The Rant

[CHarvey80 72]

Steve-Bone, as things stand now, I'd do the following:

1. Let Tiff go on the trip by herself, if she's set on going.

B. When she's gone, kick the interlopers out of the basement.

(This divides-&-conquers the wife's attention between the wailings of two sisters.)

iii. Enjoy your retention of control, si man.

Agreed

[TBoneTX 45,063]

Agreed

And I couldn't disagree with you less, either, no man.

[LucidSofia 59]

Steve-Bone, as things stand now, I'd do the following:

1. Let Tiff go on the trip by herself, if she's set on going.

B. When she's gone, kick the interlopers out of the basement.

(This divides-&-conquers the wife's attention between the wailings of two sisters.)

iii. Enjoy your retention of control, si man.

Disagree. You´re going to come off as a major a$$ if you pull that one. You have enough to fight about, without adding the fact that you kicked her sister out of your home when your wife wasn´t there.

[SAT 9,609]

Steve-Bone, as things stand now, I'd do the following:

1. Let Tiff go on the trip by herself, if she's set on going.

B. When she's gone, kick the interlopers out of the basement.

(This divides-&-conquers the wife's attention between the wailings of two sisters.)

iii. Enjoy your retention of control, si man.

Agreed

Disagree. You´re going to come off as a major a$ if you pull that one. You have enough to fight about, without adding the fact that you kicked her sister out of your home when your wife wasn´t there.

What polar differences in opinions...........

I have to do a Benjamin Franklin.......

1-Tiff's 2 sisters are a-holes

2- The rest of the family will side with them

3- There's animosity

4- I will not enjoy this trip

5- SIL started asking for $ before we even left for Malaysia

6- Tiff has hinted that she will not go alone.

A- The trip means the world to Tiff. Her first return since leaving on tourist visa in 2001.

B- I love Tiff very much

C- HK Disney for daughter

D- Tiff parents have not seen daughter since age 4 months.

E- Rest of family must kiss my butt if they want anything else from me.

F- I get to post much in Bizarre Foods thread...

Ah #######.........I dunno what to do.........

BTW, sister was already told to leave, and I also told her that if she feels that strongly about it, she could give the other sister the money.

Tiff has agreed that no money will be given out.

Edited March 11, 2013 by SteveAndTiff

[Caryh 5,206]

What polar differences in opinions...........

I have to do a Benjamin Franklin.......

1-Tiff's 2 sisters are a-holes

2- The rest of the family will side with them

3- There's animosity

4- I will not enjoy this trip

5- SIL started asking for $ before we even left for Malaysia

6- Tiff has hinted that she will not go alone.

A- The trip means the world to Tiff. Her first return since leaving on tourist visa in 2001.

B- I love Tiff very much

C- HK Disney for daughter

D- Tiff parents have not seen daughter since age 4 months.

E- Rest of family must kiss my butt if they want anything else from me.

F- I get to post much in Bizarre Foods thread...

Ah #######.........I dunno what to do.........

BTW, sister was already told to leave, and I also told her that if she feels that strongly about it, she could give the other sister the money.

Tiff has agreed that no money will be given out.

A objective obtained in Tiff not giving money

B objective not obtained of Tiff understanding why

C understanding will not come while being half a world apart.

D you can be there for Tiff yet avoid the family if you wish as long as they live iun a city

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Two things have decidely frightened me today about living here:

my 23 year old sister in law thinks it is a good idea to force her new boyfriend to watch Twilight

people are excited about a Nickelback concert

[SAT 9,609]

Two things have decidely frightened me today about living here:

my 23 year old sister in law thinks it is a good idea to force her new boyfriend to watch Twilight

people are excited about a Nickelback concert

lol

A objective obtained in Tiff not giving money

B objective not obtained of Tiff understanding why

C understanding will not come while being half a world apart.

D you can be there for Tiff yet avoid the family if you wish as long as they live iun a city

They live in Kuala Lumpur. And the family ancestrial home/ farm is in Jelebu an hour away.

[SAT 9,609]

One thing I failed to mention is the outright jealousy that I sense from Tiffany's siblings.

Whether if Tiff likes it or not. She's the "richest" one in the whole entire family now. And over the years, Tiff gets contacted by more and more relatives for all kinds of reasons. And from the totality of all her conversations with her family, I do sense the jealousy.

