Addressing possible red flags in i-130 -- EGYPT

[Sarah Elle-Même 660]

When he gets here, his food costs money, his car, his car insurance, his clothes, his household utilities, his haircuts, his grooming products (more expensive then the ladies!!) Men from Egypt can be high maintanence. lol

His health insurance.

Remember he cannot be a public charge. So, your parents mightbe expected to pay for any surgery, medications or doctors visits he might need.

ALL Arab men are high maintenance! Don't forget the cologne !

[sandinista! 1,816]

No, they're not.

[Sarah Elle-Même 660]

No, they're not.

Indeed not every single one. I meant not just Egyptians are high maintenance, or Arabs from all countries.

Sheesh, guess the sense of humor evaporated after the photo clock bit.

Edited February 17, 2013 by Sarah and Adnan

[NY_BX 397]

ALL Arab men are high maintenance! Don't forget the cologne !

I take 20 minutes to get ready from shower to make-up. My husband? 1 hour. Enough said.

[sandinista! 1,816]

I didn't mean it all sternly or anything, lol. My shampoo does cost about 5x what his does though.

Adding too, re. a different post, while I may have been my husband's sponsor to immigrate here, he took care of a large part of his expenses. Religiously, culturally, it would have been odd not to. No one has to buy their husband a car or hair gel or Angel cologne. Those are things I expect to have bought for me, not the other way around.

And I don't know about anyone else's co-sponsors, but there was no way in he1l my parents would have signed on as co-sponsors without being sure my husband had made arrangements for temporary insurance until he could start working, and had a handle on other necessities. I already had a child. They co-sponsored a grown man, not a kid. I married an adult.

[nurse1967 287]

Glad to see everyone here giving this girl a dose of reality. When I first read her post my thought was, "OMG if my 17 1/2 year old daughter told me she was going to Egypt to marry I would lock her up somewhere". Suffice it to say, Egyptians in general (not saying all) are well rehearsed on what to say to make you believe that you are the love of their life and that fate has brought you together (or God or Allah or whomever). When you said you were considering converting to Islam the alarm bells starting ringing again. I forget who said it, but someone said that you should tell him that you insist on living in Egypt forever and see what he says. I don't want to be negative nelly but I can't help it. Some of us have been on here a LONG time and have TONS of experience with the culture and it's men. Some women here have wonderful marriages that are everything and more than they though they would be. Others have been horribly abused, traumitized and defrauded and will never be the same. I thought I too had it all figured out when I met my husband and I had some age AND experience on you AND 2 college degrees and I still was not prepared for the reality of it. I can tell you that my husband has been sorely disappointed to find out that you have to work your A** off to get ahead and that his degree and work experience doesn't mean squat. He's also had to deal with the fact that his wife makes triple his income and IS financially the breadwinner. He thought America was perfect and he can't believe that we pay so much in taxes, that many cities are riddled with crime and so on and so forth. Sad to see their ideal picture of Nirvana shattered. My husband won't even go back home to visit because he doesn't have a million dollars saved and a new BMW to drive. I am just grateful that kids weren't even an option for us. That's a nightmare I don't even want to contemplate. That being said, my husband is not a bad person, he has a lovely family, but in my honest opinion he should have married someone in his own culture. That may sound harsh but I am being honest. I am a very independent woman and I don't play the damsel in distress role and quite frankly, that doesn't sit well with the hubster.

[Ihavequestions 419]

Glad to see everyone here giving this girl a dose of reality.

The red flags in this relationship are numerous; I don't have enough fingers and toes to count them all - and there are way more than have been tossed out in this thread. Every time the OP puts her fingers on the keyboard the list grows longer. I can see them and the consulate will see them. All I can do is shake my head - because pointing them out only hurts the OP's feewings.

[Nasturtium 500]

Hi, OP, it seems everyone else has more or less pointed out a lot of the flaws with your case and how they will be perceived. I'm addressing something a tad different. You mentioned your husband is an accountant in Egypt. I am not sure what you guys think he'll do here when he comes, but if it is being an accountant or any other profession, you may want to begin checking into what he will need to do. Professions don't always transfer from one country to another, especially from a country that has lost accreditation for its university system. At best, things will transfer and he will simply need to be certified here. At worst, you can find out he needs to get a new degree. Many people have had to redo portions of coursework. Just an FYI. Also, the clock sounds fun. Were your pictures on the face?

Good luck.

[NY_BX 397]

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/415229-is-there-any-hope-for-221-g/page__gopid__5986429#entry5986429

Here's a thread of someone from a MENA country that just got denied. One of the main reasons was the USC lady married him on their first visit.

[DarwishAE 19]

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/415229-is-there-any-hope-for-221-g/page__gopid__5986429#entry5986429

Here's a thread of someone from a MENA country that just got denied. One of the main reasons was the USC lady married him on their first visit.

Thanks for the link. Definitely reconsidering how we are going to go about this process since our case has some red flags. It's better to be as prepared as possible the first time than to rush and get denied.

[sandinista! 1,816]

Here's another couple of threads with a denial, out of Morocco, featuring a couple who married on the first visit, and the husband has a friend who was denied a K1 visa and is now working on a CR1.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/404965-you-dont-know-her-very-well/page__p__5876386__fromsearch__1#entry5876386

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/404976-wise-to-relocate-after-visa-denial/

[Ihavequestions 419]

Hi, OP, it seems everyone else has more or less pointed out a lot of the flaws with your case and how they will be perceived. I'm addressing something a tad different. You mentioned your husband is an accountant in Egypt. I am not sure what you guys think he'll do here when he comes, but if it is being an accountant or any other profession, you may want to begin checking into what he will need to do. Professions don't always transfer from one country to another, especially from a country that has lost accreditation for its university system. At best, things will transfer and he will simply need to be certified here. At worst, you can find out he needs to get a new degree. Many people have had to redo portions of coursework. Just an FYI. Also, the clock sounds fun. Were your pictures on the face?

Good luck.

Egyptian Accounting Degree = Future Taxi Drivers/Convenience Store Workers of America

It's worthless in terms of employability in the US.

[Nasturtium 500]

Egyptian Accounting Degree = Future Taxi Drivers/Convenience Store Workers of America

It's worthless in terms of employability in the US.

As is past work experience. It's basically like starting fresh only with all kinds of other disadvantages.

[NY_BX 397]

As is past work experience. It's basically like starting fresh only with all kinds of other disadvantages.

Tell me about it. A BA in Agriculture with over 5 years of banking experience and over 7 in publishing= Floor Associate in a gym. Nothing wrong with that, except for.....he went to a 4 day personal trainer certification course and he passed. Had he not done that, he may be a floor associate in a supermarket. Again, nothing wrong with that. Just starting fresh.

[Mithra 1,185]

Yep! My husband's degree did nothing for him here nor did his 6 yrs work experience in his chosen field. He's had to take plenty of jobs that were beneath him.

This means nothing to the OP now. Her goal is to get her husband here. She'll figure all the other stuff out on her own.

As is past work experience. It's basically like starting fresh only with all kinds of other disadvantages.