Addressing possible red flags in i-130 -- EGYPT

[Mithra 1,185]

You have made a believer out of me! You are living the dream! Now this is a success story!

But for reals, declaring one's relationship to be a success story after only 1.5 yrs of the guy living here without a 10 year GC in hand and an intact marriage is kinda premature. It's not a success unless he's got his paperwork together, is still married to you and you actually still like one another. I'll wait for Amber to update once all of that is accomplished.

I really don't wanna brag, and I know there are a lot of haters out there...but who cares...here's my story....

We drive a 2011 Nissan Rogue S, with a light gray interior which we keep imaculately clean by using 2 rounds of "$1 for 5 minutes" of vaccuming at a local car wash that costs $12 a wash, but we spare no expense because we love each other so much.

We live in my parents Basement and enjoy 3 full rooms, a double shower bathroom and a living room, all decorated to my parent's taste, which shows just how much we love each other.

Sometimes my husband drives my parents spare car, a 1999 Mercury Villager Sport Edition. It doesn't have a working clock but it does have a leather interior which of course shows how much we love each other.

Once a week we get a take and bake pizza from Papa Murphys, half Chicken Garlic and half "Papa's favorite" minus the pepperoni. Then we cook it in a Double Wolf Convect oven that belongs to my parents, and then we eat our pizza using sturdy DIXIE paper plates because we love each other so much.

Sometime we go to the mall and I buy new shirts at Maurices that cost an average of $29.99 which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

Yesterday we bought a HeatDish space heater by PRESTO, for $24.99, to help keep our basement bedroom warm. We paid cash which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

The point is, I am not not bragging and don't want to make anyone jealous, but sometimes you just have to convince others in order to really convince yourself how blissfully wonderous your life is. To the OP - be strong, stay the course, a thousand points of light, and maybe someday your marriage will be as blissfully perfect as mine. Good luck Girlfriend.

[sandinista! 1,816]

You have made a believer out of me! You are living the dream! Now this is a success story!

But for reals, declaring one's relationship to be a success story after only 1.5 yrs of the guy living here without a 10 year GC in hand and an intact marriage is kinda premature. It's not a success unless he's got his paperwork together, is still married to you and you actually still like one another. I'll wait for Amber to update once all of that is accomplished.

I would need all my fingers and toes, and probably yours too, to count all the guys who at this point in their MENA visa journeys/marriages were basically just visiting at this stage of the game. There's miles and miles to go here...

Edited February 19, 2013 by sandinista!

[kristen_maroc 126]

I would need all my fingers and toes, and probably yours too, to count all the guys who at this point in their MENA visa journeys/marriages were basically just visiting at this stage of the game. There's miles and miles to go here...

As someone who is 1.5 years into marriage and him being in the US, this makes me sad.

(Particularly as I feel my life is falling apart in every way possible EXCEPT my marriage).

Here's to hoping and wishing and praying we (and all the rest here) stay strong.

[Fandango 1,439]

Now I want waffles. For days on end.

[christeen 966]

Literally almost spit out my drink laughing! I don't know much about MENA outside of the drama and challenges I read here, but after married 10 years to an Italian man (which included a 2005 mazda with shotty A/C 2007 escape with falling headliner and a 2010 hybrid that we overpaid for) i understand that regardless, there are marital challenges that are not even imagined until after the "just visiting" phase is past. i wish the OP the wisdom to take that extra step and really get to know their husband BEFORE the "real world" kicks you in the butt and real ups and downs take hold so they are better able to deal with it.

I really don't wanna brag, and I know there are a lot of haters out there...but who cares...here's my story....

We drive a 2011 Nissan Rogue S, with a light gray interior which we keep imaculately clean by using 2 rounds of "$1 for 5 minutes" of vaccuming at a local car wash that costs $12 a wash, but we spare no expense because we love each other so much.

We live in my parents Basement and enjoy 3 full rooms, a double shower bathroom and a living room, all decorated to my parent's taste, which shows just how much we love each other.

Sometimes my husband drives my parents spare car, a 1999 Mercury Villager Sport Edition. It doesn't have a working clock but it does have a leather interior which of course shows how much we love each other.

Once a week we get a take and bake pizza from Papa Murphys, half Chicken Garlic and half "Papa's favorite" minus the pepperoni. Then we cook it in a Double Wolf Convect oven that belongs to my parents, and then we eat our pizza using sturdy DIXIE paper plates because we love each other so much.

Sometime we go to the mall and I buy new shirts at Maurices that cost an average of $29.99 which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

Yesterday we bought a HeatDish space heater by PRESTO, for $24.99, to help keep our basement bedroom warm. We paid cash which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

The point is, I am not not bragging and don't want to make anyone jealous, but sometimes you just have to convince others in order to really convince yourself how blissfully wonderous your life is. To the OP - be strong, stay the course, a thousand points of light, and maybe someday your marriage will be as blissfully perfect as mine. Good luck Girlfriend.

[Staashi 371]

One of my favorite VJ posts of all time. Best of luck, SaharaSunset!

I really don't wanna brag, and I know there are a lot of haters out there...but who cares...here's my story....

