Yardies, at home and a farrin'

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

Goodnight, Rhonda. I see you down there.

Goodnight, everyone!

[rhondapayter 0]

So what is this about a pregnancy list? Who else is pregnant or trying to get pregnant?

Do you remember a while back when we came up with a list of who was going to be next to becomce pregnant? I think it wasn't long after Popcorn had her baby and then you found out you were pregnant, and then Julie found out she was.... We were like, there's something in the water Who's next? So the topic recently came up again so I made up another list

WE GOT THE GREEN CARD (WELL ITS CREAM ) IN THE MAIL THIS AFTERNOON WE ARE OFFICIALLY DONE UNTIL FEBRUARY 11, 2008

CONGRATULATIONS No more immigration ####### for awhile. That's the best feeling

but I regret to tell you that the wedding between us is not going to happen...

Joanna, I am so sorry Check your e-mail. I will keep in touch.

[thndrdancr 0]

Bout the pregnancy lists, I can officially be moved down the list, I am NOT preggers!

Oh and congrats to Jamie and Andre on the green card!

And I dont remember if I told Kelly Happy belated birthday, so heres havin happy birthday a couple days late.

[BelwinMills 0]

I'm gonna try to put a pic in..let's see if this works

Okay this pic was taken about 2 months ago...excuse the runny noses...lol

They are so cute and precious.

Jamie and Andre congrats on the green card.. How wonderful not to do paper work a while.

Joanna sorry to hear the news, but it is better to know now than later. i hope your doing okay. Take Care

Myisha(ricardoswife) welcome back. The boys are too cute! We look forward to seeing your new addition in a few months.

We also look forward to the other new additions for: Michael and Julie, babyjules, Kimone and I know I'm missing someone else. (I had only 3 hrs of sleep last night ) Someone please remind me who(m) I'm missing.

Jamie and Andre-CONGRATS!!!

Congrats to all who are steadily progressing along.

How are the wedding plans coming along Tenika and Jax?

Joanna, follow your heart... We luv ya girl

Goodnight.

BTW has anyone heard from Dru(woogietail)?

Hi Michelle? How are you doing?

The wedding plans are working out. We order a big box of paper fans today. Maybe they should cool us off in August. I just hope it doesn't rain. I just can't wait to get the paper work down to apply for the wedding certificate. My second bridal shower is tommorrow. Everything is going great. I am so excited and I just can't wait to live togther:). The wedding planner should be contacting me on how much everything is going to cost. Props to Elizabeth for helpin me out.

Everyone have a goodnight... May your dreams be sweet!

[nannygirl82 0]

Myisha -- Great to hear from you again and glad things are going well with your family.

Hope everyone has had a great day.....as for me and Adrian we went to the Universal Studios theme parks today and now I am very tired and stressed.....but I regret to tell you that the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

I will still check in with all of you, I feel I have made some good friends here.

Joanna

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

[rhondapayter 0]

the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

I am not going to give you ####### for your comments, but I feel like I must reply. First of all, you don't know the whole story. You're not the one marrying this guy and saying "til death do you part". That is HER decision because she has to live with it. I agree with you on some points, I do feel sorry for Adrian. He left his job and his home to come here only to be turned away a few days later. It is a very difficult situation for both people involved. Yes, it would have made things a lot easier if she/they had come to this conclusion earlier on in the process before he quit his job and flew to the U.S. However, life is not always easy. We can just hope that Adrian can get his job back, if that's what he wants, and continue on with his life. And, if he does get his job back, he won't have to pay for a ticket back to Jamaica, because the cruise line he works for will fly him from Florida to wherever they need him to start working.

On a more positive note, the fact that he will be remaining in Florida for awhile may be a good thing. Maybe time apart from each other will give them both a chance to think about things and re-evaluate their relationship and what they both want out of it. Who knows, maybe there will be a change of heart and they will come back together. I belive in fate and if it's meant to be, it will be. For now though, I will give Joanna my support and hope for the best for her AND Adrian.

Edited May 23, 2006 by rhondapayter

[thndrdancr 0]

I kind of feel compelled to reply as well, and I dont even know the whole story.

Actually having you life torn up, then getting $700 bux is a WHOLE heck of a lot more than a lot of people get. Now I know I shouldnt have said that, probably, but I have so many friends that have had people do them wrong, take them for all they worth, etc, and Jo is trying to do right by the guy, even tho her heart is breaking.

I met a guy years ago on a cruise, and I spent SOOOO much time with him ON the cruise, but when we got together in real life, it was a disaster, I ended up in the hospital becuz of it and thought "never again". Sometimes when you actually spend one on one time in everyday life with someone its a real wake up call to some of the things that you just know you cant deal with for the rest of your life. Following your heart and gut is the very BEST thing to do, I kept trying to make it work in that instance, and just about ending up dying becuz of it, altho that was an extreme example. The guy was super attentive, and very sweet on the cruise, but when I visited him on his home island, this particular guy's selfishness was really made very clear to me, which was something that just wasnt evident until I spent 2 weeks with him constantly. Its not that he was abusive, he was just plain darned neglectful and what he wanted came first.

