VJ Family HEELLLLPPPP!!!!

[KennyJ 10]

Not sure what country you are from but in the US you absolutely CAN NOT add the father's name to the BC unless he is there to show ID and sign the form OR you are married(which neither was possible in my case). So there is no red flag there as it is not possible. And we did agree to the DNA test and thought they were going to give us one after it was suggested and we were told by the fraud unit officer that is what was going to be done, yet the CO just decided to put us in AP and said she wanted to look over the file. Not to mention, even outside of us having a child together we were together a year before that and have evidence of the relationship so this is why I am at a loss.

Now as far as the income requirements, they actually did not even ask for the paper work as the gentleman that took our papers said that they didn't really use it for the K-1 but I gave it to him anyway and I have a co-sponsor that makes well above the poverty limits. I know of others that have went through the Embassy in the DR that told me the same thing, and that is that they did not/were not asked for the affidavit of support info for the k-1. So nope, the income was not the issue or she would have asked for some more evidence or something. But nothing, she asked for nothing. Just that she may call for something at a later time.

Again, it is the not knowing that is hard because I don't know what I can do to help the process along because she didn't say bring this in lieu of this or that. But we are staying positive because she did not say denied.

I am not sure which part of the US you are from but in CA they don't need the dad to be there to put his name on the BC. You can put President Obama's name in there and it still doesn't matter. You didn't get denial which is important. Most likely they will ask you to provide proof of income.

[Boggy1974 124]

And to be honest the CO seemed to be more concerned with how I was financially able to travel back and forth so often not if we had a real relationship. Go figure.

Don't you think this is a legitimate question for the CO to ask? Especially when you're NOT working and your fiance stated he's not the one financing your trips?

I can understand the doubts in the CO's mind, as she can foresee your fiance becoming a potential public charge when he arrives in the United States.

Lastly, a lot of the doubts and suspicion (and frankly the scrutiny the CO subjected you two to) could have been avoided with a bit more due diligence on both of your part - - by spending a bit more time to perfect the spelling of last names, middle names, adding his name to the child's BC ahead of the interview date and what have you. Honestly, I think some of the inconsistencies in your responses at the interview did you in. However, you can recover and get your case approved by rectifying some of the issues mentioned to erase any doubts in the CO's mind. I wish you the very best of luck!

Edited January 24, 2013 by Boggy1974

[reese1 68]

You should be fine. Don't think of any other issue (DNA, affidavit, etc). Just relax and pray.

Thank you, we have and will continue to pray!

[reese1 68]

Don't you think this is a legitimate question for the CO to ask? Especially when you're NOT working and your fiance stated he's not the one financing your trips?

I can understand the doubts in the CO's mind, as she can foresee your fiance becoming a potential public charge when he arrives in the United States.

Lastly, a lot of the doubts and suspicion (and frankly the scrutiny the CO subjected you two to) could have been avoided with a bit more due diligence on both of your part - - by spending a bit more time to perfect the spelling of last names, middle names, adding his name to the child's BC ahead of the interview date and what have you. Honestly, I think some of the inconsistencies in your responses at the interview did you in. However, you can recover and get your case approved by rectifying some of the issues mentioned to erase any doubts in the CO's mind. I wish you the very best of luck!

This is true, we went over everything but the spelling of my last name as I knew he knew my full name and since I have seen him write my first name before I just assumed he knew how to spell my last name too, nor did it even cross my mind or had I read in any of the interviews that he would have to write it down.

I did at least show her the prove that I did apply to have his name added and how long I was told it would take.

All I can hope is that she actually looks through the file sooner than later, so she can see the lease for were we stay in both of our names and the school records for when my son was in school here.

[reese1 68]

I am not sure which part of the US you are from but in CA they don't need the dad to be there to put his name on the BC. You can put President Obama's name in there and it still doesn't matter. You didn't get denial which is important. Most likely they will ask you to provide proof of income.

Yeah, Michigan will not allow you to just at the name to the BC without the father there. Which I totally understand since who ever is listed on the BC is legally responsible for the child. Someone could like you said put President Obama without his knowledge and then go after him for support that would be granted as his name is on the BC.

I am glad about that, there was no denial and I truly believe we will be approved eventually. I guess I just needed to vent, and see what I can do if anything to get through this quicker. And I do appreciate all of the feedback I am getting.

[bigdog 376]

Good Luck, let's see the outcome, wishing you the best.

[YA 1127 6]

so sorry to hear that .. I know you was so excited but don't forget que dios aprieta pero no ahorca ... so just try to calm down and everything will fall in its place.

