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This is such a sad topic and I am sorry for the loss to your family.

As a pregnant woman who is "blessed" with a fair share of grey hairs, the risks of miscarriage are even higher--not to mention the other potential complications. We also waited to announce the pregnancy to almost everyone. My coworkers knew, but only because it is impossible to hide certain symptoms. Other than that, we waited until we were a full week into the 2nd trimester to announce it.

It is true that there is almost nothing the woman can do that causes this to occur. If you had been perfect or a crack head or a ditz, the outcome would have been the same. Blaming the mother for this is as thoughtless and/or heartless as blaming a rape victim for his/her suffering.

The changes in your life and your dreams clearly show that you gave this child the best mothering it could have in its short time here. Please take comfort in knowing that this baby had the best in having you as its mother.

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Calypso   464

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I truly appreciate everyone's stories and kind thoughts.

Sad to hear this. I have stood in your husband's shoes and I have an idea of what you're going through.

A little over a year later, our munchkin was born and she is a constant reminder that what is meant to be will be.

Trust that it will get better. (F)

I'm glad that things have worked well for you and your family. smile.gif

This is such a sad topic and I am sorry for the loss to your family.

As a pregnant woman who is "blessed" with a fair share of grey hairs, the risks of miscarriage are even higher--not to mention the other potential complications. We also waited to announce the pregnancy to almost everyone. My coworkers knew, but only because it is impossible to hide certain symptoms. Other than that, we waited until we were a full week into the 2nd trimester to announce it.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

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Sorry to hear. Its three years on since this happened to me and i just want you to know that it does get easier. Also dont forget that there are women (and their partners) who have been through this so dont be afraid to talk about it or ask questions if you need to.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I have never been a mother, but I have been privy to women's experiences with miscarriage.

Do not even think for a second you are at fault. Work wifh your ob to figure out what could be happening.

Try for another pregnancy once you are ready. Do not rush yourself. You need time to heal emotionally and physically.

Hugs, my dear!

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of those differences between us, for it is not difference which immobilizes us, but silence.
And there are so many silences to be broken.”

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Today, August 7, was supposed to be our departed angel's due date. It has been seven months since J left. I'm thankful that my husband and I processed our closure on the miscarriage in January '13. We have continued to heal but we choose not to forget. To mark this day, we had a short ceremony after breakfast and we'll have another one this evening.

"How very quietly you tiptoed into my world, silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footprints have left upon my heart." rose.gif

- Anon.

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Today, August 7, was supposed to be our departed angel's due date. It has been seven months since J left. I'm thankful that my husband and I processed our closure on the miscarriage in January '13. We have continued to heal but we choose not to forget. To mark this day, we had a short ceremony after breakfast and we'll have another one this evening.

"How very quietly you tiptoed into my world, silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footprints have left upon my heart." rose.gif

- Anon.

Hugs, Calypso. heart.gifheart.gifheart.gif

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Very sorry to hear, best wishes.

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Today, August 7, was supposed to be our departed angel's due date. It has been seven months since J left. I'm thankful that my husband and I processed our closure on the miscarriage in January '13. We have continued to heal but we choose not to forget. To mark this day, we had a short ceremony after breakfast and we'll have another one this evening.

"How very quietly you tiptoed into my world, silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footprints have left upon my heart." rose.gif

- Anon.

So sorry, I just came across this today rose.gifrose.gifrose.gif My deepest condolences and best wishes for you and your family always heart.gif

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Hugs, Calypso. heart.gifheart.gifheart.gif

Si, man. Damp eyes here.

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