The Rant

[SAT 9,609]

Steve,

Sounds like your wife family side thinks that she has hit a jackpot, hooking up a rich Ang Mo Husband. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ang_mo).

So you are the 'Roberto' (sounds like carrot head in chinese saying), which they can Chop Carrot as and when they like.

*Chop Carrot (popular local slang in Singapore and Malaysia) which means someone (the carrot) who can be easily taken advantage of by another person (the chopper, which usually refers to a salesperson). Just like how easy it is for a person to chop a carrot with a knife.

I think that your wife should contribute to the household expenses / savings, no matter how small they are.

Then she will appreciate the efforts you have to put in, to manage the household financial.

As for the ungrateful sis-in-law who likes to lord over you because she is senior/older in rank, you are right to kick her to the curb. You have absolutely no obligation to continue supporting the blood suckers.

Basically, you need to make it clear that you are not a 'Roberto' and will not be treated like one

I think they know that I'm stone cold. More so, I told my SIL that nobody in her entire family and extended family is an elder to me. And by now, they know that too.

My SIL here probably called Malaysia to tell everyone what a bad guy I am. And how I told her to get the ef outta the house. But that's fine. I don't expect a warm welcome.

I think I have decided to show up over there. To rub it in their face if anything. And if I can't stand it over there, well then I'll just pack up and have an extended stay in HK. Then back to the US, never to revisit Asia ever again. And refuse all visitors from Asia just the same...and refuse all requests for assistance of any kind.

The most important thing now is, to make sure that Tiffany and my daughter knows how to protect themselves for when the day comes that they'll have to do that.

The one thing that Tiffany must immediately learn, is that people do change.

Steve shall be now known as Carrot Top.

Very funny.cranky ole yankee..........

United states of America. Thus American. See? It does work. Or be like my hubs... 'merica! Southern boys... Sigh.

He lives in merica......dudney?

[Asia 2,494]

we are the only nation with the word "America" in it's name

Thanks for that... It actually makes sense now (at least to me). I've never looked at the term "Americans" this way.

Thank you!

[Asia 2,494]

Rant: BIL just came in to "use our scale"... somehow managed to mooch a bottle of water and a packet of tea on his way out. GO AWAAAY

Even reading this makes my blood boil...

[SAT 9,609]

I was going to say something like this, too, si man.

To what extent will (should) you compromise your principles on behalf of opportunists, beggars, and freeloaders who are seeking to take advantage of you?

If these people weren't "family," would you have anything to do with them? One would suspect not, no man.

I would do what's proper and be true to myself. The "family" will see that inviolable lines have been drawn. The wife will see that you're standing up and being a man, and that you're doing it for her, too. Self-respect, see man.

It really pissed me the ef off that they feel that they should live in this kind of luxury at age 28 and 30 respectively, using other people's money. I have posted on my SIL's FB page....."Live within your means, not within MY MEANS"

I had bought a Tiffany& Co diamond bracelet for my SIL for her wedding.....I dunno what to do with it now. I think I would feel sick if I gave it to her at this point......

May be I'll go to Canal Street now and get her a bottle of "Canal No. 5" perfume

Even reading this makes my blood boil...

If I was Partiv, I would go steal something back from her BIL's room........

then douse his room in gasoline and set it afire....

Edited March 11, 2013 by SteveAndTiff

[Asia 2,494]

I have posted on my SIL's FB page....."Live within your means, not within MY MEANS"

GO STEVE!

I had bought a Tiffany& Co diamond bracelet for my SIL for her wedding.....I dunno what to do with it now.

Give it to your wife for a wedding anniversary/birthday...

If I was Partiv, I would go steal something back from her BIL's room........

then douse his room in gasoline and set it afire....

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

It really pissed me the ef off that they feel that they should live in this kind of luxury at age 28 and 30 respectively, using other people's money. I have posted on my SIL's FB page....."Live within your means, not within MY MEANS"

I had bought a Tiffany& Co diamond bracelet for my SIL for her wedding.....I dunno what to do with it now. I think I would feel sick if I gave it to her at this point......

May be I'll go to Canal Street now and get her a bottle of "Canal No. 5" perfume

:rofl:

Or a nice fake handbag?

