K1 the forever wait :(

[JLSBMF 16]

I know - its so hard --

the last 10 days its been the worst - we are both fustrated - short fuse - fighting over nothing.... I feel so guilty when i complain to him or whine about being lonely - i know there is nothing he can do ... and i promise myself everytime Im not going to cry and do the "I cant take this anymore speech"

I have been so blessed to be able to go the 4 times but its never enough - never enough i always want more

and whenever i see couples out having fun or even complaining about their spouse - I want to say - do you know how lucky you are to wake up next each other every morning?? to know at the end of a long hard day your love is waiting at home??

god help us all....

[Andrea&Henry 311]

Yes! Having your mind occupied is the best, for me personally the hardest are the weekends because am home all day. Only people that are going through this know that this is not easy.

I totally understand you...I think that's a part of the price we all have to pay to be with our loveone...for me was really hard not being able to spent our birthdays together, Valentines day, or just a regular weekend together. The hardest part for me was when my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, and not being able to be together, was terrible for both. Thanked God our process only took 7 month (since the day we filed until the day I got to the US)...and the last 3 month went very fast actually.

Once you guys received the NOA2, you perception on time change dramatically...you feel you have no time for anything. The preparation for the interview is very overwhelming hahahaha.

In the end we appreciate the hard time we spent far from each other, and our relationship grew stronger and stable. Everytime we argue or get mad with each other, we always remember the times when we were not able of kissing, or gave a hug....and automatically the argue is over hahahaha.

I see other relationships and we're different...most of the regular relationships don't have to go through this kind of ordeal.

Trust me, once you are together all those hard times will fade away...

[Andrea&Henry 311]

even if you not see it..this time is a bless for you 2. Not being able to do what normal couples do, you only can talk...and this is wayyyy important...that's how yo meet people, talking... take this time to really get know each other, share experiences, ask questions etc...

Edited February 6, 2013 by Andrea&Henry

[VisaDude 4]

For us, I heard from someone who told me they got NOA2 in 3 months. So we were excited on that and 3 months passed, we said ok 4th months surely lol. Then we got it a couple of days before our 6th month date. Be patient, it will come.

[juligas9308 0]

All of these comments have hit the nail on the head. I'm on day 201 and the past two weeks have felt more stressful than before. Call it anxiousness; call it just missing my love. We try to laugh and say, "what would we do without Skype and Whatsapp??!!" lol thank goodness for technology.

Quick question: my NOA1 is July 20, 2012. I thought I could escalate (being past the processing times), but was just told I have to wait another 30 days before i can escalate because they changed the CSC processing dates from "5 months" to now a hard date of "processing July 18, 2012" -- so technically they are saying our petition is not past due, so to speak???

Ohh the insanity!

[Mrs. Childs 11]

and whenever i see couples out having fun or even complaining about their spouse - I want to say - do you know how lucky you are to wake up next each other every morning?? to know at the end of a long hard day your love is waiting at home??

god help us all....

That is true. All I can say is cheer up. Once you are together everything and all you ar going through will be worth the wait!!

I do not know if this can help but the USC can contact a senator or representative and see if they can help to make the process faster. I read it has helped some, its worth trying I guess. In the meantime keep hanging there!! It will come soon!!

[Tigre&Tigresa 11]

I know exactly how you feel... 4 months down for us here too... i hope it's only a couple more, because it really hurts being so far away... like some others have said, keep your mind busy, try different things to focus on and stay strong. I started working out to look good in my wedding dress at some point of this year lol! Vent all you want, we're going through the same, we understand. Hugs

[JLSBMF 16]

All of you are so kind - thank god for the support....

we should be called the "K1 all in the same boat support group'

lol

[JOE & AI 2]

Today is 4 months since recieving our NOA1 - guess I just need to vent.... somedays I get so down in the dumps..just feel so helpless and the distance is really taking its toll... I read about others who have gone thru the process and are finally together and it helps for the moment - but than im back to the wait... our typical conversation is " I miss you " - " I miss you more" - " I love you " - "I love you more"....

Just want him here..... I know I sound like a baby its just so hard being apart...