So when I met Lake on the ship...I was like no way, not happening. Then he got a tourist visa, I think he was ONE determined man, and called me from his relatives in New York every nite. We talked about getting together, he even talked marriage after we had talked for a few weeks, and I told him "NO WAY, perhaps, and I MEAN perhaps.... if I spend some time with you to know you better" I was fallin for him on the phone, but still knew thats no indication of how someone can be, they can have anger issues, jealousy issues, they can be selfish, self centered, expect too much, be too needy, or heck, sometimes it just doesnt FEEL right. One should always go with that feeling, or it will never work. If you have lil things that niggle at you when you first get together, then they just get bigger and bigger and worse and worse problems as time goes along. Thats just my experience with men, which is usually a disaster, thats how I made it to 40 without getting married! But the man of my dreams DID come along, so there's hope for everyone!

So, Yea, its rough, but at least she didnt string him along, and trying to make it when she just knew she couldnt in her mind. I think she acted quite admirably given the situation.

Just my lil bit of wisdom for the eve.

[Jamaica to CT 0]

the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

I am not going to give you ####### for your comments, but I feel like I must reply. First of all, you don't know the whole story. You're not the one marrying this guy and saying "til death do you part". That is HER decision because she has to live with it. I agree with you on some points, I do feel sorry for Adrian. He left his job and his home to come here only to be turned away a few days later. It is a very difficult situation for both people involved. Yes, it would have made things a lot easier if she/they had come to this conclusion earlier on in the process before he quit his job and flew to the U.S. However, life is not always easy. We can just hope that Adrian can get his job back, if that's what he wants, and continue on with his life. And, if he does get his job back, he won't have to pay for a ticket back to Jamaica, because the cruise line he works for will fly him from Florida to wherever they need him to start working.

On a more positive note, the fact that he will be remaining in Florida for awhile may be a good thing. Maybe time apart from each other will give them both a chance to think about things and re-evaluate their relationship and what they both want out of it. Who knows, maybe there will be a change of heart and they will come back together. I belive in fate and if it's meant to be, it will be. For now though, I will give Joanna my support and hope for the best for her AND Adrian.

Ditto, excellent repsonse Rhonda.

It should also be noted that Adrian's POE was JFK. He should have been given a stamp to work until the K-1 visa expires.

I wish the best for both of them.

Good morning everyone.

Michele

Edited May 23, 2006 by Jamaica to CT

[Jamaica to CT 0]

the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

I am not going to give you ####### for your comments, but I feel like I must reply. First of all, you don't know the whole story. You're not the one marrying this guy and saying "til death do you part". That is HER decision because she has to live with it. I agree with you on some points, I do feel sorry for Adrian. He left his job and his home to come here only to be turned away a few days later. It is a very difficult situation for both people involved. Yes, it would have made things a lot easier if she/they had come to this conclusion earlier on in the process before he quit his job and flew to the U.S. However, life is not always easy. We can just hope that Adrian can get his job back, if that's what he wants, and continue on with his life. And, if he does get his job back, he won't have to pay for a ticket back to Jamaica, because the cruise line he works for will fly him from Florida to wherever they need him to start working.

On a more positive note, the fact that he will be remaining in Florida for awhile may be a good thing. Maybe time apart from each other will give them both a chance to think about things and re-evaluate their relationship and what they both want out of it. Who knows, maybe there will be a change of heart and they will come back together. I belive in fate and if it's meant to be, it will be. For now though, I will give Joanna my support and hope for the best for her AND Adrian.

Ditto, excellent repsonse Rhonda.

It should also be noted that Adrian's POE was JFK. He should have been given a stamp to work until the K-1 visa expires.

I wish the best for both of them.

Good morning everyone.

Michele

I'm assuming that he still would be able to apply for a S/S#.

[jkb919 0]

Myisha -- Great to hear from you again and glad things are going well with your family.

Hope everyone has had a great day.....as for me and Adrian we went to the Universal Studios theme parks today and now I am very tired and stressed.....but I regret to tell you that the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

I will still check in with all of you, I feel I have made some good friends here.

Joanna

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

Like others have said you really do not have the whole story...and yes I have been trying to deal everyday with what I have done to him....I bought him a plane ticket to Ft Lauderdale and gave him $800.00 YES..and i told him if he needed anything to let me know, I contacted the cruise line about getting his job back and I pray everynight that they will re hire him....This is a very stressfull time for me and I did ALOT of thinking about the whole situation...Yes I could have acted like I was happy and gone through with a marriage that I would regret but i deceded I didnt want to do that and I made a choice to cancel the wedding and him and I talked about where he wanted to go. Yes he is very upset and so am I but there are a lot of factors that made me come to my conclusion (thay you are not aware of)....sometimes we have to take chances in life and this was a chance him and I took and this is what the outcome is.

And if you want to think of me a selfish then fine that is your opinion and the people that know me well, know that I did not do this intentionally.

