Boredom on long flights

[sarah and hicham 3]

I'd think any Muslim man who hadn't been married wouldn't be worried by the fact that someone said he was a virgin. That's how it's supposed to be until marriage. So it's nothing out of the ordinary.

I don't think that was the point. I think what Sarah was remarking is unusual is a Muslim woman discussing her husband's sexual history or lack thereof in a public forum, not whether or not he should be proud or worried he is a virgin.

Actually if you read above, she asked 1) how he feels that I've revealed that he's a virgin and 2) does he read here.

I answered but now everyone is commenting on whether it was good or bad for me to do so as a "muslim woman".

Did she really want to know how he feels or was it an opening for her to share her own feelings about what I've done. That I guess would be my question.

I don't liek to make assumptions so I asked those questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

[Bosco 1]

I'd think any Muslim man who hadn't been married wouldn't be worried by the fact that someone said he was a virgin. That's how it's supposed to be until marriage. So it's nothing out of the ordinary.

I don't think that was the point. I think what Sarah was remarking is unusual is a Muslim woman discussing her husband's sexual history or lack thereof in a public forum, not whether or not he should be proud or worried he is a virgin.

Actually if you read above, she asked 1) how he feels that I've revealed that he's a virgin and 2) does he read here.

I answered but now everyone is commenting on whether it was good or bad for me to do so as a "muslim woman".

Did she really want to know how he feels or was it an opening for her to share her own feelings about what I've done. That I guess would be my question.

I took asking how he felt you revealed he was a virgin not to being about the fact that he is a virgin but the revelation in itself, but I guess it can be read both ways.

[mybackpages 0]

I'd think any Muslim man who hadn't been married wouldn't be worried by the fact that someone said he was a virgin. That's how it's supposed to be until marriage. So it's nothing out of the ordinary.

I don't think that was the point. I think what Sarah was remarking is unusual is a Muslim woman discussing her husband's sexual history or lack thereof in a public forum, not whether or not he should be proud or worried he is a virgin.

Actually if you read above, she asked 1) how he feels that I've revealed that he's a virgin and 2) does he read here.

I answered but now everyone is commenting on whether it was good or bad for me to do so as a "muslim woman".

Did she really want to know how he feels or was it an opening for her to share her own feelings about what I've done. That I guess would be my question.

I don't liek to make assumptions so I asked those questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

that and Sarah is also very nosey ...like me

[cbd2cai 0]

I think this flight has been long enough and I am happy to land in my own bed for the night!!

Good Night, All!

[doodlebug 3]

I'd think any Muslim man who hadn't been married wouldn't be worried by the fact that someone said he was a virgin. That's how it's supposed to be until marriage. So it's nothing out of the ordinary.

I don't think that was the point. I think what Sarah was remarking is unusual is a Muslim woman discussing her husband's sexual history or lack thereof in a public forum, not whether or not he should be proud or worried he is a virgin.

Actually if you read above, she asked 1) how he feels that I've revealed that he's a virgin and 2) does he read here.

I answered but now everyone is commenting on whether it was good or bad for me to do so as a "muslim woman".

Did she really want to know how he feels or was it an opening for her to share her own feelings about what I've done. That I guess would be my question.

I don't liek to make assumptions so I asked those questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

Well I do appreciate your concern for his feelings.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I'd think any Muslim man who hadn't been married wouldn't be worried by the fact that someone said he was a virgin. That's how it's supposed to be until marriage. So it's nothing out of the ordinary.

I don't think that was the point. I think what Sarah was remarking is unusual is a Muslim woman discussing her husband's sexual history or lack thereof in a public forum, not whether or not he should be proud or worried he is a virgin.

Actually if you read above, she asked 1) how he feels that I've revealed that he's a virgin and 2) does he read here.

I answered but now everyone is commenting on whether it was good or bad for me to do so as a "muslim woman".

Did she really want to know how he feels or was it an opening for her to share her own feelings about what I've done. That I guess would be my question.

I don't liek to make assumptions so I asked those questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

Well I do appreciate your concern for his feelings.

Well I'm just trying to figure out if this is something Muslims are supposed to do or not supposed to do because I have heard both things said on here before. I guess you are on the more open side and have no problem revealing personal or private information about your relationship with your fiance? So do you think it's a no no or it's ok? Have you talked about it with your fiance before?

Edited November 11, 2006 by sarah and hicham

[melly 0]

Maybe we should start a new topic for this?

[sarah and hicham 3]

Maybe we should start a new topic for this?

I think we already have 3 around here somewhere

[mybackpages 0]

Maybe we should start a new topic for this?

I think we already have 3 around here somewhere

Ideas? Anyone?

[doodlebug 3]

Well I'm just trying to figure out if this is something Muslims are supposed to do or not supposed to do because I have heard both things said on here before. I guess you are on the more open side and have no problem revealing personal or private information about your relationship with your fiance? So do you think it's a no no or it's ok? Have you talked about it with your fiance before?

Oh ok. Well I would suggest personally that if you want to learn about what Muslims are supposed to or not supposed to do, going by me is not a good idea at all since I only reverted a few months ago. Plus just trying to learn by people's posts and actions on a message board wouldn't be a good idea either. I would talk to your husband, or go to your local mosque and ask questions there. I assure you that both of those sources would be better equipped with good info than just reading here on VJ. I know when I was first starting out I read "The Idiot's Guide to Islam", and then started reading on islamicboard.com, asking muslim friends for book recommendations, etc. Even after doing all that and reading close to 20 books so far I still have a looooong way to go before ever becoming a "good muslim". It's a process for sure but the best thing for a newbie like me to do is to keep on praying five times/day, reading the Quran, and asking Allah to lead me to the straight path. If I do that every day then insha Allah I should be on my way to good things to come!

