Yardies, at home and a farrin'

[woogietail 0]

I am here! I agree we need something to chat about...I am literally falling asleep here at work. No big weekend plans...just watching the big game on sunday.

Hey Rhonda how crazy is detroit? I hear its amazing how many people are there.

Well here is a topic I could use everyone's thoughts about. It is a little personal so if you don't want to reply that is fine. I was not raised in a church at all, and became a Christian 2 years ago. So there are some things that I get mixed messages about. One is sex. Is it really a big deal to wait until your wedding night? Or is it just something the older ladies in the church make a big deal of? I do realize there is a need to wait for love, but if you know you are committed to your man does the wedding ring need to be there? I would really appreciate your thoughts and experiences if you are comfortable sharing. This is something I need to figure out before I see Peter again, because I want to know my mind before we face temptation again.

This is really not something that anyone can answer for you. If you allow someone to influence you in a way that's not right for you; based on their own experiences or beliefs then it can have adverse effects and consequences. If you're not sure, wait. But whatever you decide let your conscience be your guide.

Have a good weekend everybody. What's everyones favorite superbowl recipes? Wings? Dips? Other ideas?

I want to try the new cheese dip pizza by Pizza Hut. It looks good.

Oh yea guess what??? I have lost 20 lbs so far. Hip hip horray!!

That's fantastic

[Fishergirl 1]

Well here is a topic I could use everyone's thoughts about. It is a little personal so if you don't want to reply that is fine. I was not raised in a church at all, and became a Christian 2 years ago. So there are some things that I get mixed messages about. One is sex. Is it really a big deal to wait until your wedding night? Or is it just something the older ladies in the church make a big deal of? I do realize there is a need to wait for love, but if you know you are committed to your man does the wedding ring need to be there? I would really appreciate your thoughts and experiences if you are comfortable sharing. This is something I need to figure out before I see Peter again, because I want to know my mind before we face temptation again.

If you're a Christian, the Bible is to be used as your guide and it will answer your questions. The scriptures in this area are quite clear and I'd be more than happy to provide you with some. Once you study, you'll be able to decide what you as a Christian should do in this situation. Send me a PM if you'd like me to send them to you.

All the best,

Lee

[Jamaica to CT 0]

Oh yea guess what??? I have lost 20 lbs so far. Hip hip horray!!

CONGRATULATIONS ANNA!! What an accomplishment

[jkb919 0]

WE GOT NOA2!!!!

WWWWAAAHHHOOO

I am so excieted...Adrian and I had bets...he said we will get it by the end of the week and I said we would get it sometime next week...I guess he won

Edited February 4, 2006 by jkb919

[Shemmy 4]

Good morning.

Congrats on losing 20 poiunds Anna.

And Joanna - Congrats on your NOA@

[jkb919 0]

Oh sorry I was so excieted about the NOA2, that Anna I forgot to congratulate you on your weight loss....

CONGRATS ANNA...that is great....I really need to get on the ball and lose some also...It is so good that you are motivated and doing good with the weight loss....how much are you trying to lose?

[Jamaica to CT 0]

WE GOT NOA2!!!!

WWWWAAAHHHOOO

I am so excieted...Adrian and I had bets...he said we will get it by the end of the week and I said we would get it sometime next week...I guess he won

CONGRATS!

[Jamaica to CT 0]

Well here is a topic I could use everyone's thoughts about. It is a little personal so if you don't want to reply that is fine. I was not raised in a church at all, and became a Christian 2 years ago. So there are some things that I get mixed messages about. One is sex. Is it really a big deal to wait until your wedding night? Or is it just something the older ladies in the church make a big deal of? I do realize there is a need to wait for love, but if you know you are committed to your man does the wedding ring need to be there? I would really appreciate your thoughts and experiences if you are comfortable sharing. This is something I need to figure out before I see Peter again, because I want to know my mind before we face temptation again.

If you're a Christian, the Bible is to be used as your guide and it will answer your questions. The scriptures in this area are quite clear and I'd be more than happy to provide you with some. Once you study, you'll be able to decide what you as a Christian should do in this situation. Send me a PM if you'd like me to send them to you.

All the best,

Lee

Yes, the Bible has clear-cut answers on pre-marital sex and I'm sure that the older church ladies were quick to point them out to you(smile). Don't discount their experiences because they are older; they are usually wiser too. Having said that; even the most Bible trained consciences can go out the window in the heat of the moment. Some suggestions to resist temptation: As silly as it may sound to an adult-find a chaperon if possible; "date" only in public places; keep your physical contact "light"; if you drink, drink in moderation; pray and meditate on the consequences and how it will effect your relationship with God. I'm not going to judge anyones beliefs/devotion and parameters of what's allowed and accepted in their individual places of worship. However, some churchs/places of worship strictly enforce the Bible's teachings- with consequences; and some don't. Another consideration is that some will not allow you to marry inside the church if you engage in pre-marital sex. An informal poll among me and my friends/co-workers that are religious is that of those who waited to have sex after marriage is only one regretted waiting(she married an older man that did not have her "energy level" and was disappointed); the rest felt it was the right desicison for them. Of those who didn't wait-about 60% regretted it; 30% didn't care one way or the other and 10% thought that was the best decision for them. Of those who regretted not waiting- the majority cited the effect on their reltionship with God as the main reason for their regret. Also don't allow any man to talk you or coax you into a situation that you're not comfortable with. If you want to wait until marriage and he loves you as much as he should; then he will wait. One last thing; if for some reason (and I'm not saying it will happen, and I hope it doesn't) the relationship ends and you do it; how will you feel?