Her sister, supposedly married into money over there. There's 2 separate weddings that we're attending for this same couple (In 2 different cities) totaling to over a thousand guests. . ..and they're asking Tiff for money? why? Why ask Tiff? Why not ask the very same person (groom's dad) that bought that house for them?

Is this because she wanted to make sure that Tiff has less money?

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

One thing I failed to mention is the outright jealousy that I sense from Tiffany's siblings.

Whether if Tiff likes it or not. She's the "richest" one in the whole entire family now. And over the years, Tiff gets contacted by more and more relatives for all kinds of reasons. And from the totality of all her conversations with her family, I do sense the jealousy.

Her sister, supposedly married into money over there. There's 2 separate weddings that we're attending for this same couple (In 2 different cities) totaling to over a thousand guests. . ..and they're asking Tiff for money? why? Why ask Tiff? Why not ask the very same person (groom's dad) that bought that house for them?

Is this because she wanted to make sure that Tiff has less money?

Don't worry about her intentions, a grifter does what a grifter does.

I got a taste of my sister in law's jealously on Saturday and I'm used to it from my half-brothers, so I think it is something Tiff will have to learn how to handle. She needs to come to her own conclusions about why she has a better life and more money and opportunities, which is probably because she took risks and made sacrifices to be in that position. It isn't her fault or her responsibility to continually help those who haven't made the same choices because they will never learn how to be independent and successful.

My 50 something year old cousin calls up my self made millionaire cousin about a month ago asking for money to pay her bills. He tells her to F off in no unclear terms. It might be a harsh aspect of my family, but people who've made something of themselves are not morally obligated to carry the leaches along indefinitely. I know that might be hard for her culturally, but she needs to understand it.

[Caryh 5,206]

One thing I failed to mention is the outright jealousy that I sense from Tiffany's siblings.

Whether if Tiff likes it or not. She's the "richest" one in the whole entire family now. And over the years, Tiff gets contacted by more and more relatives for all kinds of reasons. And from the totality of all her conversations with her family, I do sense the jealousy.

Her sister, supposedly married into money over there. There's 2 separate weddings that we're attending for this same couple (In 2 different cities) totaling to over a thousand guests. . ..and they're asking Tiff for money? why? Why ask Tiff? Why not ask the very same person (groom's dad) that bought that house for them?

Is this because she wanted to make sure that Tiff has less money?

Wiping out that pile of cash sitting in her father's hands for Tiff might be a reason. Greed and entitlement might be a reason. Trying to ex you out so the sister is the richest might be a reason.

But why really care the reason. What is important to you and your family?

[Caryh 5,206]

rant I hate when they screw with the clock. why or why can't tgey just leave it alone

[The Mean Lady 604]

rant I hate when they screw with the clock. why or why can't tgey just leave it alone

Hate waking up in the dark

Now, for everyone's viewing pleasure, yes, this site IS real:

http://hetexted.com/

Watch how your laughter at the stupid questions turns into frustration like IS SHE SERIOUS?!

[SAT 9,609]

Greed and entitlement might be a reason. But why really care the reason.

This is the reason.

[The Mean Lady 604]

ARG now I understand why I had a hard time waking up.

I just noticed it's raining.

[Caryh 5,206]

This is the reason.

Then be there with Tiff when that aha moment hits her and she finally realizes it. Seriously, I think you'd be crazy not to go. Things took a shitter because of your SIL. Don't let your in-laws create more problems between you and Tiff by not going. You know thats just going to build resentment if she goes and you're not with her. Your FIL sounds like a decent guy, he could have spent that money, but he saved it for Tiff. You might even find you have an ally in him about handing money to your SIL. He might not be able to say it, but he might also be a bit upset with her "its all about me" attitude. When I was divorcing my ex, my MIL at the time even told me, I don't know why she's gotten like this, she wasn't raised that way. She loved her daughter, but she could see how an entitled attitude had screwed up her marriage to.

Rant of the morning - spam from Spain. We've been getting loads and loads of spam from Spain's internet. Its been bad for years and their internet providers don't seem to care in the least that half of their customer's computers are infected zombie bots. About 25% of the spam sneaking in is now from Spain. I'm fire walling the entire country from our corporate mail server. We don't do any business with Spain in any case. My Monday morning spam source evaluation of the corp's server aways makes me grumpy.