[lillakatoussa 12]

I am not sure which part of the US you are from but in CA they don't need the dad to be there to put his name on the BC. You can put President Obama's name in there and it still doesn't matter. You didn't get denial which is important. Most likely they will ask you to provide proof of income.

Probably a moot point now but this is not true. I'm in California about to give birth without my fiancé here and I cannot add him as the father without him being physically present or a court order. He has to sign that piece of paper...just sayin'.

[GodsGift225 54]

so sorry to hear that .. I know you was so excited but don't forget que dios aprieta pero no ahorca ... so just try to calm down and everything will fall in its place.

[Boggy1974 124]

This is true, we went over everything but the spelling of my last name as I knew he knew my full name and since I have seen him write my first name before I just assumed he knew how to spell my last name too, nor did it even cross my mind or had I read in any of the interviews that he would have to write it down.

I did at least show her the prove that I did apply to have his name added and how long I was told it would take.

All I can hope is that she actually looks through the file sooner than later, so she can see the lease for were we stay in both of our names and the school records for when my son was in school here.

Yes...I should say that you two handled the CO's excessive scrutiny & interview style well. It's unfortunate you guys have to endure this waiting game, but I'm sure as soon as you take care of those issues you will get approved right away! Goodluck. I'm pulling for you!

[mfranc68 31]

One thing I don't understand , and something that maybe in the back of the CO's mind, you guys live together in the DR, you have a child together, your child even went to school in the DR, you intend to marry.......but you didn't. You file for a finance visa. Why didn't you get married in the DR and file a CR-1 or even a DCF? This might be considered a red flag..........

[GodsGift225 54]

One thing I don't understand , and something that maybe in the back of the CO's mind, you guys live together in the DR, you have a child together, your child even went to school in the DR, you intend to marry.......but you didn't. You file for a finance visa. Why didn't you get married in the DR and file a CR-1 or even a DCF? This might be considered a red flag..........

Technically this will NOT be consider a "RED FLAG" not everyone wants to get married in DR for different reason, secondly NOT everyone knows about DCF and the requirements that need to be meant for DCF, Lastly it is clear that what's on the CO's mind is not the fact that she doesn't have an income because that isn't the issue here, the question came about because of all her traveling, In my opinion there are people who have saving money, unemployment, credits or even family willing to help with some $$ so you can travel, It's clear that its the logic that if I gave birth I add the father to the BC and that is what blew off the CO to send them to fraud unit, So what's really going on in her head is if this is the father and that is his child why isn't his name on it? That right there can be a "red flag" but she explain why he wasn't and also provided the supporting documents to show he was added, BUT that it would take sometime! all states and laws are different.

Its clear that the CO problem isn't the income, But the fact that the childs father is not on the BC and has probably doubts and that why DNA was requested. As for them not even considering asking question of there relationship is not necessary as she had traveled plenty of times, is currently living out there with her kids, and has them in school, so what more proof then that to the CO that the relationship is ongoing?

[Ginet 0]

If it weren't for you guys having a baby together, probably the CO would of denied you for suspicion of the validity of your relationship, due to the name mispelling and the how do you support your family thing. But since you have a baby together, and what better proof of a legitimate relationship is that, the CO puts in to question the paternity of the child. Since the name isn't on the BC then a DNA test will be done. After that approved! My guess

[KennyJ 10]

Yeah, Michigan will not allow you to just at the name to the BC without the father there. Which I totally understand since who ever is listed on the BC is legally responsible for the child. Someone could like you said put President Obama without his knowledge and then go after him for support that would be granted as his name is on the BC.

I am glad about that, there was no denial and I truly believe we will be approved eventually. I guess I just needed to vent, and see what I can do if anything to get through this quicker. And I do appreciate all of the feedback I am getting.

I think we are off topic a little bit . Good luck with your journey.

[Cathi 5,777]

First of all, take a deep breath. I know from experience that being put in AP is a horrible feeling, as my husband was put into AP at his interview(I was there at the interview like you were). The fact is your daughter belongs to both of you, you know it as fact and the DNA test will prove it. When I was interviewed by the CO he also asked how I paid for 4 trips back and forth to Jordan in 8 months, I answered honestly, and he posed the same question to my husband and my husband answered honestly, as well. I have heard of others having to show documentation of how they paid for trips, so be prepared to show that just in case, we were not asked. As soon as they review the DNA test and all of the documentation I am sure you will be fine. My husband had AP for 10 weeks, we were never given a reason for it, but he has been here with me safely and happily since October. Just try to carry on with life as best as you can, for your own sanity. Good luck and keep us updated!!!

Edited January 24, 2013 by mimolicious