[TBoneTX 44,832]

then douse his room in gasoline and set it afire....

That might get the ratoncito (mouse), too, squeak man.

Hey! You could set your basement afire to rid yourself of the rodentry there, si man!

Edited March 11, 2013 by TBoneTX

[SAT 9,609]

I think that your wife should contribute to the household expenses / savings, no matter how small they are.

Then she will appreciate the efforts you have to put in, to manage the household financial.

As for the wife, I love her dearly. I really don't mind paying for everything. Even before we were married, she waited here for me on a visa overstay. I paid for her cell phone, and medical care. And while she waited for me, I just felt so bad, because I know how insecure she must have felt. (It wasn't because I was married or anything, I just wasn't ready to commit).

So now we're married. I want her to feel that security that she lacked for so long. She elects to work, and I'm glad. She makes less than 30K a year. I want her to save her money. But now look how gullible she is....

:rofl:

Or a nice fake handbag?

a "Canal Vuitton" lol

That might get the ratoncito (mouse), too, squeak man.

Hey! You could set your basement afire to rid yourself of the rodentry there, si man!

True dat !! lmao

[SAT 9,609]

GO STEVE!

Give it to your wife for a wedding anniversary/birthday...

That's Tiff's favorite stuff. Tiffany& Co. That's another reason why I love Tiff, she is frugal. When I give her nice stuff, she really really treasures them.

She won't wear her T&C engagement ring because she's afraid to lose it......(I keep trying to tell her that it's insured, but she doesn't believe me) lol

[SAT 9,609]

Man cave !!

I think I'll set that as my desktop background.....

[Caryh 5,206]

You smoke in the shower?????????

And whats with the bouncia? sounds a little gay, not that there's anything wrong with that if you swing that way. But what does Tiff think about that?

Man cave !!

I think I'll set that as my desktop background.....

[oohpartiv 484]

If I was Partiv, I would go steal something back from her BIL's room........

then douse his room in gasoline and set it afire....

There's nothing worth stealing from his room, but you'd never know from the way he talks. He bought a bottle of cologne of his cousin, whose mother sent it from Spain - the cologne probably costs 15 bucks, but the way he talks it up, you'd think it had gold flakes in it or something, just because it's from Spain. I hate people who put up a front to appear wealthy and cultured, and my BIL and SIL are definitely those kinds of people. I find it super obnoxious. My MIL is the same way but mostly just from ignorance... She doesn't know the difference, she just likes acting like she knows everything.

By the way, the terrifying creature was a lizard! It was HUGE too! Well, huge in comparison to the little geckos we usually get scuttling along on the ceiling. Hubby came home and caught it, while the dog went INSANE. I'm a big wussy about squirmy things, so I was thankful.

[SAT 9,609]

You smoke in the shower?????????

And whats with the bouncia? sounds a little gay, not that there's anything wrong with that if you swing that way. But what does Tiff think about that?

well, I had a cig in my mouth when I stepped in.

Bouncia- I didn't buy it.

[SAT 9,609]

There's nothing worth stealing from his room, but you'd never know from the way he talks. He bought a bottle of cologne of his cousin, whose mother sent it from Spain - the cologne probably costs 15 bucks, but the way he talks it up, you'd think it had gold flakes in it or something, just because it's from Spain. I hate people who put up a front to appear wealthy and cultured, and my BIL and SIL are definitely those kinds of people. I find it super obnoxious. My MIL is the same way but mostly just from ignorance... She doesn't know the difference, she just likes acting like she knows everything.

By the way, the terrifying creature was a lizard! It was HUGE too! Well, huge in comparison to the little geckos we usually get scuttling along on the ceiling. Hubby came home and caught it, while the dog went INSANE. I'm a big wussy about squirmy things, so I was thankful.

AH your BIL likes Aqua Velva?

Which dog, the taco bell dog or the big fat bull dog?

And, is the lizard in the pot now?

[oohpartiv 484]

AH your BIL likes Aqua Velva?

Which dog, the taco bell dog or the big fat bull dog?

And, is the lizard in the pot now?

The taco bell dog. He has since been running around the room whining, like he's mad we took away his catch. And as for what happened to the lizard, I don't know, but MIL is in the kitchen cooking something right now, so who knows.