True Story: Plan to Ger Married on a Tourist Visa

[Ender330 1]

UPDATE:

I have my daughter now and court order not to take her out of the country. Her mother will not hand over her passports so I can not trust that she will break the court and attempt to take her to Colombia.

At the start she said she was never going back to the Colombia but now she has a family emergency, she is on the verg of losing custody to me and her tourist visa is expiring in a month. Her whole family is pleading with me to let her leave the US with my daughter! Every part of me says to not let her go. as the mother can return in 6 months or even get a resident visa or her this new man to marry her.

I hate to seperate mother and daughter but I don't have many choices here. We no longer have our home and things in Colombia because of her actions and in not returning we lost our Condo.

This is turning out to be some mess...I never wanted any of this!

[erynaught 43]

From what you have written, you have NO reason to trust this woman.

You need to focus on your daughter. If the mother is as bad as you describe, then keeping your daughter away from her will be a good parenting.

DO NOT allow your daughter back to Columbia for ANY reason. If you do so, you will likely never see her again. You have the advantage here in the US - use it ruthlessly. Act quickly and secure the long-term custody and protection of your daughter.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Good job on getting your daughter back. I also wouldn't trust her with the mom - it sounds like she had a plan from the start to leave you and run away as soon as her boots hit the USA. By running away, she actually kidnapped your daughter and I bet a million bucks she'd do it again.

What happened to her new boyfriend? I wouldn't be talking to her family at all...

I am sorry for your troubles, this must be very difficult.

Edited March 5, 2013 by Harpa Timsah

[Boiler 45,670]

I do not understand why you want to go to Colombia?

[Golden Gate 530]

I do not understand why you want to go to Colombia?

Where does he say that?

She is manipulating, and now has her family manipulating you as well. Stay away from talking to them or her.

[Ippsy Pippsy 31]

UPDATE:

I have my daughter now and court order not to take her out of the country. Her mother will not hand over her passports so I can not trust that she will break the court and attempt to take her to Colombia.

At the start she said she was never going back to the Colombia but now she has a family emergency, she is on the verg of losing custody to me and her tourist visa is expiring in a month. Her whole family is pleading with me to let her leave the US with my daughter! Every part of me says to not let her go.

...because if you do you won't see your daughter again. Duh.

as the mother can return in 6 months or even get a resident visa or her this new man to marry her.

Irrelevant.

I hate to seperate mother and daughter but I don't have many choices here. We no longer have our home and things in Colombia because of her actions and in not returning we lost our Condo.

This is turning out to be some mess...I never wanted any of this!

Your daughter can visit her mother when she is of age, if nothing else. But presumably you want your daughter in your life. That won't happen if you find yourself fighting a drawn-out foreign custody battle with your daughter in Columbia.

Can't you put an alert on the daughter's passport or something? You really don't want your daughter whisked away to Columbia. It might be a great time for your daughter to take a vacation to a spot your wife doesn't know about. Make it harder for her to be kidnapped.

[elkfarmer 4]

OMG, are you ever lucky. I have similar story. I was married to a woman from Colombia. Lived in Bogota for 9 months, while we waited for her immigration visa for her and two boys. Two weeks after arriving in USA, she has two boyfriends. One gave her money for a divorce. That was planned. Another took her to Cancun for 3 weeks and she came back pregnant. That put me on the hook for 10 years of support. We divorced after three years and she has remarried to another American. I gave immigration sufficient evidence to deport her for visa fraud. They did nothing. I had text messages, e-mail, letters that showed she had no plans of staying with me. Consider yourself lucky. Honestly !!!!

[jaycali 415]

UPDATE:

I have my daughter now and court order not to take her out of the country. Her mother will not hand over her passports so I can not trust that she will break the court and attempt to take her to Colombia.

At the start she said she was never going back to the Colombia but now she has a family emergency, she is on the verg of losing custody to me and her tourist visa is expiring in a month. Her whole family is pleading with me to let her leave the US with my daughter! Every part of me says to not let her go. as the mother can return in 6 months or even get a resident visa or her this new man to marry her.

I hate to seperate mother and daughter but I don't have many choices here. We no longer have our home and things in Colombia because of her actions and in not returning we lost our Condo.