Best wishes,

Michele

[Jamaica to CT 0]

Well here is a topic I could use everyone's thoughts about. It is a little personal so if you don't want to reply that is fine. I was not raised in a church at all, and became a Christian 2 years ago. So there are some things that I get mixed messages about. One is sex. Is it really a big deal to wait until your wedding night? Or is it just something the older ladies in the church make a big deal of? I do realize there is a need to wait for love, but if you know you are committed to your man does the wedding ring need to be there? I would really appreciate your thoughts and experiences if you are comfortable sharing. This is something I need to figure out before I see Peter again, because I want to know my mind before we face temptation again.

If you're a Christian, the Bible is to be used as your guide and it will answer your questions. The scriptures in this area are quite clear and I'd be more than happy to provide you with some. Once you study, you'll be able to decide what you as a Christian should do in this situation. Send me a PM if you'd like me to send them to you.

All the best,

Lee

Yes, the Bible has clear-cut answers on pre-marital sex and I'm sure that the older church ladies were quick to point them out to you(smile). Don't discount their experiences because they are older; they are usually wiser too. Having said that; even the most Bible trained consciences can go out the window in the heat of the moment. Some suggestions to resist temptation: As silly as it may sound to an adult-find a chaperon if possible; "date" only in public places; keep your physical contact "light"; if you drink, drink in moderation; pray and meditate on the consequences and how it will effect your relationship with God. I'm not going to judge anyones beliefs/devotion and parameters of what's allowed and accepted in their individual places of worship. However, some churchs/places of worship strictly enforce the Bible's teachings- with consequences; and some don't. Another consideration is that some will not allow you to marry inside the church if you engage in pre-marital sex. An informal poll among me and my friends/co-workers that are religious is that of those who waited to have sex after marriage is only one regretted waiting(she married an older man that did not have her "energy level" and was disappointed); the rest felt it was the right desicison for them. Of those who didn't wait-about 60% regretted it; 30% didn't care one way or the other and 10% thought that was the best decision for them. Of those who regretted not waiting- the majority cited the effect on their reltionship with God as the main reason for their regret. Also don't allow any man to talk you or coax you into a situation that you're not comfortable with. If you want to wait until marriage and he loves you as much as he should; then he will wait. One last thing; if for some reason (and I'm not saying it will happen, and I hope it doesn't) the relationship ends and you do it; how will you feel?

Best wishes,

Michele

In regards to my poll; I should also point out that I live in the Northeast(Connecticut-near New York). Sometimes it's noted that religious values are higher in certain areas, suchas the south-although personally-I don't necessarily agree with it.

Joanna-I see it took about 90 days- I hope the rest is smooth sailing for you!

[jkb919 0]

Well 92 days to be exact....but thanks...I hope the rest of this process is speedy!!

[Fishergirl 1]

WE GOT NOA2!!!!

WWWWAAAHHHOOO

I am so excieted...Adrian and I had bets...he said we will get it by the end of the week and I said we would get it sometime next week...I guess he won

CONGRATS!!! I'm excited for you.

Lee

[Minfay 0]

Anna -- Congratulations!! I KNOW your 20 got sent right down here to the South Side and it all landed on my right hip

Joanna -- YIPEE!!! I knew this was going to be a good week!! Congratulations girl. Now it's on to the wonderful, bright and cheery Kingston Embassy!!!!

[rhondapayter 0]

WE GOT NOA2!!!!

WWWWAAAHHHOOO

I am so excieted...Adrian and I had bets...he said we will get it by the end of the week and I said we would get it sometime next week...I guess he won

CONGRATULATIONS For me that was the hardest part - waiting for the NOA2. The rest of the process goes fast. I'm so happy for you

[nyseness 0]

Oh sorry I was so excieted about the NOA2, that Anna I forgot to congratulate you on your weight loss....

CONGRATS ANNA...that is great....I really need to get on the ball and lose some also...It is so good that you are motivated and doing good with the weight loss....how much are you trying to lose?

Congratulations on the NOA2 Joanna!!! What a wonderful feeling!!!!!! I knew the time was coming seeing the other timelines on the service centers forum. Good luck on the rest of your journey.

As for me, I would like to lose 50 more lbs by the end of the summer. I know it will be hard but I started working out last week so we'll see.

[AnnTaylor 0]

WE GOT NOA2!!!!

WWWWAAAHHHOOO

I am so excieted...Adrian and I had bets...he said we will get it by the end of the week and I said we would get it sometime next week...I guess he won

CONGRATS!

Great news--February is love month.

Oh sorry I was so excieted about the NOA2, that Anna I forgot to congratulate you on your weight loss....

CONGRATS ANNA...that is great....I really need to get on the ball and lose some also...It is so good that you are motivated and doing good with the weight loss....how much are you trying to lose?

Congratulations on the NOA2 Joanna!!! What a wonderful feeling!!!!!! I knew the time was coming seeing the other timelines on the service centers forum. Good luck on the rest of your journey.

As for me, I would like to lose 50 more lbs by the end of the summer. I know it will be hard but I started working out last week so we'll see.

Congrat on the weight loss Anna. How did you do it?