.

Brad

Hi everyone. I was just wondering what part of Minnesota you guy's are from? I was born and raised in Eastern South Dakota and attended many Fiipino parties there with people from both states. I've been living here in Pangasinan now for a few years but will be coming back to the US with my wife later this year, I don't know if we will go to SD or Florida as I have family in both places

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

I can't be any prouder of my wife. She has mostly adapted to my diet and cooks what I like. We just got a drivers manual for her to lean the driving laws. She made her first snow man (more like a snow polar bear) last week. We are so much in love.

And the best news is that she has a tampo session ---- get this ---

IT LASTED ONLY 10 MINUTES. :dance:

I hate the tampo thing.

I can't be any prouder of my wife. She has mostly adapted to my diet and cooks what I like. We just got a drivers manual for her to lean the driving laws. She made her first snow man (more like a snow polar bear) last week. We are so much in love.

And the best news is that she has a tampo session ---- get this ---

IT LASTED ONLY 10 MINUTES. :dance:

I hate the tampo thing.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I hate the tampo thing.

I love tampo. And if you know how, you can turn it on and off like a wall switch.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Lambing is the one I hate. So obvious, so childish.

"Baby, I want you to buy something for me."

"You have your own money."

"No! I want you to buy it for me."

Pout, pout, tampo.

One hour later....

"Okay. What do you want?"

"I will send you the link."

"What about what I want?"

"I am the wife. You are supposed to spoil me, silly."

"I want blonde girls."

"You can't have them!"

Pout, pout, tampo.

Edited February 21, 2013 by The Patriot

[LoveLife2 5]

I'm still new to Tagalog but have never heard the term 'Tampo' From what I read, I should be worried. LOL.. Please explain Tampo to me.