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[Sandra G. 5,043]

In America 3.200 women were killed by their spouses in 2011 and 220.000 were hospitalized because of domestic violence, and almost 2 million were battered. We have in the USA American abusers too, we have abusers in Asia,Japan,South America,Africa etc. Violence has no face,no name or nationality. In violence character counts not culture/nationality.

[jbjbjb 7]

I agree and I started this thread because I thought it would be helpful. I didn't expect people to argue about opinions etc.

Thanks

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It is hard but you need to move on and not look back for your safety and that of ur child. I dont want to start the bs again but I do believe there are other cultures that are less advanced in thinking as it relates to violence against women. It isn't necessarily every male from such cultures but as a WHOLE certain cultures are more tolerable or look the other way when it comes to physical and emotional abuse of women. I had this same problem with my husband for the first year. I had to send some very clear and stern messages that this was not acceptable. One of those lessons came from the police. I know personally of 4 other women married to men from the same country as my husband and they have had same issue. Not to say everyone has this issue but I think it is problematic when dealing with men from certain cultures and socio economic levels in those countries. The same way here in US in some ways. I suspected my husband had the same disorder as the original poster. I still am not sure. But I find it a common theme to blame others, not be accountable, self centered and overly concerned with self preservation. Maybe a by product of how some have grown up in some of the 3rd world countries . I think being taken out of their element is a very difficult transition for some and does bring out some very negative traits. So even If you did your best to know a person there is no way to know how they will function outside their environment or with these kind of stressors. I emphasize greatly for the poster and can relate. My situation got better and never got to the point of me being seriously injured. When I thought I was dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder I was prepared to walk because there is no hope in that situation as far as I can see.