This is turning out to be some mess...I never wanted any of this!

I realize this is a month and a half old.. Any updates?

If she breaks the court order and takes your daughter out of the country, she will make herself inadmissible to the US. She will not be let in on a new tourist visa, and she will have a very difficult time getting an immigrant visa.

You're not trying to separate mother and daughter, you're trying to do what you think is best for your daughter. I would not trust this woman.

As far as her adjusting status, as was mentioned earlier in this thread.. Unless there is proof of fraud, she'll likely be approved for the AOS. Unfortunately, a red flag or two is not enough for the USCIS to deny an AOS. There has to be some sort of evidence, or the story has to be really far out there. She could have met this guy on a whim and fallen in love. The USCIS' job is not to determine the likelihood that a marriage will last, but to determine whether or not the marriage was entered into solely for immigration purposes. The burden of proof is on the CIS' side.

If you truly do believe she's using the guy for a green card, you can always report fraud to the USCIS, but the truth is, they won't take a serious look at it unless it's accompanied by some sort of evidence to back it up.

Edited April 24, 2013 by Jay Jay

[jaycali 415]

OMG, are you ever lucky. I have similar story. I was married to a woman from Colombia. Lived in Bogota for 9 months, while we waited for her immigration visa for her and two boys. Two weeks after arriving in USA, she has two boyfriends. One gave her money for a divorce. That was planned. Another took her to Cancun for 3 weeks and she came back pregnant. That put me on the hook for 10 years of support. We divorced after three years and she has remarried to another American. I gave immigration sufficient evidence to deport her for visa fraud. They did nothing. I had text messages, e-mail, letters that showed she had no plans of staying with me. Consider yourself lucky. Honestly !!!!

Wow. No shame huh?

What's the point of removing conditions if this woman passed with flying colors!?

Edited April 24, 2013 by Jay Jay

[Ender330 1]

UPDATE

Wow...this is some telanovela ish going on here. So much has happened since my last post.

I have to make a long story short...I had a long talk with this so called fiancee. He asked

her to marry him and then 2 weeks later said they are just dating. He admitted that he was

not ready to take on all this...he just wanted a date and everything moved so fast. This guy

had her and my daughter homeless for 6 weeks...seriously!!!

Anyway I told him to marry her or let her go because she was facing possibly going back to

Colombia without her daughter and the only way to even think about trying to fix this was

to Marry her or get off the pot. Needless to say he was not ready to get married right now

he was hoping to date her while she was here on the extension...the only reason she was able

to file for the the extension was because of the court order. So now we have to wait and see

if she does get it. But anyway I told him it does not matter anymore...I am going after full

custody of my daughter.

With all that said and one he broke it off with her and of course she had to call me to come

get her stuff and move back into my house. She is free to leave when she wants but she is not

taking my daughter along for the ride again. Since she has been here she was able to get a job

at the little Mexican restaurant. She is not allowed to work but that is on her. She says she

will do whatever she has to do to stay in the country with her daughter...but she only seems

to want to do the wrong things to stay here she is not even attempting to do anything the right

way.

In my state we have what we call the Guardian ad litem which is a lawyer for the child. She has

been to busy spending money on shopping and tattoos to pay the little $250 and to set a meeting

with him. This is serious because he had a lot of weight as to who will receive custody in these

cases. She is just blowing this off and he admits it is not looking good at all for her.

Being the person that I am and that she is the mother of my daughter, I can't just kick her out

of my home but she refuses to leave. She says she will be wherever her daughter is. This is tough

because for now it makes it impossible for me to move on or get past this in anyway. I just feel

like I am stuck for the moment court is coming up in another month and I hope this will resolve

some of the issues that I am having.

Really I think that if I do get custody on my terms, I will just pick up and move away from here

and let her have this city. I don't see that being a problem as she will most likely be living in

the country illegally within the next 4 or 5 months. I doubt she has much pull in court when she

is out of status but I do not know.

Your thoughts....

[Boiler 45,670]

Wow, you allowed her to move back.

Gobsmacked.

[jbanya 19]

Ouch man, hope you feel better by now. This sounds like your women intentionally scam you with that "random" guy.

Anyway, thank GOD that you found out before she become your "wife", and hope you can get back your daughter.

- keep peace -