Questions about Getting Married

[devotedpartners 77]

no idea, but then i don't understand the big poufy dress thing at weddings, or stupid cakes and all that nonsense. weddings and people's preferences for certain things at weddings are nutty, imo.

you hit on a really important thing there, re. some women on this forum throwing out their religious preferences for that of their spouse's at weddings. some people are irreligious, but nominally christian, and don't care one way or another. but that many?

there's a trend on vj mena anyways, from my observation. as a muslim it's not like i'm advocating for muslims to get married to their christian spouses in churches, but i wonder why it's so often my way or the highway for how lots of mena guys want to get married.

As a muslim, i am curious to know where you read about people here being irreligious or nominally christians? my wife is a christian, and i would take it very offensive if you called her irreligious as you know nothing about her and her christian background. I take it as you are not a practicing muslim and pribably most likely pray on during ramadan and skip the rest of the year critizing christians on here. Is this what Islam has tought you? to be sarcastic against others who come here asking for help? I truly hope my wife learns nothing from you here. I dont like what you write here.

[devotedpartners 77]

Thanks for all that information.

If it weren't me in this quest, I'm sure I would also wonder why complicate things. If I continue on the path of discovery, it might be that I spent a ton of time just to find out that we should get married at the courthouse and let it be done. I can live with that. However, if this is important to him, I'll still check it out. After all, putting me on this mission has done a lot for keeping me from sitting around wondering, "Where in the world is my NOA2?" Thank you as well for your thoughs and ideas. It's much appreciated.

good luck, we both wish you much happiness with whatever decision you make. Dont let others discourgae you and its nice you are thinking of your fiance.

[Mithra 1,185]

She wasn't talking about you or Christians, in general. She was talking about SOME posters being irreligious. I am one of those people. Not sure why you're so angry. Not sure why you think it's YOUR place to judge how religious Sandinista is.

As a muslim, i am curious to know where you read about people here being irreligious or nominally christians? my wife is a christian, and i would take it very offensive if you called her irreligious as you know nothing about her and her christian background. I take it as you are not a practicing muslim and pribably most likely pray on during ramadan and skip the rest of the year critizing christians on here. Is this what Islam has tought you? to be sarcastic against others who come here asking for help? I truly hope my wife learns nothing from you here. I dont like what you write here.

[LaL 418]

As a muslim, i am curious to know where you read about people here being irreligious or nominally christians? my wife is a christian, and i would take it very offensive if you called her irreligious as you know nothing about her and her christian background. I take it as you are not a practicing muslim and pribably most likely pray on during ramadan and skip the rest of the year critizing christians on here. Is this what Islam has tought you? to be sarcastic against others who come here asking for help? I truly hope my wife learns nothing from you here. I dont like what you write here.

I am very happily irreligious, no need to be offended for *us* . She didn't call your wife irreligious.

[Mithra 1,185]

So you're not completely butthurt either?

I am very happily irreligious, no need to be offended for *us* . She didn't call your wife irreligious.

[LaL 418]

So you're not completely butthurt either?

No, because I am also, a white american queen.

[devotedpartners 77]

She wasn't talking about you or Christians, in general. She was talking about SOME posters being irreligious. I am one of those people. Not sure why you're so angry. Not sure why you think it's YOUR place to judge how religious Sandinista is.

no one on this forum shows any kind of hostility but her. if she inteded to call you those names then she should apply it to you and not other women who speak here. why would you let someone speak to you like that ?

[devotedpartners 77]

No, because I am also, a white american queen.

is what is a white,american queen if i may ask

[Mithra 1,185]

I am irreligious. It's not a bad thing. It is what it is. I'm not offended in the least. It's not a derogatory term, btw. I don't find her hostile at all. I find her delightful, honest, and very intelligent.

Btw, she wasn't directing that comment towards anyone in particular. There are a few irreligious posters in this forum. Again, it's not derogatory. I can understand why you might think that way since English is not your first language.

no one on this forum shows any kind of hostility but her. if she inteded to call you those names then she should apply it to you and not other women who speak here. why would you let someone speak to you like that ?

[devotedpartners 77]

I am irreligious. It's not a bad thing. It is what it is. I'm not offended in the least. It's not a derogatory term, btw. I don't find her hostile at all. I find her delightful, honest, and very intelligent.

Btw, she wasn't directing that comment towards anyone in particular. There are a few irreligious posters in this forum. Again, it's not derogatory. I can understand why you might think that way since English is not your first language.

can you please explain to me in your words what irreligious means. i see it as someone who does not have a religion or may be atheists, but we know as muslims we cannot marry someone who does not believe in the one true god.

[Mithra 1,185]

Yes, that is what it means. It's not a bad thing for someone who isn't religious. As you know, not everyone from the Middle East is Muslim and not every Muslim follows their religion correctly. That doesn't make them bad people, it's their own choice and only God can judge them for that.

can you please explain to me in your words what irreligious means. i see it as someone who does not have a religion or may be atheists, but we know as muslims we cannot marry someone who does not believe in the one true god.

[LaL 418]

can you please explain to me in your words what irreligious means. i see it as someone who does not have a religion or may be atheists, but we know as muslims we cannot marry someone who does not believe in the one true god.

Some irreligious are atheists, some are not. I am an atheist, and my (Egyptian) husband has absolutely no problems with this. In the end I do not believe there will be any judgement for this.. or well anything, because I do not believe in god. My husband appreciates my perspective.

[Mithra 1,185]

Personally, I can't say that I'm atheist as I do believe in a higher being but I am not Christian or Muslim or Jewish, etc. My husband is Muslim by birth but does not practice. He has no issue with my lack of religion and I have no issue with his.

[Cathi 5,748]

I too come from a strong christian family but they all understand one thing, and that is we all believe in the same God no matter where we attend our christian services, so marrying in a mosque should not be the issue with a christian family unless of course they have issues of you marrying a muslim to begin with.

Two years ago tomorrow,, I married my loving husband at the mosque by an Imam and witnesses. The Imam spoke of marriage in great detail and the importance of marriage. Our marriage is valid, and its also recognized in Morocco due to the fact we were married by a muslim and not the courthouse.

Best of luck...

we were married in a courthouse in Jordan, by a Muslim Imam, many people are married outside a masjid and it is recognized by Islam. In fact most people in his family are married at home,not in a masjid by an Imam.

Yes, that is what it means. It's not a bad thing for someone who isn't religious. As you know, not everyone from the Middle East is Muslim and not every Muslim follows their religion correctly. That doesn't make them bad people, it's their own choice and only God can judge them for that.

[devotedpartners 77]

Yes, that is what it means. It's not a bad thing for someone who isn't religious. As you know, not everyone from the Middle East is Muslim and not every Muslim follows their religion correctly. That doesn't make them bad people, it's their own choice and only God can judge them for that.

yes thank,you. i was overwhelmed when i moved here and found many of the muslims who use to practice islam in there country but moved to america and found a new life of drinking, going to bars and leaving there wife at home. Its been hard to find friends here that honor Islam as I do.

i never asked my wife to get married in a mosque, but her way of thinking was its in gods hands as she says and your god is my god.