We drive a 2011 Nissan Rogue S, with a light gray interior which we keep imaculately clean by using 2 rounds of "$1 for 5 minutes" of vaccuming at a local car wash that costs $12 a wash, but we spare no expense because we love each other so much.

We live in my parents Basement and enjoy 3 full rooms, a double shower bathroom and a living room, all decorated to my parent's taste, which shows just how much we love each other.

Sometimes my husband drives my parents spare car, a 1999 Mercury Villager Sport Edition. It doesn't have a working clock but it does have a leather interior which of course shows how much we love each other.

Once a week we get a take and bake pizza from Papa Murphys, half Chicken Garlic and half "Papa's favorite" minus the pepperoni. Then we cook it in a Double Wolf Convect oven that belongs to my parents, and then we eat our pizza using sturdy DIXIE paper plates because we love each other so much.

Sometime we go to the mall and I buy new shirts at Maurices that cost an average of $29.99 which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

Yesterday we bought a HeatDish space heater by PRESTO, for $24.99, to help keep our basement bedroom warm. We paid cash which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

The point is, I am not not bragging and don't want to make anyone jealous, but sometimes you just have to convince others in order to really convince yourself how blissfully wonderous your life is. To the OP - be strong, stay the course, a thousand points of light, and maybe someday your marriage will be as blissfully perfect as mine. Good luck Girlfriend.

[Mithra 1,185]

Yep.

Buying cars and houses is no indicator of a solid marriage. Nor is posting endlessly about how happy you are.

I find it interesting that most of us so called mean girls have been married to our husbands for several years...several years after the 10 yr GC even. We still like and even dare I say love our husbands. Some of us even have children with our husbands. We have minimal drama in our lives and marriages yet we don't remind everyone that we're happy or content and that we buy stuff because we don't have to. That's not being miserable, that's being secure. I don't think anyone here wishes someone else's marriage fails. Some of us come off as harsh but that doesn't mean we're unhappy or miserable nor does it mean we wish ill on others.

I would need all my fingers and toes, and probably yours too, to count all the guys who at this point in their MENA visa journeys/marriages were basically just visiting at this stage of the game. There's miles and miles to go here...

[sandinista! 1,816]

As someone who is 1.5 years into marriage and him being in the US, this makes me sad.

(Particularly as I feel my life is falling apart in every way possible EXCEPT my marriage).

Here's to hoping and wishing and praying we (and all the rest here) stay strong.

(F)

I'm sorry things are going that way right now, and I hope they start looking up soon.

[kristen_maroc 126]

(F)

I'm sorry things are going that way right now, and I hope they start looking up soon.

Thanks. Depression is a #$%@* but hopefully this will pass. He's being wonderful about it.

[Mithra 1,185]

I agree! Very clever and funny!

One of my favorite VJ posts of all time. Best of luck, SaharaSunset!

[sandinista! 1,816]

Thanks. Depression is a #$%@* but hopefully this will pass. He's being wonderful about it.

It truly is. It sounds like you have a good support system in him, and that can only help.

[Staashi 371]

Double post...sorry

Edited February 19, 2013 by Staashi

[Mithra 1,185]

Depression is rough. You have my sympathy. I've been there. Hopefully things look brighter for you soon.

Thanks. Depression is a #$%@* but hopefully this will pass. He's being wonderful about it.

P

[Ihavequestions 419]

I really don't wanna brag, and I know there are a lot of haters out there...but who cares...here's my story....

We drive a 2011 Nissan Rogue S, with a light gray interior which we keep imaculately clean by using 2 rounds of "$1 for 5 minutes" of vaccuming at a local car wash that costs $12 a wash, but we spare no expense because we love each other so much.

We live in my parents Basement and enjoy 3 full rooms, a double shower bathroom and a living room, all decorated to my parent's taste, which shows just how much we love each other.

Sometimes my husband drives my parents spare car, a 1999 Mercury Villager Sport Edition. It doesn't have a working clock but it does have a leather interior which of course shows how much we love each other.

Once a week we get a take and bake pizza from Papa Murphys, half Chicken Garlic and half "Papa's favorite" minus the pepperoni. Then we cook it in a Double Wolf Convect oven that belongs to my parents, and then we eat our pizza using sturdy DIXIE paper plates because we love each other so much.

Sometime we go to the mall and I buy new shirts at Maurices that cost an average of $29.99 which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

Yesterday we bought a HeatDish space heater by PRESTO, for $24.99, to help keep our basement bedroom warm. We paid cash which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

The point is, I am not not bragging and don't want to make anyone jealous, but sometimes you just have to convince others in order to really convince yourself how blissfully wonderous your life is. To the OP - be strong, stay the course, a thousand points of light, and maybe someday your marriage will be as blissfully perfect as mine. Good luck Girlfriend.

I read this three times, diligently searching for the word "pancakes."

No pancakes, no marital success.

Sorry, honey, you lack of pancakes speaks volumes: RELATIONSHIP DOOM.

[sandinista! 1,816]

I make PANCAKES every SUNDAY. No one is loved by a MENA man more than I am.