[Ms Squitto 0]

Myisha -- Great to hear from you again and glad things are going well with your family.

Hope everyone has had a great day.....as for me and Adrian we went to the Universal Studios theme parks today and now I am very tired and stressed.....but I regret to tell you that the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

I will still check in with all of you, I feel I have made some good friends here.

Joanna

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

Interesting POV. While I do think Adrian has been slighted. I don't feel that hurting him was Joanna's intention. I hope for his sake that he's able to get his job on the ship again and move on with his life.

the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

I am not going to give you ####### for your comments, but I feel like I must reply. First of all, you don't know the whole story. You're not the one marrying this guy and saying "til death do you part". That is HER decision because she has to live with it. I agree with you on some points, I do feel sorry for Adrian. He left his job and his home to come here only to be turned away a few days later. It is a very difficult situation for both people involved. Yes, it would have made things a lot easier if she/they had come to this conclusion earlier on in the process before he quit his job and flew to the U.S. However, life is not always easy. We can just hope that Adrian can get his job back, if that's what he wants, and continue on with his life. And, if he does get his job back, he won't have to pay for a ticket back to Jamaica, because the cruise line he works for will fly him from Florida to wherever they need him to start working.

On a more positive note, the fact that he will be remaining in Florida for awhile may be a good thing. Maybe time apart from each other will give them both a chance to think about things and re-evaluate their relationship and what they both want out of it. Who knows, maybe there will be a change of heart and they will come back together. I belive in fate and if it's meant to be, it will be. For now though, I will give Joanna my support and hope for the best for her AND Adrian.

Well said.

Myisha -- Great to hear from you again and glad things are going well with your family.

Hope everyone has had a great day.....as for me and Adrian we went to the Universal Studios theme parks today and now I am very tired and stressed.....but I regret to tell you that the wedding between us is not going to happen...he kept pushing me and pushing me to tell him how I felt (I had told him several times already) till finally I blew up and raised my voice (which I try not to do)...it is over..earlier today I called the cruise line to see if they will rehire him on the ship and they said they would check into it and for him to call back next Monday and talk to a lady about it. As for now he is going to his brother-in-laws house in South Florida,...its a 3 hour drive but I really did not want to have to drive that far with him and then have to drive 3 hours back by myself tomorrow so I got him a plane ticket for tomorrow morning. I told him he has till Augest to stay in the states and he can see if he can get back on the cruise ship for work....I am not as mean as I sound I am going to give him about $700.00 for him to get by.

I am going to loose about $4,000.00 for canceling the wedding but my parents say they would rather me be happy then to regret it in the end.

I will still check in with all of you, I feel I have made some good friends here.

Joanna

all i can say is WOW!!!!i feel real sorry to hear this...poor guy...i mean do you think 700$ is really enough for him??? we all know how expensive it is in the states..and plus he will need to buy a ticket to ja and tickets aren't cheap....poor guy i mean to have your life completly torn up in a matter of days and all you get is a ticket and 700 bucks...how nice...

i know i am going to get a lot of ####### for this...but he is human too...he has feelings too...i'm not saying that going though with the wedding is the best option either but just making someone leave after they have put all of there trust into you and only to get a ooppss sorry my mistake i think is pretty selfish..

Like others have said you really do not have the whole story...and yes I have been trying to deal everyday with what I have done to him....I bought him a plane ticket to Ft Lauderdale and gave him $800.00 YES..and i told him if he needed anything to let me know, I contacted the cruise line about getting his job back and I pray everynight that they will re hire him....This is a very stressfull time for me and I did ALOT of thinking about the whole situation...Yes I could have acted like I was happy and gone through with a marriage that I would regret but i deceded I didnt want to do that and I made a choice to cancel the wedding and him and I talked about where he wanted to go. Yes he is very upset and so am I but there are a lot of factors that made me come to my conclusion (thay you are not aware of)....sometimes we have to take chances in life and this was a chance him and I took and this is what the outcome is.

And if you want to think of me a selfish then fine that is your opinion and the people that know me well, know that I did not do this intentionally.

Good morning Joanna, you don't owe anyone an explanation except for Adrian. I will keep both of you in my prayers. I know this is a difficult time for you both. Deciding to call off the wedding is better than deciding on getting a divorce in my opinion. You did what's best for you. Don't apologize for that!!

____________________________________

Good morning everyone else!!

[Minfay 0]

I feel the need to reply also but I think that Rhonda put it very eloquently. There is nothing more that I can say......except.....

Joanna -- We are all here for you and will not judge what you did because none of us knows what is going on in your life. Just know that we love and support you 100%.

[Ms Squitto 0]

Just checked the USCIS website for an update , let's see if I can make it to 12noon without checking it again

[thndrdancr 0]

Good mornin, all.

Kimone I see ya down there, how are the twins progressing???

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

Just checked the USCIS website for an update , let's see if I can make it to 12noon without checking it again

I don't think you will make it!! (I say this from personal experience )