There are many christians, buddhists, muslims, jews, etc. that don't always act in the best of ways. I always say that's why God put erasers on pencils. We're all human and no one is without sin but we all just muddle along and try to do our best.

Yes we've talked before and he could really care less what I share on an internet where no one knows us and no one is ever likely to bump into us.

Sorry Melly!!!!!!! I really did like the idea of this thread but I just noticed how HUGE it's become!!! Seems like all the threads here get offtrack at one point or another!!! I can remember starting a thread about spending my honeymoon with my inlaws and somehow it just ballooned out and then got locked!!!!

[sarah and hicham 3]

Well I'm just trying to figure out if this is something Muslims are supposed to do or not supposed to do because I have heard both things said on here before. I guess you are on the more open side and have no problem revealing personal or private information about your relationship with your fiance? So do you think it's a no no or it's ok? Have you talked about it with your fiance before?

Oh ok. Well I would suggest personally that if you want to learn about what Muslims are supposed to or not supposed to do, going by me is not a good idea at all since I only reverted a few months ago. Plus just trying to learn by people's posts and actions on a message board wouldn't be a good idea either. I would talk to your husband, or go to your local mosque and ask questions there. I assure you that both of those sources would be better equipped with good info than just reading here on VJ. I know when I was first starting out I read "The Idiot's Guide to Islam", and then started reading on islamicboard.com, asking muslim friends for book recommendations, etc. Even after doing all that and reading close to 20 books so far I still have a looooong way to go before ever becoming a "good muslim". It's a process for sure but the best thing for a newbie like me to do is to keep on praying five times/day, reading the Quran, and asking Allah to lead me to the straight path. If I do that every day then insha Allah I should be on my way to good things to come!

There are many christians, buddhists, muslims, jews, etc. that don't always act in the best of ways. I always say that's why God put erasers on pencils. We're all human and no one is without sin but we all just muddle along and try to do our best.

Yes we've talked before and he could really care less what I share on an internet where no one knows us and no one is ever likely to bump into us.

Sorry Melly!!!!!!! I really did like the idea of this thread but I just noticed how HUGE it's become!!! Seems like all the threads here get offtrack at one point or another!!! I can remember starting a thread about spending my honeymoon with my inlaws and somehow it just ballooned out and then got locked!!!!

Actually I'm not really interested on searching online. I was hoping to hear opinions from Muslims on VJ I guess. Thanks for the input!

[melly 0]

And I don't mind the thread de-rail. It happens on every board, it's just a part of posting I guess.

Plus, if it's beneficial, than who am I to complain.

I just figured if there was going to be alot of discussion about other stuff, it might be more helpful if people knew about it based on thread title, etc.

[sarah and hicham 3]

One more thing- you said no one "knows" you on here and you won't bump into anyone. Don't be so quick to think that. A lot of people know people through others and you never know who is reading. I wouldn't share personal info online, especially since I don't know anyone in real life. That's an even bigger reason not to share info!

[mybackpages 0]

Well I'm just trying to figure out if this is something Muslims are supposed to do or not supposed to do because I have heard both things said on here before. I guess you are on the more open side and have no problem revealing personal or private information about your relationship with your fiance? So do you think it's a no no or it's ok? Have you talked about it with your fiance before?

Oh ok. Well I would suggest personally that if you want to learn about what Muslims are supposed to or not supposed to do, going by me is not a good idea at all since I only reverted a few months ago. Plus just trying to learn by people's posts and actions on a message board wouldn't be a good idea either. I would talk to your husband, or go to your local mosque and ask questions there. I assure you that both of those sources would be better equipped with good info than just reading here on VJ. I know when I was first starting out I read "The Idiot's Guide to Islam", and then started reading on islamicboard.com, asking muslim friends for book recommendations, etc. Even after doing all that and reading close to 20 books so far I still have a looooong way to go before ever becoming a "good muslim". It's a process for sure but the best thing for a newbie like me to do is to keep on praying five times/day, reading the Quran, and asking Allah to lead me to the straight path. If I do that every day then insha Allah I should be on my way to good things to come!

There are many christians, buddhists, muslims, jews, etc. that don't always act in the best of ways. I always say that's why God put erasers on pencils. We're all human and no one is without sin but we all just muddle along and try to do our best.

Yes we've talked before and he could really care less what I share on an internet where no one knows us and no one is ever likely to bump into us.

Sorry Melly!!!!!!! I really did like the idea of this thread but I just noticed how HUGE it's become!!! Seems like all the threads here get offtrack at one point or another!!! I can remember starting a thread about spending my honeymoon with my inlaws and somehow it just ballooned out and then got locked!!!!

I think its not so much a religious question here- whats a "good" muslim etc... but rather an understandng of the culture. Among ME/NA people, I think there is a sensibility that leans towards keeping private things in the private realm. Americans can be so open and will start telling a stranger on the street the most personal details of their life. ME/NA cultures sees that as very unsual

One more thing- you said no one "knows" you on here and you won't bump into anyone. Don't be so quick to think that. A lot of people know people through others and you never know who is reading. I wouldn't share personal info online, especially since I don't know anyone in real life. That's an even bigger reason not to share info!

right, just try googling yourself sometime and see what comes up. These posts on VJ can appear on a google search if the right words are used. There are people who could find these posts easily with a very little amount of information. For example, I tell people I use a visa forum board...a little digging could easily produce all of my words...which may or may not be viewed in context by an outside person

[jordanianprincess 0]

One more thing- you said no one "knows" you on here and you won't bump into anyone. Don't be so quick to think that. A lot of people know people through others and you never know who is reading. I wouldn't share personal info online, especially since I don't know anyone in real life. That's an even bigger reason not to share info!

Exactly, I stalk Sarah all the time. She is my idol