I should just count my blessings in having this love - this amazing man - the four times I got to travel to Jordan and be with him...

back to work ....

i understand what you feel. i feel the same. its almost 7 months for us waiting for noa2. there are time that we got so stressed. but then my partner still encourage me that soon in right time we will get the noa2. its really hard to be far from someone you love. there are night that im crying before going too bed. but we cant do nothing only wait. i complain many times why the process so low but then it does not help it add stressed tome. as i read to all the comment here i cry. your not alone. we are not alone. its really hard though but then as what the said that people who knows how to wait the reward is amazing. i been in hard times like you. especially now that im sick i want that his beside me but it hards.. waiting make us crazy. but we need to be optimistic. positive always. GOD Is with us. he will give our heart desire...

[JLSBMF 16]

understand what you feel. i feel the same. its almost 7 months for us waiting for noa2. there are time that we got so stressed. but then my partner still encourage me that soon in right time we will get the noa2. its really hard to be far from someone you love. there are night that im crying before going too bed. but we cant do nothing only wait. i complain many times why the process so low but then it does not help it add stressed tome. as i read to all the comment here i cry. your not alone. we are not alone. its really hard though but then as what the said that people who knows how to wait the reward is amazing. i been in hard times like you. especially now that im sick i want that his beside me but it hards.. waiting make us crazy. but we need to be optimistic. positive always. GOD Is with us. he will give our heart desire...

For me - I have zero patience and want everything yesterday - so I know i am tested and really having to learn what it means to have faith and believe that god would not have given me this amazing love only to make me suffer in the end.... I just miss him so much - its like 1/2 of me is missing and I walk around 1/2 a person - I smile - I get dressed up - I go to work and do whats expected of me but deep behind my mask of everything is okay -inside I long for the day there will be no more airport tears - no more see you laters ( We never say goodbye)no more time difference and living with my phone glued to my side at all times....

God is good - and I am so grateful to him and sorry for when im filled with self pity..

[jkedhd 5]

I hope you hear something soon

[Cathi 5,795]

understand what you feel. i feel the same. its almost 7 months for us waiting for noa2. there are time that we got so stressed. but then my partner still encourage me that soon in right time we will get the noa2. its really hard to be far from someone you love. there are night that im crying before going too bed. but we cant do nothing only wait. i complain many times why the process so low but then it does not help it add stressed tome. as i read to all the comment here i cry. your not alone. we are not alone. its really hard though but then as what the said that people who knows how to wait the reward is amazing. i been in hard times like you. especially now that im sick i want that his beside me but it hards.. waiting make us crazy. but we need to be optimistic. positive always. GOD Is with us. he will give our heart desire...

For me - I have zero patience and want everything yesterday - so I know i am tested and really having to learn what it means to have faith and believe that god would not have given me this amazing love only to make me suffer in the end.... I just miss him so much - its like 1/2 of me is missing and I walk around 1/2 a person - I smile - I get dressed up - I go to work and do whats expected of me but deep behind my mask of everything is okay -inside I long for the day there will be no more airport tears - no more see you laters ( We never say goodbye)no more time difference and living with my phone glued to my side at all times....

God is good - and I am so grateful to him and sorry for when im filled with self pity..

I remember those feelings all too well. My husband was my rock also, he was the one who stayed calm and reassured me through the entire process. We had a conversation about this recently. he said he was as upset as I was, but he didn't want to show it for fear of upsetting me even more.I remember going up those stairs in the Amman airport and turning around to see him wave goodbye to me. He would stay at the airport until my flight left, texting me the entire time, begging me to get off the plane and come back, God it was heart wrenching Lets face it, this whole thing, from start to finish is very stressful and sad, but in the end it is worth every tear. My husband has been here for 4 months, he has adjusted very well, and he loves it so much. The only thing he doesn't love is the fact that he has yet to find employment. As we speak he is at his 4th interview this week. Let's pray that he gets one of them, even if it is part time he is dying to work and contribute to the finances. The stress doesn't stop once they arrive, but at least we can go through it together in the same place. I say a prayer for you every night. You have my number, feel free to call any time if you need to vent, I look forward to taking to you again sometime soon.

Edited February 14, 2013 by mimolicious

[JLSBMF 16]

I remember those feelings all too well. My husband was my rock also, he was the one who stayed calm and reassured me through the entire process. We had a conversation about this recently. he said he was as upset as I was, but he didn't want to show it for fear of upsetting me even more.I remember going up those stairs in the Amman airport and turning around to see him wave goodbye to me. He would stay at the airport until my flight left, texting me the entire time, begging me to get off the plane and come back, God it was heart wrenching Lets face it, this whole thing, from start to finish is very stressful and sad, but in the end it is worth every tear. My husband has been here for 4 months, he has adjusted very well, and he loves it so much. The only thing he doesn't love is the fact that he has yet to find employment. As we speak he is at his 4th interview this week. Let's pray that he gets one of them, even if it is part time he is dying to work and contribute to the finances. The stress doesn't stop once they arrive, but at least we can go through it together in the same place. I say a prayer for you every night. You have my number, feel free to call any time if you need to vent, I look forward to taking to you again sometime soon.

