Interview Failure

[Welshcookie 17]

I couldn't be bothered to find the original interview thread...

I didn't succeed in getting that job....the interview was very pleasant tho' and I thought I did ok....the only gripe I had with the whole interview, and I don't think this was the reason I didn't get offered the job, was they asked me directly if I had children and what my 'childcare provisions' were if I was offered the position. It isn't the first time I have faced with this question and it isn't the first time I changelled the question....and I was polite but I can never ignore it y'know I mean, if I didn't have my childcare in place I wouldn't be applying for the job, and if I was a man would they even ask?? ( I didn't say about the 'man' thing )

Anyway....I dust myself down and carry on....

[faith 0]

that's the crappy thing about finding the right job when you have kids. (and you're a woman) It's like they don't think that you would have child care lined up already.

my boss is my brother.. and at one point he yelled at me saying that "most women" who had kids took them to a babysitter when the kids were sick. I politely asked him for the name and number of a babysitter that will take sick kids.

[Dixie_Peach 1]

welshie... well in my humble opinion... THEY are missing out! you will find a better job! grrrrrrrrrr, that irritates me too when they ask those questions... i can see both sides... but like you, if i didn't have the child care in place... i wouldn't have been there!

Wishing you alllllllllllllllll the best! You deserve it! Good luck! *still gonna send you MOJO for other job opportunities*

*hugs*

Lynne

[faith 0]

i came back to add *hugs* sorry you didn't get it!!! better luck next time!

[ChristinaM 0]

If that's their attitude then you don't want to work for them anyway. They know as well as you do that they're not allowed to ask those questions and good for you for not answering them.

There'll be a better job

Edited March 1, 2006 by clmarsh

[almaty 19]

sorry welch cake...

[MaryandMian 1]

Sorry to hear that it did not work out. I know you will find a good job in time. Keep looking and you will be blessed in time.

Mary

[LenJayUS 0]

Sorry you didn't get the job Welshy...

But the reason alot of places can ask this, and as far as I know it's not "wrong" or illegal to ask them, as long as they don't discriminate against all women who has kids... is because there's mother's out there that take advantage of this alot.

I've seen it in action, so I know they do. Yes, being a single parent, I understand that it's hard some times to find someone to watch a sick kid. That's a fact of life. But I know some women will not even try to find alternating child care, just so they can get a day off from work.. or worse, lie about the whole thing to begin with.

And why don't they ask the men? There's not many father's in a normal family (husband/wife/kid) that would be the one staying home with a sick kid. And then there's not many single parent father's out there, like me. The couple of single fathers out there that I know of have never had to take off from work due to a sick child. Could be a number of factors, and I'm sure that there ARE some that do call off of work.

As with most things, companies are doing this because of their past experiences. It's unfortunate, but it happens.

[Cristy 4]

It is illegal here to ask if you have children in an interview.

[Welshcookie 17]

I cannot say one way or the other the reason why I didn't get the job. I do however know they shouldn't have been asking me if I had children and then enquire about my childcare provision. Regardless of their expericences of hiring single/ mothers etc the truth is they would not ask a man the same questions therefore they demonstrated discrimination. I certainly don't think the way I responded cost me the job as I thought I was very diplomatic in voicing my objection... I certainly will again cos as far as I am concerned it is just as bad as being back in the 50's and being asked if your husband thinks it's ok for you to have a job

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

....the only gripe I had with the whole interview, and I don't think this was the reason I didn't get offered the job, was they asked me directly if I had children and what my 'childcare provisions' were if I was offered the position.

That's a question I wouldn't dare ask in an interview. It doesn't in any way, shape or form pertain to the job in question. All the interviewer is entitled to quiz you on is your ability to meet the attendance requirements. Period.

Don't answer that kind of stuff. If asked such nonsense again, tell an interviewer politely: "I will pretend that you didn't ask this question. However, if there is a concern about my ability to meet the company's attendance requirements, let me assure you that I will report to work as scheduled as I have done in previous positions. There has never been an attendance problem with any previous employer and I intent to keep it that way.

Truth be told, the fact that you even have kids has no place in the interview either.

[Jaylen Brit 0]

Never mind sweetie - always another, better job right around the corner

[KarenCee 3]

Awww...so sorry you didnt get the job. My fingers are crossed for you next time HUGS!

[Kovil 0]

Awww...so sorry you didnt get the job. My fingers are crossed for you next time HUGS!

I know how it feels to be discriminated. I also think that it is not fair to ask these questions to women. Inface once a women is pregnant they decide she is not worth hiring. That is not fair. As it is in USA they give on 6 weeks off legally to new moms. I think companies should see the person's abilities and not the sex or her status (maried or single) as a criteria. If women get lazy and tend to take the day off when a child is sick then men fall sick more often and also they are more lazier than women.

Anyway it is the company's loss and not yours.

good luck

[Peggy 1]

Sorry you didnt get the job.

Keep trying, you will land one