The Rant

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

I no PMS-ing, I'm due to ovulate tomorrow!

I have baby making on the brain.

[The Mean Lady 604]

I have no sex drive.

[Caryh 5,206]

My husband gets it too.

Friday, we went to go have sex and that was cut off quick by me crying in the bed.

He just sat there till i was done.

Then 2 hours later he's like 'hey so i know you're upset but i still want sex'

I can relate to your hubby. He didn't get it either I'm guessing

[Caryh 5,206]

Now that we are on the subject - I have a rant, but I can't share it because my husband values his privacy too much. Let's just say my husband is too vanilla and his drive is less than mine.

My wife's sex drive was terrific until she started working her. Working seems to have cut it down to practically nothing. I'm not sure how to really deal with this since mine remains way out of balance with this

[oohpartiv 484]

My wife's sex drive was terrific until she started working her. Working seems to have cut it down to practically nothing. I'm not sure how to really deal with this since mine remains way out of balance with this

I think that's normal, though. When I first started working, I was completely void of any sex drive at all, and hubby was perplexed since he wasn't working at the time and was thus feeling just as sexy as always. After a while I just got used to the schedule and things evened out okay. If she's just now starting to work, give her a bit to warm up to the new job, and I bet things will go back to normal.

[The Mean Lady 604]

i work 55 hours a week and have for years

im just defective

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

i work 55 hours a week and have for years

im just defective

I get much more needy when I work because I tend to be surrounded by other guys with hormones.

[The Mean Lady 604]

i dont think people get how serious i am

like i mean no sex drive to the point of asexuality

im competely uninterested

[Calypso 464]

I no PMS-ing, I'm due to ovulate tomorrow!

I have baby making on the brain.

Did you use thin ovulation predictor strips, a high-end OP equipment, or a BBT chart? Good luck.

I think that's normal, though. When I first started working, I was completely void of any sex drive at all, and hubby was perplexed since he wasn't working at the time and was thus feeling just as sexy as always. After a while I just got used to the schedule and things evened out okay. If she's just now starting to work, give her a bit to warm up to the new job, and I bet things will go back to normal.

Regular exercise usually helps heighten one's sex drive.

[The Mean Lady 604]

Did you use thin ovulation predictor strips, a high-end OP equipment, or a BBT chart? Good luck.

how about a calendar?

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Did you use thin ovulation predictor strips, a high-end OP equipment, or a BBT chart? Good luck.

I alternate months depending on my mood. I try every other month to confirm with OPKs or BBT. The other months I just use CM and my normal cycle to predict. I then confirm with my luteal phase to make sure I guessed right.

I've only really used natural family planning for many many years, save a brief experiment with hormonal methods, so I'm pretty comfortable with it.

I have a feeling that with all the stress this month and next that it probably won't happen for a while yet.

________

I've totally hit panic mode about the upcoming interview.

[Calypso 464]

how about a calendar?

I've never trusted a calendar alone because my cycle length varies between -3 days and 8 days every month.

I alternate months depending on my mood. I try every other month to confirm with OPKs or BBT. The other months I just use CM and my normal cycle to predict. I then confirm with my luteal phase to make sure I guessed right.

I've only really used natural family planning for many many years, save a brief experiment with hormonal methods, so I'm pretty comfortable with it.

I have a feeling that with all the stress this month and next that it probably won't happen for a while yet.

________

I've totally hit panic mode about the upcoming interview.

I didn't think an interview would faze you.

Aren't you supposed to chart continuously every single day of every month? I've always preferred OPKs. I once bought a BBT and took it out of the box, then that's it. I didn't try reading or recording my temperature even once.

[Caryh 5,206]

I think that's normal, though. When I first started working, I was completely void of any sex drive at all, and hubby was perplexed since he wasn't working at the time and was thus feeling just as sexy as always. After a while I just got used to the schedule and things evened out okay. If she's just now starting to work, give her a bit to warm up to the new job, and I bet things will go back to normal.

Well she's been working almost a year now. Three jobs, two as temp and now finally as temp to hire at at a job she enjoys. Being temp stresses her out pretty bad. No matter what I say, nothing makes her comfortable about the temp jobs. First job was factory work, which I didn't want her to take because I knew she'd never be happy. Then on to a bit more of an office job, but it was totally production based work with no real thought. Finally now she's got her own cubeb and doing work that takes thinking. Five months to go until she'll be hired on. I hope then finally her constant stress about fitting in and working in America will be over. What she refuses to admit to herself is that every place she's worked they loved her and were sad to see go. I guess pretty much known the stress is the reason for the reduced sex drive. But a guy always wants to find solutions to problems. When there is no solution, its even more frustrating. Well there is a solution but its totally outside anything I can do or affect.

Just more of a long adjustment process my wife has to get through, and I have little choice but to support her through. Sometimes watching her stress out or be sad missing home, I feel bad that I ever took her out of her home country. Had there been a way I could have moved and lived there instead, I would really take it. But that's going to have to wait another 13 years until I can retire.

[oohpartiv 484]

Well she's been working almost a year now. Three jobs, two as temp and now finally as temp to hire at at a job she enjoys. Being temp stresses her out pretty bad. No matter what I say, nothing makes her comfortable about the temp jobs. First job was factory work, which I didn't want her to take because I knew she'd never be happy. Then on to a bit more of an office job, but it was totally production based work with no real thought. Finally now she's got her own cubeb and doing work that takes thinking. Five months to go until she'll be hired on. I hope then finally her constant stress about fitting in and working in America will be over. What she refuses to admit to herself is that every place she's worked they loved her and were sad to see go. I guess pretty much known the stress is the reason for the reduced sex drive. But a guy always wants to find solutions to problems. When there is no solution, its even more frustrating. Well there is a solution but its totally outside anything I can do or affect.

Just more of a long adjustment process my wife has to get through, and I have little choice but to support her through. Sometimes watching her stress out or be sad missing home, I feel bad that I ever took her out of her home country. Had there been a way I could have moved and lived there instead, I would really take it. But that's going to have to wait another 13 years until I can retire.

I think that's fair, though. For as hard a time she might be having right now, I'm sure she appreciates and realizes that you're supportive, especially since she'll have to do that for you when you move to her country. And I'm sure the job situation will get better. I didn't particularly enjoy my job when I first started, but after I got into the swing of things and I felt like I fit in better, I made friends with my coworkers and it became less stressful.

[NikLR 13,227]

I had zero sex drive with my ex. Figured out it was the person not the sex drive. I love sex again. I just wish I was more comfortable with my own body and the way it looked. So I'm gonna work out and become that way. I've done it before, I'll do it again!

Cary you're doing the best you can. Being supportive, loving, helpful and not nagging I think is the best way to help her when she's stressed. I love massages and honestly it helps get me in the mood too, especially when I know nothing is expected to begin with. Maybe try running her bubble baths, getting her a pedicure, romantic dinners (even at home) and massages. Anything you can do to reduce stress at home so she can deal with the stress at work. I'm sure you do all that anyhow.