I appreciate your prayers and all sharing your expierence - I pray him and I make it thru this. I will keep in touch.

Inshallah he finds work soon - You give me hope there is light at the end of the tunnel.

[kfischm1 18]

I too am getting frustrated and depressed. My NOA1 from CSC is July 26. I can't help but feel enraged when I see people in late August and September getting approved when there are so many in July like myself who haven't received a response or even a RFE. I wouldn't be as frustrated if it seemed that CSC was processing cases, but one or two NOA2s seem to trickle in each week - and often from later file dates. What further enrages me is calling CSC and not getting a straight answer. Talking to the customer service reps I get one response, talking to a Tier 2 gets me a contradictory response. The customer service reps told me that my application is within normal processing time still and that I could not do a service request. They said that they were processing July 18 still (which they have been saying for almost two months now?!? umm what? Sounds like it is a just a script/excuse) When I asked to speak to a Tier 2 representative, I was transferred to one, who said my application was NOT in normal processing time and that if I wanted I could submit a service request online. I told her what the previous person had said, she she said they were wrong. I told her I had heard of people trying to do the service request and not being permitted to go through with it (per other VJ posters with July dates), and she basically laughed at me and said that she had walked several people through the steps that day (though not saying if they were K-1 filers or not). I asked if my application had been "touched" and she said that of course it has been looked at because it is an ongoing process of reviewing the applications. She wouldn't give me a date of when my file was looked at. So after I got off the phone with her I tried to do the service request, and of course the system wouldn't let me, saying that I am still within normal processing time. I just want to know what is going on. Why such a delay? Why can't they give an estimate? Waiting wouldn't be so hard if I knew approximately how much longer I had or when I was going to receive a response! Every time I have called it is always "wait 3 weeks" or "wait a month" and then when I do and call back, it is just "wait another month." I can barely function at work and cry myself to sleep.

[JLSBMF 16]

I too am getting frustrated and depressed. My NOA1 from CSC is July 26. I can't help but feel enraged when I see people in late August and September getting approved when there are so many in July like myself who haven't received a response or even a RFE. I wouldn't be as frustrated if it seemed that CSC was processing cases, but one or two NOA2s seem to trickle in each week - and often from later file dates. What further enrages me is calling CSC and not getting a straight answer. Talking to the customer service reps I get one response, talking to a Tier 2 gets me a contradictory response. The customer service reps told me that my application is within normal processing time still and that I could not do a service request. They said that they were processing July 18 still (which they have been saying for almost two months now?!? umm what? Sounds like it is a just a script/excuse) When I asked to speak to a Tier 2 representative, I was transferred to one, who said my application was NOT in normal processing time and that if I wanted I could submit a service request online. I told her what the previous person had said, she she said they were wrong. I told her I had heard of people trying to do the service request and not being permitted to go through with it (per other VJ posters with July dates), and she basically laughed at me and said that she had walked several people through the steps that day (though not saying if they were K-1 filers or not). I asked if my application had been "touched" and she said that of course it has been looked at because it is an ongoing process of reviewing the applications. She wouldn't give me a date of when my file was looked at. So after I got off the phone with her I tried to do the service request, and of course the system wouldn't let me, saying that I am still within normal processing time. I just want to know what is going on. Why such a delay? Why can't they give an estimate? Waiting wouldn't be so hard if I knew approximately how much longer I had or when I was going to receive a response! Every time I have called it is always "wait 3 weeks" or "wait a month" and then when I do and call back, it is just "wait another month." I can barely function at work and cry myself to sleep.

God bless you - I cant imagine being in that stage - when im still 6 or 7 weeks from what my timeline estimates. This whole situation is making us all over emotional , angry , stressed and over sensitive. I find myself feeling hopeless and wonder what am I doing? Why am I going thru this... than i remember how much i love him , need him and dont want to spend one day without him... and I move forward into the next day.... Just know your not alone ...it will happen for you - for me - us of us in this dam boat.